How do you live life when you are dying?

Question

How do you cop when you are diagnosed with a terminal illness? Can you really control your emotion and well being by thinking positively?

Answer 1

Angela, be gentle with yourself and eliminate negative thinking. Take daily music breaks,accept what you cannot change, with acceptance comes peace.Do something pure and fun each week and read all that you can about what you are dealing with. If you arm yourself with knowledge, you will have some tools to fight your battle.This would include eating the right foods and knowing your new limitations.

Answer 2

My faith in God plays a big part in my life. I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer a year ago tomorrow and my oncologist basically gave me 2-3 years to live. It doesn't matter what he tells me because I believe God wont let me die until it is my time, regardless what the doctors say. If you believe in God, it has nothing to do with "positive thinking"; only faith in Him. I will tell you this: if you are not a Christian, the more positive you are and BELIEVE, the more well being all around you will have.

Do as much as you can as often as you can. Things you've wanted to do, places you've wanted to go, people you've wanted to see. My husband and I had a disagreement about something a few months back and we just talked and said you know, rather than arguing about these petty things, let's focus on what's really important and not worry about these other things. And we have. It's been great. Try not to get too tangled up in small things and just live life to the fullest that you can every day until it's your time to go ! We should be living life like that anyway, but sometimes it takes something like a terminal illness to get us to change our focus and see what's really important!

God speed to you!

Answer 3

it's the hardest thing to do. when the doc told me i had 6 mo to live, i honestly wanted to knock him out! but the only thing you need to hold onto is hope and faith. you have to enough faith to know that whatever happens, you are in good hands. God will take care of you and your family. Make sure everyone around you is positive too....it's hard, but also very important! i don't think you can really control your emotions when you are terminally ill, i cried every 5 min! but, just keep your head up and think positive. the docs are right.....if you are negative, you will go down hill fast. Attitude has EVERYTHING to do with how you feel! God Bless You!!!

Answer 4

To borrow a song title 'Live Like You Were Dying'. Mend any relationships that need it, open yourself up to possiblities you'd never considered before, finish whatever needs doing and trust in God.You know, none of us get out of this world alive.
I was diagnosed with breast cancer 16 years ago and ovarian cancer last April .My condition is not terminal but , before I knew things would be all right with me, I thought of dying, of leaving behind my family and friends. I vowed to live each day to the fullest. I want my family to remember how I lived and forget how I died.

Answer 5

I watched my mother and my 25 year old husband die. Both of these people can great attitudes always. My mom was a go getter, she never wanted to just sit and wait for death so she went and did things even when she was very ill. She had so many friend that she made after her illness took hold. Everyone she could she made afrien with. She was amazing to see.
My husband was just 25 when he died. He lived 9 months after he was diagnosed with a type of cancer that ususally kills you in 30 days. I was pregnant and he kept this amazing positive attitude that he was going to see his daughter and he did. He lived 4 months after her birth against every doctors word. He always laughed and joked with his friends and family even at his sickest times.
Both of these people knew they were dying yet they did not let one day slip by with out making it their best day and everyone elses best time with them.
You can decide to live your days like they did or you can not -your choice.
Each one of us takes for granted that we have years and years to live but thats not always the case-ANYTHING can take a life in a blink of an eye.
We all need to live our lives gracefully anf gently with laughter and Joy and love above all love.
My 18 year old brother was killed by a druck driver and in a flash he was gone and did,nt have the time like you have to tell all the people in your life how much you love them.He did,nt have the time to show his happiness that they were in his life. He did,nt get another miniute. You still have that miniute take it and live the rest of you life making it count.
I can,t say I know how you feel I,m not you but I could share alittle about some very dear people in my life that went through what you are going through.
I hope you find contentment and joy in you days.
Be positive in knowing you can have joy in your life even when your this sick.

Answer 6

one day at a time, live your life and have fun. Don't dwell on the thought of dying or Cancer or it will get you. Keep your mind busy with other things such as work and other people besides yourself. I am going through Cancer for the third time and only expected to live less than a year. You wouldn't believe how I look or feel.Actually you wouldn't think I even have Cancer. Pray, Pray, Pray and talk with God he really does Listen.

Answer 7

One word: God.

Trust in Him and ask Him for guidance. If you are terminal, do your best to remember Him as many times in a day (or all the time) as possible. With Him by your side you can embrace death, the inevitable.

May God bless you. I will do a prayer for you and for thousands of others like you.

I am not religious but I believe in a Superpower above all our capability. He is the one who can help us.

Answer 8

I don't have personal experience, but I watched my Mother go through it. She woke up every day, taught school, ran her house, cooked meals, did laundry, etc. She got the medical care she needed, like surgery, chemo, radiation. She was diagnosed in '73, died in '91. We got to keep her 18 years. That was a blessing.

Answer 9

Life itself is a sexually transmitted terminal illness, some die sooner, some later.

Answer 10

You can either continue to live or lay down and die. Sure you will feel bad at first, but how many people die suddenly and cannot make the final farewells and plans. Remember, no one dies before thier time.