HELP!!! I'm being stalked by this obsessive guy who wont leave me alone, he calls me at work and stops by alot

Question

He doesnt even let me know when he's coming and like i said he calls me live every 5 min at work!!

Answer 1

Call the police, then modify/delete any online profile such as your profile at chalino.com since you included your birthdate, photo, etc. Unfortunately it is way too easy to find people on the Internet.

You seem to freely give too much info online and you really should be more careful, especially if you get a restraining order on this guy, he just might go online to find you.

Personally, if I were you, I would change your username online and not include any location or personal info, there's no reason not to be as safe as possible. And, if he doesn't stop the harassment at work you may consider switching jobs.

Hopefully this guy doesn't know where you live, your home phone number, or what you drive. Stalkers are just about the worst, the only good thing is that you aren't in a relationship with the guy since my bet is he's abusive as well.

Answer 2

The more you avoid him greater will be his obsession fore you. He is curious. He wants to meet you. The way to handle it is to set up a meeting with him not in a lonely place but in a common place like a park or a restaurant. Talk to him nicely and tell him to stop stalking and calling you. you will meet him like friend once in a while. After the second meeting tell him you are about to be engaged and you will invite him. He will then loose interest in you and stop bothering you.

Answer 3

He sounds like he might be unstable... Do you have a relationship with the guy? if you do, you can persue a temporary restraining order legally. If you just want him to stay out of the legal system then you should talk to your HR department at work. They can then ban him from the building and also can press charges for trespassing. Your best bet is to talk to your HR person. Good luck! I have been there!

Answer 4

FIRST of all, had you been dating this guy? If so, does HE know you don't wanna see him anymore? And what are the signals you're giving him when he shows up? The next time he calls maybe you could just be straightforward. If you think he's dangerous in any way though, be careful. Don't insult him, just be honest. Good luck!

Answer 5

I'm sure you've told him to leave you alone, and to stop calling you. Sweetie you need to file a restraining order or call the cops.

Answer 6

I'd call the police, as for your work, if there is security let them know that he is not allowed in the building..if need be get a protection order against him...

Answer 7

I would either confront him and tell him how you feel...if he continues, get a restraining order....I almost had to do that once, but I settled it myself, I told the guy that I did not appreciate what he was doing and that he needed to leave me alone, it worked...sometimes you need to be aggressive

Answer 8

#1 - never give your work numbers out to strangers on the internet
#2 - contact the authorities
#3 - let your employer know what is going on- if that is feasible!
#4 - SEE NUMBER 1

Answer 9

Tell him you like girls LOL nah just be honest and say your a little overbearing and it has totally annoyed me not to hurt your feelings but I need you to stop..like now.
Also tell your buildings security department that he has been making unauthorized visits up to your office..this way they will back you up with evidence if you need to involve the police.

Answer 10

if this guy is nice (besides the obsessive part), then give him a chance. maybe go on a date, or just get to know him.

if hes not your type, or you dont like him, then see if you can block his calls. tell him that you dont like him calling you all the time and that its getting annoying. if he likes you and respects you then, he'll stop. hopefully he'll get the hint.