Very recently, I started dating a very nice guy. Well, lately it seems like he has been getting very attached to me. He does things like, calling me over and over again when I don't answer the phone, asking me about my whereabouts & who I was with, and already discussing marriage, AND he's told me he loves me. It's only been a few weeks! I'm getting nervous and wondering if it's not a bit obsessive. My big concern is, we haven't been intimate yet. However, we've talked about it. He's mentioned that he prefers to use the withdrawal method, which I know is unreliable. Also, he keeps asking what I will do if I get pregnant? He asks if I get pregnant, would I stay with the person that got me pregnant? He also says he would want to marry me if I got pregnant...which is honorable of course. He's already told me he knows he wants to be with me 4ever.I don't want to mess up my chances with a great guy, but I am unsure. Does he sound like the type to get a woman pregnant on purpose?
2006-08-31 06:53:03 · 12 answers · asked by Shannon83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl you need to get outta there quick. This is the type of situation where the guy traps you and then starts getting obsessive, posessive and eventually abusive. It happened to my sister and that was so scary for even me. Please don't fall for his fake charm. It will end up badly! If you are concerned about his behavior already then your gut is trying to tell you not to be with him. No NORMAL guy would be telling you he loves you, talking about marriage or trying to get you pregnant after only a few weeks. Trust me on this one!
2006-08-31 07:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by sexy lady 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well we all know that pregnancy is not the only thing you can get from having sex, so you need to insist on a condom until you are in a monogamous relationship regardless of his preference for the withdrawl method, which you are right is very unreliable. Also, it sounds as if you are feeling like he is too attached at this point in the relationship. If you are not comfortable with the way things are going you might be wise to hold off on sex and evaluate your feelings for this man before you become intimate with him.
2006-08-31 07:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by vickyc76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl - with you sounding this unsure and the way you've described him - I would put on my sneakers and run away from this guy - fast! Put an extra secure lock on your door, tell him he's toooooo obsessive, change your phone number and run! Being intimate - forget it - you'll never get rid of him then.
2006-08-31 07:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Topez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it somewhat is not any longer stunning somewhat in spite of if it particularly is to easily save the guy around, yet i understand a woman who married a guy that had instructed her repeatedly that he wanted little ones. yet whilst they have been married he replaced his ideas and instructed her he did no longer pick little ones anymore. This became her 2nd marriage, the 1st ended using fact she wanted little ones and he did no longer, so now that she became already in her 30's somewhat of divorcing back she have been given pregnant on objective. She easily did this two times, comparable marriage comparable father. Now please bear in ideas that she does not have married the guy if he had instructed her from the commencing up that he did no longer pick little ones. additionally she's my mom.
2016-09-30 05:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah! and hes also approaching stalker status....great guy or not demand protection, you've only been together a few weeks...how well do you really know him? keep in mind AIDS and STD's are on the rise in this country. you've got to be careful being a single woman these days.
2006-08-31 07:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Julie W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have always felt that the birth control method should be up to us women, its our bodies. this man sounds like a control freak and is looking to back someone into a corner if this were happening to me id run. theres other men out there who are willing to let you set the pace and not push you into something your not ready for.
2006-08-31 07:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to get to know him alot better before i got intimiate with him, because you dont know how people are, and he may try to get you pregnant, just so you stay with him. Just talk to him and find out alot about him before you take any steps closer in to a relatonship with him!!
2006-08-31 07:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by mom4dafirst time Oct 7thGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say hun but yeah it does. tell him how you feel. if he gets mad at you then hes not the one for you only a real man and one with a true heart would understand how you feel and take things slow. my advice is to tell him and if it will make you feel better about it then have some one with you.
2006-08-31 06:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust him. Definately use our own form of birth control. There are things that you can use other than condoms.
2006-08-31 06:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by tigerlily 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow, yeah that is a little creepy. i say if you are intimate, use a condom...one that you provide, because he could poke a hole in his or something. he sounds a little tricky..idk i'd get rid of him
2006-08-31 06:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by al 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋