Can a woman deeply in love start treating bad a boyfriend without reaons that makes sense?.?

Question

I am 31, I was in an AWESOME relationship for 6 months, I was trying to keep up with everything, career, school and job, going to bed at 2 am almost all the time. I was dedicating at least 2 days on weekends to spend with my gf. Suddenly her moods started to be strange and treated me bad without me doing anything, always when I wasn't with her.. I tried to find reasons, I couldn't, I saw myself obligated to finish the relationship because I was so unhappy with her moods. 10 days later I was missing her like crazy and her kids, I tried to go back but she was enjoying single life like she hasn't ever enjoyed for not having the chance (nighclubs-girlfriends). Asked for time, I gave her almost 3 months and asked to define things one day, she said it's was over and if in 6 months she is missing me, she will try to contact me. Can a woman deeply in love treat a boyfriend bad without reasons that can make sense?when the guy only tries to build his life?. Should I wait for a call or what?.

While we were in the 3 months trying to rebuild things, she was like walking way behind me, before it was the opposite, she was like in a hurry to settle down. She was in a situation that she was not letting me go, neither try to have me back, it was VERY confusing. To the point I asked, should I forget or what?, she kept saying no "you are not available" I just need time. Then on weekends that she was going to be busy, I ended up knowing she went to have fun with her friends like I didn't care anything, but later she let me approach her and share time with her kids while trying to figure things out. The 3 months were hard for me, not hard for her. If someone asked me if I like her, takes me 2 seconds to reply, not 3 months, so I decided to want a yes or no, it went for a "no, "I told you I need time, it's over". I have no clue why someone that was so deeply in love can act that strange, or if the diets she started were driving her crazy?.

Answer 1

At some point ,the nightlife fun she is enjoying now will wear off,and she will want to settle down again,but you really shouldn't put your life on hold for hers.It could be much longer than 6 months before she gets tired of it,and that's time you've wasted on the CHANCE that she may call you back. By the way,who's watching her kids while she lives it up at the nightclubs? I'm not saying mothers shouldn't have fun. I'm a mother myself,but I certainly don't put my own needs above my children's.And who's to say that she won't want to do this again if she does call you back to her. You should consider all this carefully before you commit yourself to anyone.

Answer 2

She was deeply in love with u at a time but u gave her too much space and time and she began to get lonely she was deprived of compaionionship for those 6 months while you were busy in your own life she probably got to thinking about the future and if you are absent now you will probably be absent then so now she has the single life once again and she don t want you holding her back don t worry about that phone call only way she ll call you back is after her string of lovers prove to be the jackasses they are...and plus she might have a STD after all that partying

Answer 3

Love is just an emotion and emotions change. Do you know her friends? What kind of girls they are? I would say that she either wanted something different or found someone different or her friends might of got her to start doing drugs. That would explain her sudden mood swing. Anyway it sounds like you are trying really hard to improve your life and it would be alot easier on you if you didnt have a steady girlfriend right now anyway. It isnt fair to the girl or to yourself since you dont have much free time. I wouldnt wait for a call from her but if you are concerned about her kids you might find out who her friends are because it sure sounds to me that her sudden change of heart could of been due to a new found friend like meth. which really isnt a friend.

Answer 4

I wouldn't bother with her. She's miss needy. On www.askmen.com, they've listed pretty much a bunch of women you should stay away from and she's that type. Shes' the walking wounded. Something must have happened in her previous relationships that she's reflecting in your relationship. Clearly she wants affection from you. She's hoping that you'll fix all of her problem if you spend time with her. Some women don't understand that a boyfriend isn't the cure to all problems...When her single life was going live and strong you weren't needed but as soon as a couple of her girlfriends are finding men...she's all alone. She "needs" someone .
Don't waste your time with her

Answer 5

she's making it obvious that she enjoys being single. Why wait for someone that is going to treat you like that. Do you really want to wait for someone for 6 months that might treat you like that again and take the chance of having to go through this all over again. I say move on and find someone that is going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. That way you'll spend your time happy instead of just sitting around waiting. She sounds selfish and why take the chance of being unhappy with her again. Move on and don't wait for her!

Answer 6

Sounds like she may have serious issues concerning her past-life... like maybe she thinks she missed out on too much single-life-fun.
If she's deeply determined to carry on a single life, you might be better off by going in a different direction, without her.
She needs to communicate her deepest thoughts/feelings about the subject to you, so you can get on with your life one way or the other.

Answer 7

leave her be...she will figure it out eventually...almost like she is scared it was going so good. Don't call her don't contact her let her do that. If she don't then the reason she started acting that way is cause she probably found someone else and if she did then you don't want that kind of drama in your life.

Answer 8

Naw...keep it movin'......sounds like she wants to do her right about now and anything that u say or do will not matter.....It is alright to build a life and career and also build and establish a friendship with a woman....it just sounds like to chose the wrong one....dont change ure mind about that, just become more selective....

Answer 9

You are being used. Please don't wait for her call. Hooking up with her again will be a big mistake. It will be a vicious cycle of awesome--not too awesome---bad realtionship. Take good care of YOU. She obviously knows how to take care of herself and when she gets tired of having fun..she calls you...do u see a hint of unfairness there?

Answer 10

Stop waisting your time. YOu deserve better.