My Boyfriend and I have been together off and on for a year. Everyone knows that relationships have their ups and downs and when we're up we are ELEVATING beyond the clouds, but when we're down I feel like we're below the depths of hell and he gets mad at dumb things. For instance, he got angry because he informed me that his ex went to my school and I looked her up on facebook to see what she looked like...He gets mad when I mention his ex-girfriends but I try not to get mad at anything or to argue because it causes friction. We have been through alot of things and we're trying to make it work while i'm in school, but he's not making it easier for me. His hubris aggrivates me at times, he lets his pride override his true feelings. Should I explore my options and see what else is out there while I'm in college? OR stay in the relationship for the sake of love and the fact that he's honest with me and wouldn't cheat? Its hard to find a guy like that nowadays
2006-08-31 06:37:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitly explore your options. Life is too short to stay with someone who doesnt make you as happy as you feel you could be. Your in college, its suppose to be a wonderful experience... Grab your life and take off.
2006-08-31 06:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah true its hard to find a man with character and intergrity but not impossible.....U gotta remember ure worth my sista.....U deserve the best and u shouldnt have to settle.....a relationship requires work from both parties...it cant be one sided and it sounds like it has been....u cant do all the work and neither can he..both parties have to be willing to make it work and do whatever is necessary because of the love that exists.....Also NEVER, EVER LOSE URESELF IN ANY MAN OR IN ANY RELATIONSHIP.....this is extremely easy to do..... for the sake of making him happy.... bump dat...what about ure happiness as well? does that not matter? ofcourse it does and he nees to recognize and realize that.... Honestly, I would sit down and have a talk with him and find out where his head is.....once u do, then and only then will you know if u need to walk or stay and fight....
hope this helps....
2006-08-31 13:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by sincere030170 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty and love is hard to find; but at the same time, its sounds like you are finding it hard to actually enjoy being in this relationship. Sometimes women and men find little things like strength and confidence as a back bone to a relationship, while there is still a lot to be sought after.
If your relationship starts to hurt your life (i.e. school, grades, social, etc.), then you should be open about that with him. If it seems like it doesn't concern him, maybe you should find someone else who would.
2006-08-31 13:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No stay put and dont push too mush cause then you wiil regret it. If hes makeing you happy and hes with u and so far hes doing every thing with you it willget harder on you if you leave him that is if theirs love in the relationship if not then feel free to explore. My best advice is both off you take it slow dont move to fast cause if you do one of you will end up hurt
2006-08-31 13:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Ivelisse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should explore. You can't make something work if the other person doesn't want to. If he thinks nothing is wrong, that's like saying your feelings don't matter.
Talk to him and let him know that his temper and argumentative nature is making it hard for you to enjoy being with him. Let him know that you love him, but hate the way he gets sometimes and that he needs to work on that if things are to work out with you too.
Good luck.
2006-08-31 13:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is like what happened to me this year i was going out with a guy off and on for the year and i got mad at him for stupid things and i regret all of it because we havent gone out since and i really wish we could because i am still crazy for him but i dont know what to do
2006-08-31 13:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understant that love and honesty is hard to find, but why settle for less than perfect? Is less than that what you really want? Don't settle for something that is half and half, look for something that does not make you feel like you are in the depths of hell!
2006-08-31 13:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not about tolerating the other person.
Love is not about how much crap you can put up with.
I think you should date half the universe! You're young, and in college. The whole world is out there. Go see it!
2006-08-31 13:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always leave yourself options in life.
That is where most people go wrong, they give up everythin for the "one".
As the saying goes, 'dont put all your eggs in one basket'.
2006-08-31 13:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving is always a viable option.
2006-08-31 13:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋