Ok, I would like to know the best way to tell a guy you love him for the first time. I know, I am 26, I should know this. But I always wait for them, but this time I am tired of waiting. How can I say it so that he does not get freaked out?
2006-08-31 06:53:55 · 24 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Say I love you, if he freaks out, he's not the right guy and not in love with you.
Hint, it's best not to say it within the first 2 months of dating.
2006-08-31 06:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of what Billy Joel says, don't leave a tender moment alone. When the two of you are together and its an intimate time (not just sex, but cuddling on the couch watching a movie, or he's bringing ice cream from the kitchen after dinner, etc) give the big, loving eyes and just tell him you love him.
I don't know it's the idea of somebody loving a man that turns them down a bit - I think it's more the idea of the man having to commit to something that society tells him isn't always the greatest commitment (look at who generally gets the short end in a divorce). Just don't expect him to answer in kind, be ready to be vulnerable, and if he's in for the long haul you'll hear it from him eventually.
2006-08-31 14:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by ab2li 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does this happen all the time ? Before inspite of my cospicuos handsomeness yet I still found it difficult to tell a woman that I love her especially if she's a complete stranger. Maybe I was thinking they should come and get me. This childish thought and fear held me in complete hostage. I missed so many opportunities. Until one day I saw this girl whose beauty is irresistible . We met at a shopping centre. As usual I was just looking her into eyes thinking she will come and grab me. But that never happened. she was just about to leave when I had this sudden impulse to approach her and say what I felt. guess what ? It was so easy though I must admit saying the first hello was really hard. To make it short We both fell in love and although it has ended I'm sure we really enjoyed the experience. I was amzed when she told me one day she was already in love before I even said the first words. There you go. As long as you love him just go ahead and say it. I might find it a bit strange if a lady I meet for the first time just come and say she loves me. I might devalue her. I expect girls to be more diplomatic doing that.
you might just say hello .. how are you ?.. I was standing there when I saw you and I just have the feeling that I will want to know you better. Try it and success is assured.
2006-08-31 14:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by roy2006cute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would need more info on your relationship with this man. One thing you don't want to do is say it after sex (if you two are having sex) for the first time.
Perhaps wait for the end of a date, when he kisses you goodnight, just look shy and down and tell him, "You know, I think I am falling in love with you." See how he reacts, he may tell you the same thing.
Good luck with it.
2006-08-31 14:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not a single way to say and many people will react differently. But just tell the guy that you like him and you will be glad to know him better.
BUT be sure to mention that you are a lady and you expect to be treated so. And, the fact that you asked him out does not mean that you are desperate or he is in for an easy ride.
Remember that the answer can be no or yes, but at least you asked!
I kind of find it flattering when girls ask me out. I wish I was the one you planned to ask out!! joking. I a nutshell keep your dignity and you head up. Go ahead ask him
2006-08-31 13:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to tell him is when you are finished with sex, dinner, or after a wonderful night. Now make sure that you have been together a while, because he may not take you seriously after only a couple of days. Dont play with the L word because its serious and can cause a lot of damage.
2006-08-31 13:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by Solja Boi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say with out knowing the specifics of you and your relationship but you could say something close like, "I think I'm falling in love with you." and see what his reaction is. You know you're kind of saying it but you're kind of not. Still might freak him out though if it's too early.
2006-08-31 13:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rockin' Mel S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First tell him “I think I’m falling in love with you” see how that goes, then if that goes good, tell him you love him in the next 4 days after that
2006-08-31 14:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he does something special for you, says something that has you just love him for who he is, or looks at you in a way that you love.
Not for the first time when you are having sex, best thing to say during sex "woow it's really big and make sexy noises + other rampant stuff". :)
2006-08-31 14:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T do it during sex.
Do it at an intimate time.
If he freaks or acts weird he does not share your feelings.
If that is the case it leads to another question I am sure.
2006-08-31 14:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋