What should you doif you have a child that refuses to do homw workin school?

Question

I helped my child with school work. I went out my way to help him.He hides work. I made appointments with teachers.I talked to him about any problems he has.He just doesnt care.He lies but does not still or curse. I want to award him to the state.He has been rewarded,he has a father,he has been punished nothing works.I ve taken out side privelages,games tv, telephonefor 6-8 month at a time no change.I cant afford boot camp.

Answer 1

I guess he knows about consequences. It sounds like your doing all the right things. Maybe seeing a child psychologist would help. Tell him it's family counseling, not just about him. You may be in a power struggle with him. It's important children have choices but they also must accept the consequences for their choices. Don't fight with him just write down the " family rules" if they get a check or bad grad for not doing homework then === they don't watch TV that night. write down all the rules and results so that everyone knows what they are and there's no fussing or fighting about it. Just point to the "rules" It has helped so much in our home with 3 kids.

Answer 2

What do you mean you want to give him to the state? Because he won't do homework? Shame on you!
Hopefully, he will find someone who loves him for his own special gifts, and not as a cookie-cutter kid.
Schools turn out illiterate, bored Walmart shoppers, not leaders or geniuses.
Join the club- Einstein flunked out of school, so did Walt Disney and Will Rogers. All wonderful--huge men who contributed to the world in unique ways.
Have you had him tested for ADD? Free at school.
Have you sent him to a counsellor? Free at school.
Has he anyone at all to tell his troubles to? Free..
Does anyone know why he doesn't care? Free...
Someone needs to make him ACCOUNTABLE for his work.
It is his problem-not yours. Try helping him, encouraging him to be his best, instead of teaming up against him.
Sounds to me like he is lonesome and not being listened to. He may need a physical outlet, like baseball or karate or drumming.
Entice him- you do homework for 3 days, I'll let you take a karate class. You go a whole week, I'll buy you a uniform.
There is something he likes to do that you could use as a carrot.
Spend quiet time with him. Take him fishing--you'll learn a lot when he is relaxed.
My heart goes out to him.

Answer 3

I would suggest talking to the school counselor or psychiatrist (if there is one available). Maybe your son is having more problems at school that are not school related. you have to keep in mind too, that if he has had everything taken away from him, he has nothing to loose any more. There needs to be some kind of communication with you, your son, and a counselor. You may need to find out what he thinks of the school setting in general. He may be tormented by people, even by his friends, which may not give him an outlet for positive thinking as far as homework goes. Any school may be able to help you to get in touch with your child, even if you do not have the funds for something like that. Good luck, and keep yourself positive - it's catchy sometimes! Help him achieve, not just loose privileges... sometimes people need to feel important as well as disciplined.

Answer 4

This is kinda tough. How old is the child? Maybe public humiliation. Here in Texas, we have a judge that makes you stand out with a sign on (in public) stating what you did. Like for instance; if you stole something from a store, he would make stand out in front of the store with a sign that stated, "I stole from this store and now I have to do community service." Maybe that'll work.

Answer 5

Ok we obviously have underlying problems here. First off, it would help knowing how old your kid is. If he's in grade school I'd suggest letting him get held back, made fun of at school, etc. for a year and then make sure he knows darn well it's his fault. If he's in high school I'd suggest trying homeschooling (if he's not being mentally challenged at school or if he's having social problems at school), although I warn you that it's way harder than it sounds.

Answer 6

So if he doesn't do his homework and do well in school, the teacher will hold him back and he willllll hate being made fun of. Tell him you are going to let him decide to tell u when he has homework and when he needs help. He will be deciding his own consequences and maybe realize that school is important...

Answer 7

this is what you do, if you love your child, and he/she doesnt listen to you, its time to have a sit-down with you, your husband, and your child, talk about whats best for him/her in life, and if he/she does not do homework, tell them that homework is just a part of school work that needs to be done, dont let him get away with it. if her never does his homework and grows up like that and doesnt get a good job because he didnt do his hoework, then, talk to him then and say, look, you didnt do your hw and look at what happen in your life, if her decides that he wants to try again, then take him to a college or have him homeschooled, if he doesnt listen for the last time, its time for dicipline

Answer 8

Bribe the hell out of him. Kids love to be manipulated!