OK, so should I be upset that my bf is going to a college party without me?

Question

OK, before you freak out and say that Im a controlling B****, let me explain why I am a little hesitant. While him and I are in public, he cant keep his eyes off of every girl that walks by him, I swear to you. Its gotten to the point to where even his mom notices it. Secondly, he is going there to get wasted. He has admitted to me before that he gets a little wild when he is drinking and that it always leads to bad things. I have kept him from getting in trouble twice now because I stayed sober. Ahhh....I dont whether to get mad that he is going and that Im not going with or I should just let him go. It bothers me just thinking about it. HELP ME PLEASE!!

OK, for all those that are saying Im a little girl and blah blah blah, Im 21 years old and have went to many college parties. Im just asking how you would react in this situation.

Answer 1

He's MALE learn to live with it!

Answer 2

well most men do like 2 look at the pretty girls, u should have know that b4 u entered a relationship with him. my partner & i have an understanding, if i want 2 look at a guy i do, in fact sometimes if he is so attractive, i will nudge my partner & tell him what i'd like 2 do with him. we just laff & go on. i hope u r able 2 do this 2, now if he has a prob with u site-seeing, then there is a prob. but what is ok 4 one 2 do, should make it ok 4 the other. as long as he is not doing more than looking, u should b ok, after all he is the one that keeps coming home 2 u, right. no one likes 2 b nagged about doin something that just is not hurting anyone.

Answer 3

Take a step back... Is this a long-term relationship, or just for fun? If it's for fun, and you don't think you're going to be with this guy long-term - then it doesn't really matter what party he goes to. Chill and take it easy. If you're thinking long-term - consider this: you see how this guy is; it should be clear by now that he's not going to change his ways just because he's with you. Are you prepared to deal with this for months and years to come? If you are, then it doesn't matter what party he goes to now; you won't be able to accompany him to EVERY party he ever goes to, so might as well come to terms with the way he is. Worrying about it will be very destructive to you in the long run. If his behavior bothers you now, it will only get worse later unless you accept it. My advice - if trust isn't something you're willing to compromise on, go looking for a different boyfriend. There are plenty of honest and responsible guys out there. Good luck!

Answer 4

I guess my first question is are there going to be other girls there? I'm assumming that is why your concerned because there will be. THen my other question is why doesn't he want you to come? I think I would really question your relationship. If he is looking at other woman WHILE with HIS woman I think he has another agenda. It doesn't sound like he is that much in love with you. It truely sounds like he is young and wants to be single. I would be concerned about him going to this party but you can't stop him. Let him go and let him make his own choice's. Maybe if you know someone else that is going but your bf doesn't know them. They can just be your little spy lets say. But from what you say I would probally think the worst. Good luck!

Answer 5

Let the guy have some fun while he's in college. If he really wants to get with another girl, he's going to find some way to do it. You can't control it. Hey, if you let him go and find out something bad happened, dump him and move on. Dont' even sweat it, you'll find somebody else.

Answer 6

it is going to take time. in spite of the shown fact that the minute you halfway evaluate like it, you may going out with friends and investigate to have a basically stunning time. you are going to fulfill new adult men and can regularly have a clean boyfriend until now than too long. It genuine is so lots extra useful to interrupt up now, somewhat of likely getting married and then finally end up divorced. sturdy luck!

Answer 7

Wow what a great relationship. He can't be trusted unless you are around to make sure you can yank on his leash if he starts humping another girl's leg.

You have bigger issues than one college party. Either you need to work on your lack of trust in a decent guy, or you need to find a decent guy who will actually respect you.

Answer 8

you have the right to be upset there's nothing wrong with it you have feelings for him and you care for him and you dont want him to do inappropriate things that will lead into trouble.. but then think about it, does he care about you the way you do to him? or it might be that there's only a one way relationship.. it's hard to admit to yourself that the one you care about doesnt feel the same way as you do.. but you have to keep your eyes open.. coz if he really loves you he'll stick with you, he'll be proud whenever you are around him, he wont do things that will hurt your feelings like looking around gurls when you are with him, is he really worth everything you're doing for him? think about it.. love yourself first coz no one will if you dont love yourself first!! goodluck.. *wink*

Answer 9

No don't be upset, don't stay with him. From you description he will not be with you for very long. I mean if his own mother notices then you have a bigger problem then him going to a party without you.

Answer 10

He sounds like a frat boy...dump him, before you become the psyco bitach he is telling his friends and potential hook-ups you are...if you have to worry about those sorts of things in your relationship, it's not much of a relationship to begin with

Answer 11

honestly, he doesnt look like the best type of guy to be with. if he checks out every girl in front u, tht shud tell u somethign anway. but talk to him about it, and see what he says. dont assume before talkign to him.