My friend is getting divorced from her (rather tasty) husband. How soon can I pounce?

Question

Only thoughtful answers of a kind and considerate nature please, as I am of a deliate disposition.

Answer 1

You're a horrible person...your friend's getting a divorce and all you can think about is wanting to jump her soon-to-be ex? I hope she finds out and kicks your butt. She doesn't need a "friend" like you.

If you didn't want nasty answers, you shouldn't have asked such a dumb, inconsiderate question.

Answer 2

I think that you are out of bounds. If this is truly a friend of yours you would not be having thoughts of "POUNCING" on her man when they are no longer a couple.
Maybe the only reason you considered her a friend in the first place was because of the (as you said) "TASTY" man she has and will soon no longer have.
Get a grip girl you make yourself sound like nothing but a "SAC CHASER" and is that how you really want your friends if you truly have any to view you.
Leave him alone at least do not be the one that initiates a relationship with him as a matter of course you should steer clear of him altogether if she is truly a friend of yours. PUT ON YOUR THINKING CAP and TAKE OFF THE DUNCE CAP. And that is on all that God Loves
Peace and good luck making an intellegent decision.

Answer 3

Hmmph!! Reading all the answers that many have written I believe the general consensus is that you are not touch your friends ex-husband. That is the right thing to do but the true question should be: Am I ready to handle all the s@%t that will accompany the union?

Personally, I would look at it this way: My friend was married to the guy, do I want to clean her 'pot'?

Think about it! No matter how hot he is, he was someone elses property! You start afresh and move on..there are many more fish (and better looking and tasting) in the vast ocean.

So have patience! You will eventually catch a better and fresh fish!

Answer 4

Are there kids involved as that can be really messy think twice otheriwse you could en up being called mummy before you know it. I wouldn't go any where near there if you would like to keep you friend and if you hold any form of respect for the both of them I would let thier pains heal they don't need a knife in their back.

Go out, meet people, get some other friends cause it sounds like you have a very small group of associates at the moment if he is your focus.

Your a very naughty girl with very naughty thoughts please don't become evil and act on them nomatter how tasty the dish may be.

Answer 5

A woman with a delicate disposition would hardly think of POUNCING on a man, even a tasty one. And you might think about the fact that if your friend had found her marriage "tasty", she wouldn't be getting divorced. But you can pounce (delicately of course) as soon as you're ready to lose your friend forever. WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE YOU THINKING!!!!!

Answer 6

I assume what you mean by "pounce" is on her ex?

I would think you should be considerate of your friend's "delicate disposition" rather than your own SEX DRIVE at this point in time.

Apparently you really aren't a friend then. You aren't living by the code, "Bros before Hos".

If you still want this friend you better just get rid of the idea of "pouncing" on her ex, otherwise she won't be your friend anymore.

Looks like you need to do some growing up, and your friend needs to kick you to the curb.

Answer 7

Well if you are a true friend then you wouldn't go there even if they are getting divorced. That is not a nice thing to do to someone that's suppose to be your friend. Look at it this way if your friend was thinking the same thing you're thinking right now how it would effect you. Don't be grimme there are too many other fish in the sea for you to pounce. Good Luck

Answer 8

This seems a bit odd to me- does the fact that they are getting divorced not ring in as some sort of clue? If they couldn't make it work, why would you want to waste your time on him? Not to mention you would probably hurt your (ex) friend.

Also, can you consider yourself a friend if you eventhought of doing that? What about your other girl friends? Won't they all drop you like a bad habit to keep you from going for their guys? Let's face it- if you go for a friends ex and let's say it doesn't work out (because it won't), all your other gal pals will think you might go after their MARRIED husbands.

I would advise not doing it at all, but you could take your newly single friend out for girls night and try to find new guys for both of you.

Delicate disposition my @ss!! What kind of disposition do you think your friend is in??

Answer 9

Forget about your friend for a minute, are you really sure that's a good idea? There's probably a reason they are getting divorced. Marriage isn't for everyone and it takes a lot of hard work. Maybe you don't know all the problems from the marriage. He could be really bad at being a husband. Then talk to your friend and see what went wrong. And if everything is ok, ask your friend about dating her soon to be ex. Dont go behind her back.

Answer 10

You need to ask yourself,is your friendship more important than a man?Your friend will need your support as she goes through this divorce and you wanting to `pounce` on her soon to be ex-husband could cause big problems.If i was in your shoes i would stick to being a friend.Refrain from getting involved with your friends husband.Imagine the roles were reversed,would you like your friend to `pounce` on your husband?...Good luck.

Answer 11

I think if u really do like this man (and we can't always help how we feel, can we?) I think it's best to leave well alone for a year and just enjoy your life and date as usual in the meantime. Divorces are messy and this gives you (and them) enough time to gauge the atmosphere between the 2 of them. If after a year she doesn't mind or care, and he's obviously not wanting to hurt her by all means go for it AFTER talking to her. If there's still tension then I'd leave well alone as your friend's far too important to crap on. U neva know, he might just not be interested anyway so be careful how u tread.