The guy I'm dating (and intimate with) said while hanging out " You could be The One if you play your cards well". He wasn't joking. I dont quite know how to process that. What made him say that?
2006-08-31 06:19:44 · 26 answers · asked by RedColette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol... that is a rather bizarre statement.... sounds like your auditioning for a job!!!.... I would no doubt laugh it off... but think ... wtf did that mean?..... he is telling you he likes you.....yet putting you on some type of notice... that he is evaluating you for the future.. and putting you in a position of trying to please him while he manipulates you. to do so......weird.. .or he is just trying to tell you that he thinks the relationship could become very serious.. without coming out and saying how he really feels... he may be testing the water - so to speak to see how you respond.. best thing to do is just to ask him what he meant by that...instead of playing word / head games with you , he needs to speak more clearly and honestly.... jeez and they say us women are hard to understand!!!!!!! lol..
2006-08-31 06:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Fortune 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, saying something like that could mean alot fo things. I guess if you became the type of person he was really looking for, you could possibly be the One for him to marry. He also could have meant something sexual. Like if you two continued to have good sex, you could be the One. It's kind of an open ended statement to make. So if he would have said something like that to me, I would have looked him in the eye and seductively said "Oh really, and exactly what do you mean by that?" If you're still curious, call him later and say "Hey I've been thinking about something you said. Remember when you said if I played my cards right, I could be the one? What exactly did you mean by that?" He's inidicating something with the end results being that he could possibly marry you. You should ask him more questions just to clarify what he really meant. Intentional's statement made sense too.
2006-08-31 13:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be alot of things said that. He could be thinking to himself if she does what she gotta do then she will be the one. Or, he can be trying to play you and when I say that it's a manipulation tool to get you to think a certain way. I would say be careful what goes on the next couple of weeks and see how it all goes down. Good luck
2006-08-31 13:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by DLB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's acting like he's a prize and you would be lucky to get him IF you play your cards right. Check that ego at the door. I can't stand arrogant guys...but that's just me. You had better set the record straight by not being too smitten with him because it sounds as if he is comfortable placing himself in a position that is above you. You are the prize and if you don't regard yourself as such, men such as him will always be acting like they are doing you a favor by being with you.
2006-08-31 13:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you don't play cards, and speaking of playing cards, in the bed room he needs to play some better cards, and lose that Ego s*hit!
Don't ever be afraid of losing something that you don't have in the first place!
2006-08-31 13:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his bluff. Tell him you fold and you want to cash in your chips.
Statements like his are an attempt to put himself in control of the relationship. He presents himself as the prize and that you need to win him somehow. What are you to do? Bow before him and praise his glory?!? Beg him to allow you the honor of having him?!? In the end, you will end up spending time and money on him, only to have him walk away, saying "Sorry babe, you were good, but... blah, blah, blah."
He should think of and treat you as his equal. He should be greatful for the love and companionship that you give him.
2006-08-31 13:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Gin Martini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably said it b/c he is messing around on you, because no respectable man I know would say that. You need to say to yourself, "I am the one." You don't need no man to tell you that. Find a better one. Any women in a relationship should not even accept that it is not a game. This is just my opinion
2006-08-31 13:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by snoopie_woodstock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made him say it was the fact that he is an arrogant jerk. You do not have to play YOUR cards right. If he wants you, he will have to play HIS cards right. If he says it again, tell him that. I personally would dump his sorry butt, however, you did not ask about that.
2006-08-31 13:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it means that he sees as the one for him but he s not for sure yet
he s still checking u out for any qualities or turn off
so continue being ur self
act natural dont pressure him
dont ask him any questions about this topic until u guys are real serious
take care n good luck
2006-08-31 13:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to leave this guy alone. Is this the same guy that just broke up with someone? Girl, find you someone that says "I think I love you" or something like that.
2006-08-31 13:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋