two people i care is died and how am i going to move on?

Question

my brother died just 6months ago and my sister had killed herself. how am i going to make the pain go away.

Answer 1

You aren't...you just survive it a day at a time and eventually it fades.

Answer 2

Wow, can I relate to this question. Honey, the pain will NEVER go away. My youngest sister was murdered 5 yrs ago, and my older sister took her life a year ago June. That's only the beginning. If I went on, no one would believe the losses I've had. I have tried so incredibly hard to "move" on, but for me, it's been nearly impossible. I wish I could help you say the pain will go away, but, it doesn't. Just keep them in your heart honey, and take one day at a time. Also, if it becomes too hard, seek help, I did. Good luck ~

Answer 3

There are 2 ways you can handle this.
1. Be depressed bc your 2 people have died or
2. Be motivated and willing to live by remembering them.

Everyone feels sad when they lose a loved one, especially 2, and some may deal with problem by feeling depressed. I recommend that you live your life the way your brother and sister would want you to live by feeling happy and in good health. If you need someone to talk to, I suggest you contact a good friend or a conselor...or you could email me at [e-mail].

Answer 4

Trust me it's really hard, but it does get a little easier the more time that passes. I know that you've probably heard that before, but it is true. I didn't believe it when people told me that at first either. Between my 18th and 21st birthday I lost both my parents and had two miscarriages. I believe that losing people you care about is the hardest thing you will ever have to deal with. If you're a religious person pray and ask others to pray for you too. I know that helped me alot. Hopefully this helps.

Answer 5

It is very hard to move on when the people you love most die. It must be a terrible feeling. When the loved ones die they take a part of us with them in thier graves. When our loved one die a part of us also dies.

But death is part of life just as birth is! The dead are physically gone but they live within us for ever. If you see within they are there. You are upset just because they are physically not present.

There are ways of keeping them alive. You can imbibe the best of their qualities with in you. I am sure you love them because they both have some exceptional qualities that make them special people.

You have to be happy that you were part of these wonderful people when they were alive, it s chance of your life time that you got to live with these beautiful people. You happen to be a part of makeing them complete in their lives. Are you not happy that you were chosen to give the best part of your being to them?

They have the best of you too! Your post tells how much they mean to you just as you are to them a lot must have happened between you all. I am sure you must be a good person. There are so many who can benefit from you....You know what love and pain is!

Answer 6

Its tough, I lost 2 of my best friends one died on a Thursday and exactly 7 days later my other friend died..it has been 5 years now and I still drop tears and miss them so..I visit the cemetery often..All I can say is time does heal the pain !

Answer 7

Well, I've worked in hospice as a counselor- there is no way to "make the pain go away". The rule of thumb in grieving someones loss is to feel the way you feel and get lots of support. Contact a local hospice and ask about their bereavement groups, it really helps to share with others and let them share with you. Loss is a part of life, and it makes us grow. Just remember these people that you have loved will always be with you- just look for them in your heart!

Answer 8

TO THOSE I HAVE LOVED, AND TO THOSE WHO HAVE LOVED ME

When I am gone, release me, let me go
I have so many things to see and do.
You must not tie yourself to me with tears,
Be happy we had so many years.

I gave you my love - you can only guess
how much you gave to me in happiness.
I thank you for the love you each have shown
and now it's time I travel on alone.

So grieve for me if grieve you must.
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It's only for a while that we must part
so bless the memories within your heart.

I won't be far away, for life goes on.
So if you need me - call and I will come -
though you can't see or touch me I'll be near.
And if you listen deep within your heart you will hear
all my love around you, soft and clear.

And then when you must com this way alone,
I'll greet you with a smile and welcome you home.

Answer 9

My suggestion is to honor your loved ones by doing something in their name. You could do volunteer work, give a gift of something they would have liked and put a note in it explaining how your keeping their memory alive, A big sister program is good to. Sometimes just planting a tree or a garden helps. I'm sure you can find causes and productive ways to help others and by doing so, it'll help you and keep their memory alive..

Answer 10

you cant take away the pain, feeling the pain is normal because we are humans with emotions.. but instead of nurturing that pain you're feeling why dont you think of the happy things you guys have shared together.. and wherever they are right now for sure they are happy.. dont be afraid to cry and i think you should let yourself cry and grieve and then after that pull yourself together dont try to forget them coz you cant do that as your legs and your arms are part of your body so are your brother and your sister parts of your life.. think of them and think that wherever they are now they are happy and blessed! pray to God to help you to deal with the pain.. it wont take overnight give yourself time to feel all the pain and then move on.. take care of yourself and show your love to those who loves you.. your family still needs you, your friends are counting on you and whatever you're feeling right now, God knows it and He'll heal you on the right time.. there's a lot of people caring for you and you're not alone!! :)

Answer 11

there isn't anything one can do to help you with the pain of a lost loved one.....the pain really doesn't go away,,its just lessens abit but the emptiness you feel will fill again but it does take time..you just remember all the good times and reply on your memories to help you through this..and know that they are always with you in your heart......