Okay, I have a boyfriend who I love more then any thing in this world. When we first started hanging out and getting to know each other, but we were not 'official' just hanging out like friends. Any ways, I ended up sleeping with his best friend. Should we tell him. We think it will ruin my relationship and his friends relationship too.
His friend and I have decided to keep it a secret, since we are both in loving relationships now.Please help....I can't seem to get this guilt out of my head.
2006-08-31 06:51:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Oh hunny, fuhgetaboutit! Seriously, it's old news and the only thing you will accomplish by telling him is hurting his feelings and potentially ended your relationship with him and his relationship with his bro. You shouldn't feel guilty about it but you do, that's the only reason you want to tell him. You feel guilty and want to make yourself feel better by getting it off your chest, that's not fair to him, he doesn't need to know. You may feel really good after telling him but that is probably one of the most selfish things you can do. You didn't cheat on him right??? You guys hadn't discussed being monogomous right??? Leave it alone and carry on with your business. Everytime you start feeling guilty just give your boy a BJ, when he asks what that was for tell him it's because you love and think he's the sexiest thing in the world. Sounds like a win-win situation to me. You give him a BJ and don't feel guilty anymore and he gets a BJ! Perfect!
2006-08-31 07:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by sarahsmiles1222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the shoe on the other foot. Would you want to know if he was copulating with your best friend? Would she still be your best friend? Would you ditch him?
He has the right to know what kind of person you are so he can make an informed decision about whether to stay with you.
If you're not careful, you'll end up on The Maury Show trying to find out which one is the sperm donor that helped create your child.
2006-08-31 14:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by carolewkelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's willing not to tell, I wouldn't either. If it ever comes up, it was before your guys relationship anyway. He has a past too and some things are better left unsaid!
2006-08-31 13:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm happy you have to live with this guilt. you don't love him. if you "loved him more than anything in the world" you wouldn't have slept with his best friend. asshat!
what is that word people use in the ghetto to describe someone who cheats? oh yeah it's hoe.
2006-08-31 14:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by MR. duckduckduckduckgoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi LOve911!!!!
hi buddy.....c 1st of all its all ur fault....how can u sleep wid sum1 else when u do hav a bf.....c i m not here 2 scold u or giv u lectures but i cant even hide ma feelings 2wards u.....c when u hav done a mistake u gotta regret....n now when u feel guilty i think u have realised ur mistake....c i think if u'll hide dis u'll b in a big trouble then dis....i think u should accept de fact n tell him everything....don think abt ur relationship or ur bf's 4nd realationship....when he'll got 2 know de truth 4m sum 1 else then u n ur 4nd[ wid whom u've slept] lives will b in a bigggggggggggggg trouble....so think over it dude...n ya sorry 4 being RudE!!!!!once again sorry......so cumin 2 de point tell him da truth....wats say?????so buddy think over ma sugggestion....tc....sweet dreamz...bye...
*****I m DE beST amONg De rESt...*****
2006-08-31 14:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by $@LLu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well erase it, just forget it even happend, unless there is feelings between you and this guy, cuz then you will have a problem!!! But if you dont then you are good to go! hope i helped ya!!!! take care and good luck in your relationship! :o) *hugs*
2006-08-31 13:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ LEILANI ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow ok so i wouldn't tell him because i am mad at you for sleeping with his best friend then hiding it from him. But if he is understand able he might just hate you slightly iono i can't help sorry
2006-08-31 13:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dum Spiro Spero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant keep a secret forever, `it'll come out eventually...
2006-08-31 13:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by Keepingmycool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find out the true meaning of "love" rather than "sex".
2006-08-31 14:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth and let fate do the rest
2006-08-31 14:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋