Im going to be a single parent?

Question

My partner (who dumped me today) Im pregnant He earns approx 30k plus bonues but is threatening to take a job abroad (to with a large firm I think it is to avoid payments) he pays for a large morgage approx £1,000 a month and has no other dependants. I have a flat and Im self employed, what should i do and how do I manage? When do I claim from pregnant or when the baby is born?

Answer 1

you will manage don't think you won't. it might not be easy but a baby doesn't know of or care how much you spend on it. if your relationship ended because of the pregnancy forget him. he's a real loser because he will miss out on the beautiful baby you are carrying. once the baby is born let him do the dna test and i'm sure the results will speak for themselves. then you will be in a better position to demand some financial support. if you're in the uk you can start getting smp from 30 weeks (i believe) and if you claim income support you will also be eligible for a £500 surestart grant. there's also help towards housing costs, council tax, child benefit of £17.50 a week. and if you continue to work even if just part time...working and child tax credits, which are the bulk of our financial support. good luck with the pregnancy and just think how relaxed you can be now you have that tosser out of your life!

Answer 2

Claim from when the child is born, but do your research so you are prepared, ensuring that the CSA are involved so you won't need to have direct contact with him. Don't let the B****** get away from being a father and hit him where it hurts. It doesn't sound like he'll be moving abroad, but if he does, good riddance to him and you can bring up your child your way and still be happy. There's lot of help around, especially if you are not earning over a certain amount. Do claim Child Tax Credit, everyone gets that.

You're well rid of him if he can dump you when you are pregnant, just think of it as a lucky escape and your child won't be raised around him 24/7.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I don't know what the laws are in the UK. In the US they vary from state to state but usually there is a way to begin to claim before the baby is born. I would seek the counsel of the UK's equivalent of a Family Law Attorney immediately. There may be other programs to help you as well. In the US, if a woman is getting help from state run programs they will turn around and go after the father for repayment for those expenses and/or to get him to be paying some child support to the mother. Find out what laws govern paternity and child support right away. There is probably a way to prevent him from being able to slip away and avoid payment.

Answer 4

I believe that even he's moving abroad, he is still liable for child support until the child turns 18. Go to www.edd.ca.gov. (if you live in California) to request a copy of the Paid Medical Leave form. You will not be paid the first seven days. Submit the form 9 days after the baby is born and the government will pay you 55% of your lost income. They will pay up to 6 weeks. You can also file for short-term disability, but you can't file apply for both at the same time. Try applying for low income and see if the government can help you pay for child support: baby formula, other foods and healthcare. It doesn't hurt to try.

NOTE: You need to do more research on the place that you live. it seems like you live in Europe. I don't know the rules and regulation outside of California.

Answer 5

It depends on if he knows you're pregnant. If he knows you're pregnant and is threatening to leave to avoid payments, then you are better off without him. But definitely pursue for child support because your baby is due his/her proper support. He doesn't have to be in your lives but he does deserve to support his child. Just be prepared because he will probably want proof that you're pregnant and a paternity test when your child is born to make sure before he has to pay anything. Do it. Do whatever it takes but don't expect him to play the father role when he's willing to leave you while you're pregnant. Good luck and congratulations--it'll probably be so worth it to you down the road to have this child and raise it up the way you want to with good values and respect for others. You'll do great! Look for support in family and friends and take it one day at a time. Plenty of moms do it everyday--you can too!!! Take care!

Answer 6

I raised my first child until she was 8 alone and in many ways it was easier then after I married. You didn't say if he knows you are pregnant or not he may be a great dad even if you two don't work out. Presume you are going to be solo and plan from now .A roof over your head some money a support network in place is what you need more then anything. Just know it will pass what ever it is, baby blues crying at night , sickness,loneliness what ever it will pass Very good luck to you and when she/he graduates from uni and you are so proud you can say I did that

Answer 7

I understand completly what you are going through I am a single mom myself and it is a hug struggle but the smiles on your babies face are more than worth. If you believe in God pray a lot and go to church. Most churches help single parents. Also as soon as possible no excuses file for child support, don't let his threats about moving or whatever else he comes up with bother you. It takes 2 people to make a baby and hwe needs to become an adult and help out. Also ask your family and friends for support rasing a baby alone is hard but you can do just have faith.

Answer 8

First of all you will be better off without him!!! It's best that he left now if he is not really committed to you and your baby!!! I would take him to court for child support; but if you feel like you can make it on your own then do it. The least you have to communicate with him the better off you will be! Remember that you have resources out there that you can take advantage of to help you along with this process. Get on the computer and find out what resources are available for you and your baby. If I was you I would put your last on the birth certificate also!!!

Answer 9

yes you can claim and don't worry i am a single parent too as soon as my baby's daddy found out that i was preg he left me and i was so scared but i did it and now i get child support and i have full custody and since this will a first time claim on the new baby you get alot back! I am sorry that it happened to you but u are not the only one out there and one day you will find a great guy who will except u being a single parent you can do it and you are a great person and you will be a WONDERFUL MOTHER.. OH AND THE BEST OF ALL CONGRATULATIONS

Answer 10

Make very wise money decisions from this moment on. Even if he comes back and wants to be apart of your life. You have to depend on you and you alone. The baby needs some one who they can count on. SO begin to manage your money now and claim the baby when the baby gets here. I think you have to wait until it's a few months old though, unless you pay for childcare.