My wife and I are hoping to be first time parents soon.
I thought about it and I don't want our child kissing anyone but me, my wife, and future siblings.
Am I weird for not wanting the grandparents kissing the baby on the lips?
My mother has cold sores and I don't want anyone's possible germs on my child.
Plus I feel that they are not in the immediate family, so I don't know where their lips have been.
I don't want my kid thinking its okay to kiss anyone ourside of our household.
How do you tell family members to not kiss your baby on the lips?
How do you feel about people kissing your child on the lips?
2006-08-31 08:13:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i dont like when people like sibilings or cousins kiss each other on the lips i think its gross. i kiss people on the cheek just because. if u want them to stop just try telling them politly.
sorry if this dosnet help.
2006-08-31 08:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by stella 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your family will understand your wishes about not kissing the baby on the lips. However I have a 2 year old and I noticed that if a child wants to give someone a kiss there really is no stopping them. I think kissing family is okay I would be concerned about kissing outside the family. If your mother has cold sores I don't think she would try to kiss the baby when she actually has them. As a person who gets cold sores I know that they can be very painful if you move your lips and cause them to crack or brake.
2006-08-31 08:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell them when they ask to hold the baby not to kiss the baby on the lips. My son had ultra sensitive skin and would get rashes if anyone other than I kissed him. I told people that if they wanted to kiss the baby, that they could kiss the back of his hands.
If I felt as though people were getting too close for my comfort, I would take my baby from them. You are the parents, so you are your child's first line of defense against everything. If you are lenient about people kissing your child, then you will be lenient in other areas regarding how people behave towards you and your children. Just don't let it happen. Babies are very susceptible to germs. If the adult cannot respect your wishes as the parent, then you do not have to allow them to hold or kiss your baby.
2006-08-31 10:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Meesh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. I did not allow anyone to kiss my baby on the lips. There are a few diseases that can be transmitted that way - one of which is Herpes Simplex Type 1 (cold sores). It is estimated that 80 -90% of all adults are positive for this virus. The virus may be transmitted even when ther is no active cold sore present and you shed virus particales one to two days before the outbreak occurs. Kissing on the check or forehead is perfectly acceptable and does not to my knowledge have a risk of transmitting an infectious disease. I simply told people please place your kisses on Daniel's check or forehead - I want to rub them in so they will last forever. There is a small risk of transmitting other infectious diseases like tuberculosis (more from coughing and someone inhaling the particles) and possibly a few others. DO NOT stress out over this issue if someone places a kiss on the lips before you can stop them, just remind them in the future to kiss elsewhere as after the child is over 6 weeks in age the immune system kicks in. May favorite place to kiss is the back of the neck - it is just so warm, cuddly and smells like baby. Hope this helps to settle your mind.
2006-08-31 09:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Melba R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell people that you don't want your kid kissed on the lips. One thing you do need to know is that some people will be offended. Also, are you giong to be following all your kids around constantly so you will always know where their lips have been? I personally would rather teach my kid not to kiss ANYONE on lips and teach them that kissing on the lips is somethig that people do when they are grown ups and love each other. That way nobody gets hurt feelings, your kid is protected against germs, and you can use that as a first sign if someone starts molesting your kid (hate to have to bring that up but in today's society it's something that you really have to teach your kid to know what it is and to let you know if it happens). I personally never kiss anyone on the lips except my fiancee because I always have chapped lips, not matter how much chapstick I use.
2006-08-31 08:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by FlyChicc420 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I guess I've never thought about it. I guess I'm the type that doesn't worry if my family wants to kiss my child, I think most of the time they kiss her on the cheek or forehead though. She's not overly affectionate, so it doesn't happen all the time.
If it really bothers you, just be straightforward and say, please don't kiss the baby on the mouth.
You might want to watch out for people in stores. Sometimes they walk up and tickle a baby's feet or touch them. I had friends who absolutely hated that and would complain for days if someone did it to their baby.
2006-08-31 08:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have a three year old who kisses me & his dad, his 2 grans, 2 grandas, 4 uncles, 3 aunts all the time & hes fine, its naw that we incourage it its just natural for him, he is a affectionette boy. However if you dont feel comfortable with this then you should make your feelings clear from the start just explain about your feeling of germs, & if every1 knows how u feel then u wont have any akward times when your child is here. And i hope you & your wife r pregrant soon & have a wonderful baby & life together, they sure make a diffrence & light up your life.
2006-08-31 08:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by kirsty m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously made me laugh-out-loud! Not at you but I guess I just never thought about it before. I don't think you would be rude to tell them not to kiss him/her on the lips. Maybe just tell them exactly how you feel....that you don't want him/her thinking it's normal to kiss others on the mouth outside your house. It might just be my family but no one has ever kissed my son on the lips or tried...other than my sister and that didn't bother me. I understand but I highly doubt anyone will try. Good Luck!
2006-08-31 08:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who they are. IF they are family or good friends, yes. If an aquaintance I just let them know that we are trying to teach our children for their safety not to kiss people who aren't family. I don't see any problem with grandparents and aunts and uncles kissing the kids. Also, cold sores are not contagious.
If sounds more like you have a phobia.
2006-08-31 08:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You shouldnt kiss your baby on the lips either, you may be his-her parent but you are an adult and have more germs than the baby, and about other people kissing the baby just say dont do it please!
2006-08-31 08:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would definatly feel the same way....for one HERPES, that is so gross and very contagious even if no signs appear, not to mention germs. they are family, but your kids are YOUR kids.
I would just ask them not to kiss on the lips thats not appropriate.
2006-08-31 08:19:32 · answer #11 · answered by francis2u4now 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋