I am just curious to see what others think about this. I do NOT agree with it. I think it will make the child less independent, not in life in general. But, what if you had to leave the child at the baby-sitters over night, and they are not used to sleeping on their own?? I also think that it can lead to marital problems, man usually ends up on couch. To me, the marital bed is a place for intimacy and romance, not a child. It is just my opinion, and I wish not to offend anyone who disagrees.
2006-08-31 07:29:58 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My sister started to share a bed with my niece when she was born because she was too lazy. so when she left her daughter with my mom bec. she didnt want to be a mother anymore. Well my niece would not sleep any where else besides with my mom.My mother tried to put her in her own bed but she gets upset. and start making my mom feel bad. I personnaly dont want my child to sleep with me but i will let my baby sleep in my room just so i can make sure i get up enough to feed my child ill do this for about 3 months.
2006-08-31 08:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lori T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I agree with you, sort of. Yes, the bed is not the childs place to be and yes, it can cause marital problems. However, if that is the childs' comfort zone (i.e. with mommy or daddy in there bed), then it is almost perfectly fine.
The best way to handle your scenario is by doing this; don't leave your child overnight at the sitters. If you must leave your child overnight somewhere, and a family member is incapable of taking care of your child, then take some steps to prepare your child for overnight adventures. Pending on the age of the child, you can do many things, such as hosting a little slumber party at your house with just family members (only works when child has cousins).
2006-08-31 07:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by nmk9543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a very sick child and due to exhaustion he ended up in our bed. It was really hard to break the habit. I would not have brought him to the bed if it wasn't for his health, which they say is worse to have in bed, but that was the only way anyone was getting any sleep. He is 13 now and sleeps in his own bed. In some cases, it's almost impossible not to sleep with your child due to lack of sleep for everyone. I don't recommend it, but if I had to go back in time, it would happen again. I worked full-time and so didn't my husband. As for the sexual part, you have to be more creative and find other places in the house! It can happen.
2006-08-31 07:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by flower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 3 year old daughter sleeps in the bed with my husband and I. We have tried like crazy to get her in her own bed, but because of lack of sleep she usually ends up with us at night. She had breathing problems as a baby and we started letting her sleep with us. Thought it would be easy to get her into her own bed once she got older. WRONG!!! If you don't want your baby to sleep with you when they are older, don't start now. It is not an easy habit to break. Hasn't caused any marital problems, my husband has never slept on the couch, and it's pretty easy to be romantic elsewhere in the house. Don't get me wrong though, baby #2 sleeps in his own crib :)!!!!
2006-08-31 08:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by slc7900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before my daughter was born I would have totally agreed with you. But around the time she turned 20 months old, something changed in her life and she started waking in the middle of the night. Try as I might, I can't get her back to sleep in her own bed. My husband says to bring her to our bed because he wants to sleep, and can't do it if she's screaming or I'm reading to her. So she sleeps in our bed at least part of every night. I want her to sleep in her own bed, but right now it isn't working for us. I asked her doctor about it and he said she is probably having nightmares that wake her each night. He said as long as I put her to bed in her own bed each night, I was at least doing part of it right. I have a second baby on the way and I am sure that I won't be bringing her into our bed. I am hoping if she sleeps in her own bed her older sister will see that big girls don't sleep with mommy and daddy.
Until it happens to you it's hard to know exactly how you would handle it. You didn't offend me, though.
2006-08-31 07:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by S. O. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't allow my children to sleep in the bed with me on a daily basis, but once every 6 months I may let them fall asleep in my bed, and then I put them in their own beds. They are all under the age of 5 though. My husband and I barely get enough time together, so I do not want the children crowding or sleeping in the only place in the house that is just for us.
2006-08-31 07:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't like it personally. I think that some kids turn out okay, but the guy normally ends up on the couch which I don't think is good for your relationship. I think you only need two in the bed. Every once in a while for a nightmare maybe. But still once they are asleep, put them back in there room.
I went to camp with this girl once that slept with her mom. We were 12 or something and she couldn't sleep because none of us wanted to sleep close to her.
2006-08-31 07:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by Athena C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think kids should be able to come into the bed when they've had a nightmare, or something, but the child should understand that they have their own bed.
It shouldn't be an all the time thing. They should be used to sleeping in their own bed.
2006-08-31 07:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by MornGloryHM 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well not to be offensive as well. your home is a loving home for you your spouse as well as your child. i love snuggleing my child and he or she crawls in bed with me during the middle of the night then there is a reason that that child needs me. anightmare,
or being scared of a noise. but they are only young once and one day they wont be there at home at all. you might think that the marital bed is for sex and romance. and it is.
but how often do you take the romance to the tub that every body shares are the shower that everybody shares. are romancing while watching a movie on the couch? thats the childrens places too. my children dont often sleep with me but when they do they are more then welcome because there is a reason. sick, scared or something is wrong. sorry if i offened you in any way
2006-08-31 07:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by bondablegreeneyes2000 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My son sleeps with my only during thunderstorms or when the wind is howling at night and he's 2 years old.I will let him sleep in the same bed with me as long as he likes because I feel that it makes him more comfortable,and sometimes he has very bad night mares when its raining and I'm right by his side to wake him up and tell him mommy is here.
2006-08-31 07:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋