It's so scary cause...Im basing my life on it, just cause Im scared of how people will react....
& I already have a son, I even told my family never again...
&& here I am.... Pregnant...
2006-08-31 07:05:36 · 24 answers · asked by haha 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
&& No one in my family really has my support...
Nor have they ever...
I just dont want to go through the emotional stage, that I had when I had my first kid...
So, Now...
Im ever so confused...
&& Im running out of time...
litterally seconds...
2006-08-31 07:26:25 · update #1
I just turned 20 this week...
&
My first baby, is already 2 years...
2006-08-31 07:28:13 · update #2
Abortion is murder, plain and simple.
2006-08-31 07:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by The Mick "7" 7 · 20⤊ 2⤋
Take a good look at your financial situation and if you cannot afford the child, you are left with two just two choices: Abortion or adoption.
If you go with abortion, that is between you and God. No one else can tell you it's wrong. There is a case for adoption, though.
If you decide to carry the baby through term and put it up for adoption, there are people out there who will pay your medical bills and help you through it for a chance to get a nice healthy baby. Start the process soon.
How do you tell your family you're pregnant again? Tell them you screwed up, but you are going to do the right thing for you and your son and the unborn child by giving this one up for adoption. This one will have a chance to live with a family that has more money than you do and your son will not suffer for it.
I knew a family that had five kids already and they made the decision to put the sixth one up for adoption. All medical expenses were paid by the new family and they were satisfied that the sixth child WOULD get to go to college and would get all the advantages that the five they already have might not get. It was not easy to part with the newborn baby, but they did it.
It won't be easy to tell your family, but your mature outlook will definitely make it easier than otherwise. As for the father of your child.... if he didn't bother to marry you, he has no more rights than a blood donor.
2006-08-31 14:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are (are you in high school or over 18), what the situation is with your parents, if you are already the sole caregiver to your first son, etc. Is this new baby going to drastically change your life? It also depends on your morals and ethical values. If you were not pregnant, would your opinion change? Me personally, I would have the baby. I do not believe in abortion because every child is a gift from God and everything happens for a reason. You may not know it now, but that baby could be the best thing that ever happened to you, he/she could be the next pulitzer prize winner!
Next time, if you do not want to get pregnant then use the pill and condoms or don't have sex.
If you decide to have an abortion, let it be because you want to, not because other people (your parents etc.) say you have to. If you do it, you need to stand by your decision because it is final.
2006-08-31 14:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by peachangelmusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Abortion is not the right thing to do.. I know it is hard to tell your family that you will never get pregnant again.....and then to have to tell them that you did.. but... the long term effects from aborting a child far outreaches any feedback you get from your family.. Please I urge you to not get an abortion... talk to your family and if you just can't support this child try to have a family member or someone in your area that would consider adopting the child with the possibility of an open adoption.. where you can still have contact and knowledge of the babies progress... but please consider all options before you decide on abortion... I know to many people that thought they could handle it and just can't emotionally.. most people I know that have had them tend to drink and do drugs to forget the pain of what they have done.. it is not worth the emotional turmoil.. If your family is not supportive I urge you to contact a local church or organization that will help you in your decision making process.. Good Luck... That baby needs a chance and so do you... :)
2006-08-31 14:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by ghill4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Killing your own son or daughter is never the right thing to do. You know that. The baby inside you is depending on you for love and protection. You would never let anyone hurt your born baby, right? Then how can you even think of paying someone to kill your baby's little brother or sister? You are a parent, and that should be your first priority, not what your family thinks of you. You need to stand up and do the right thing and protect your child. If you need some encouragement to be strong, take a look at:
Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org
2006-09-03 19:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are asking a question where you are going to get those for and those against it. Of course, you are going to get the people who believes that abortion is murder and will tell you to keep it. They are, however, the same people who would not take care of the child themselves if it ever came to a point they had to take care of a child who went through all nine months only to be born not to being wanted. And then, you got more overcrowding in a system that boards all unwanted children up until they get to 18.
As for myself, I am a female and I believe in abortions. Why? You know how sad it is to know a 12 year old who is three months pregnant? Not only is her Mom making her keep it, but, is going to have her move out of the house to live with her boyfriend's family (my understanding is, both sides do not want either there). I mean, her mother does not believe in abortion, but, is kicking her pregnant child OUT of the home.
If I were you, do not tell you family. Repeat: DO NOT TELL YOUR FAMILY. Get an abortion, ask for a shot or an implant to inject in your arm so that you won't have this problem again. (I was told that there was a three and five year implant that they can put in you.) Please. Take my advice. You are going to show this baby, if you decide to keep it, that he was a mistake and that is going to show. And you would have no one to blame but yourself for all the pain you two will cause each other.
2006-08-31 14:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether or not it is the right thing to do depends on the person. Is it the right thing for YOU to do in YOUR situation? That is what you should be asking yourself.
It is your personal choice. Just make sure you take preventive measures in the future so that you don't have this happen again. Abortion is not a form of birth control. There is nothing wrong, in my opinion, with abortion. The only person that can judge you is God. Everyone else are just hypocrites.
2006-08-31 14:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by angiesdabomb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as if you don't really know what you should do. When I feel this way I always do a lot of research. You might talk to people who have had one or watch a video about what happens to the child. Become informed so you can make an informed decision and be comfortable with it.
2006-08-31 14:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tetsi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's your choice, your religion.
A lot of women who abort then have emotional problems later on, and if they attend church then they later question if God will forgive them for killing their child.
My view is to prevent pregnancy, and if you can't prevent it (for whatever reason), then have the baby. If you can't afford the child, in a lot of places within a few days of birth you can give the child up by taking the child to the firestation or police station, no questions asked. But then you'll probably search the rest of your life looking for that child and wondering if they are ok, who raised them, do they have what they need, etc.
2006-08-31 14:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one has the right to condemn you but I have to ask?? Why weren't you on birth control? I am not shaming you but that is just not fair to your unborn child because of your careless mistakes. There are so many families out there that desperately want to have children so I think adoption is a much less selfish way to go.
2006-08-31 14:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by keepingthefaith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've made the decision that this is the right thing to do based on what you know then don't let anyone talk you out of it.It sounds like you've already made that decision but you're afraid of what people will think.Are they going to have to live with your decision or you?Think about that.
2006-08-31 14:10:35 · answer #11 · answered by joecseko 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋