i now realize this guy i've been seeing really only want's to be my sex buddy. i say this b/c he has been with me one time and he talks about sex like it's the end of the world. i mean, he calls and wants me to talk dirty to him when i don't see him, which is hardly never. he's admitted that he has a pornographic mind and thinks about sex all day. It's hard for me to complain to him b/c he does take me out to eat, movies, etc. He says he loves my mind. But we only see each other 1x a week and somehow i still feel like he's only spending that time with me to get to the sex. will hurt me if i begin to have feelings for him?
2006-08-31 07:02:34 · 15 answers · asked by precious girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You already know that this guy is not right. His constant talk of sex is not sexy...it's demeaning. You have to feel that you are more than a good piece of @ss if you want him to regard you as more than that. Just because he takes you out doesn't give him the right to treat you like you here only for his sexual gratification. He is taking the fun out of sex for you and that should never be tolerated. Drop that zero and make yourself available for a real hero. Now, you might have to be your own hero but at least you will have your dignity. His preoccupation with sex and the fact that you only see him once a week is a key indicator that you are not the only person that he is sexing. Be careful. He may hurt your feelings and he might hurt your health.
2006-08-31 07:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda been there, done that. I would suggest ending the relationship or knowing its strictly sexual and do not allow yourself to develop feelings for this sex crazed man.......arent all men that way ?
Try this: tell him you cant have sex for a month and see how he reacts. If he is pissed, he clearly sees you for sex only if he is patient and calm, you might wanna give him a chance.
2006-08-31 07:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by honeyinthelexus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know he is only spending time with you to get sex, why are you doing it? He is using you. Yes, you will get hurt if you start to have feelings for him, especially since you KNOW he just wants sex. Seriously think about what you wrote. Please have some self-respect. You deserve better.
2006-08-31 07:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by jordan_30241 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, u will get hurt if u fall for him. Just have the one-night -stand mentality so u will not get hurt. That's what he wanted from you and u were giving it to him. If you think he will change and will be in love with u eventually...Think again.
2006-08-31 07:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If you like sex as much as he does, there should be no problem. But it souns to me like you aren't very comfortable with your sexuality as a woman. Men like sex. Women like it more, but they don't realize it until later. I'm not saying you should give into him. If you are not ready to have sex you are not ready. Do what makes YOU happy.
2006-08-31 07:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by three6ty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie White Chicks...baby, it sounds like your just a BOOTY CALL for him. Have some respect for yourself and find a man who will want to take you out and introduce you to his friends. You desrve better.
2006-08-31 07:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Julie W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you will get hurt...that is all he wants. Move on unless that is what you want a small bump in your road for a relationship.
2006-08-31 07:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out now! He will just end up getting you or someone else pregnant.
2006-08-31 07:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by ms_melissa_martinez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like to me, your only in for the sex also, if not you wouldnt be with him.
2006-08-31 07:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. go ;to him with open arms and spread legs. he will lead you down the right path of holiness. love him and caress him. for he is who the breadwinner be thal shal gotten
2006-08-31 07:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin H 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋