I need MAJOR help! boy problem?

Question

OK, here goes. This guy is pretty much like, SERIOUSLY in LOVE with me and I don't like him worth anything! He keeps asking me out and stocks me like heck and I don't know what to do about it! I've always been sweet, care-free and independent, but I want to knock this guy's head off every time I see him. He is ruining my highschool life! Note: I'm homeschooled, so I only see him at my church (thank God!). He totally freaks me out and pushes everything. At first, I thought it would all just ware off of him when I told him I wouldn't go out with him, but it's like I'm the only girl in his life! It makes me sick to my stomach sometimes. I'm dead serious, he'll do ANYTHING to get me to like him! But I never will. HELP!

PRiNCeSS

Answer 1

stock = stalk, for those that are stuck on the third sentence in details.

for the problem at hand. you need to lay down the law. hurt him. mentally AND emotionally. perhaps show him where you buried your last stalker. offer him the last stalker's toe, as a reminder.

he will realize it on his own anyway, but don't try to solve this by having him see you with another guy. that won't do anything. if anything, it will only make him 'try harder'

tell him to knock his crap off. and do it yourself. sending others to do it will make it more of a challenge, and make you more of a prize.
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and Stargatebabe, you rock my socks off! (i've always wanted to use that saying... well, that and "bee's knees")

Answer 2

Princess, I'm divorced and I have the occasional stalker women that falls into infatuation with me so here is what I do..

I usually see that they are infatuated before they approach me and when they are around I speak of my friend that are mostly women.

If I don't see it first and/or she get to me
I let her know that all we could ever be is friends by saying something like. 'Yeah, you're OK as a friend if you can handle that, most of my friends are women."

If I am dating someone that is the next thing I let her know that...

This usually doesn't stop them cause they don't care about my feelings just theirs... ...this us when they tell me how wonderful things would be for me with them... I say something like no thank you and leave.

when I seem unconvinced or unaware of their perfection and approach me again, I tell them no and pay them no other attention

that is when they usually decide that I'm playing hard to get so here they come... that is when I go to my group of friends, some of which were homeschooled BTW, and introduce her!!!!! Remember that's mostly women, ya know what I believe,
"stalker women don't like being in the spotlight."

soon she is gone from this group...

If she speaks to me again it is usually how wonderful thing would be with her and how those women are not good for me...

he's just at your church huh? Do you have lots of friends there?

or
you could just go to another church.
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Answer 3

You could introduce him to other girls, or give him advice on how to ask some other girl out -- he should take the hint eventually.

If he will not leave you alone after you have plainly told him that you are interested in him ONLY as a friend, then you could talk to his parents, your parents, or a Sunday School teacher to ask him to leave you alone (use this as a last resort, because it will probably make him really angry if you get him into trouble -- but if he waont leave you alone, then you have no choice).

Answer 4

Remember Karma...what goes around will surely come back around 7 fold....ure best bet is to take the time to sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk with him....dont be mean but be honest no matter how repulsed u become.....u want to keep in mind that if it were u on the other end, how would u want it to be delivered to you? remember he is human and he does have feelings and emotions....so you want to remember that and act accordingly...

Answer 5

First you should tell your parent's about it. Next you should get a restraining order against him.You also need to let the school principal know about it.. Not to alarm you, but sometimes when some one is the way this guy is with you, they just won't stop.. You need to do something and you need to do it fast!!

Answer 6

Ok Princess, first, its' spelled "stalker".

Next, don't get the police yet, better to have a sit-down with him and tell him honestly and directly why you don't want to go out with him. Think carefully about why you don't and then tell him. Be honest. As a teenage boy(and fairly good looking-lol!) I couldn't understand why a girl that I REALLY liked wouldn't go out with me. WHen I asked her(or them) all she said was "I don't like you that way. I just want to be friends." But that really didn't tell me why. It was very frustrating, especially when she would go out with someone whom I deemed as less desireable than myself. I know, it sounds conceited, but it wasn't. I was in what I thought was Love with her for years and it was very painful. If she had just said, "I like blonde guys" or short guys or guys with lighter skin, that probably would have been enough to make me move on, but she never gave me a reason, and that was the major reason I spent so much time being frustrated about her lack of attraction to me.

When boys are that age they are so confused. They have all of these feelings that are SO OVERWHELMING and they don't know how to handle them yet. The best thing is to just be very honest with him as to WHY. You need to define that for yourself first, and then set up a time to talk with him. Make it someplace public, like going for a burger or something, but no place where his friends would be. Next tell him you understand how he feels and that you don't want to hurt his feelings. Then give him your reasons. Be as kind as possible but tell him in no certain terms that it will never happen. Telling him "we can be friends" is not the way to go, that will just end up in him thinking that MAYBE he can change your mind. Don't be surprised if he's hurt, thats' inevitable.

This is a tough situation, and one that we all go through, I hope I have helped. Handle it like you think an adult would.

If he continues to bother you, tell your parents and have them talk to his parents.

I wish you luck

OH, one thing you might consider. If you know anyone who DOES like him (someone cute not shlubby) tell him about it and offer to set him up. It may not be the best solution, but it might help a little.

Answer 7

Sounds like you need to talk to the youth pastor of the church, maybe they can straighten this out for you. If no youth pastor how about a trusted adult friend. One more thing all boys are afraid of the DAD.

Answer 8

OH MY GOD!! I CAN TOTALLY relate to what you're going through its not even funny!! this guy ruined my high school look too ,,he was a little shy boy and he was OBSSESSED WITH ME TOO! he alwayz told me he loved me and he asked me out about 3 times i kept saying no no no ! he just wouldnt get it!!!! im telling you, i wanted to just smack the living crap out of this guy.. this will only get more interesting hold on! after 2 years of running after me, one day he decided he cant do this anymore although he loved me he had to move on, so he asked out a girl and she said ya and she really liked him.....i never kissed the guy but im telling you the SECOND I SAW HIM KISS THAT GIRL I HAD A HEARTAttack! I WAS STEAMING MAD OF JELOUSY!!! then after 2 weeks my friend had a party and we kissed and this kiss said it all ,,we were sooo in love,,HIS girlfriend saw the hickey(lol)and they broke up.... we went out for 2 years and we broke up 2 months ago cause he said he doesnt want a relationship anymore but i still love him so much and he does too.... see? its KARMA! now i want him sooo bad.... crazy no? advice? he will get sooo annoying ...but just wait,,, i couldnt picture myself with him in a million years but now i love him more than anything....

Answer 9

Have you ever tried to pretend to like him but always be around him and check up on what he is doing try to be the most overprotective girlfried and talk about the future and that you perfect 4 him...and you have to take other his life and be the worst girlfriend you can be....then you wil see he wil get soooooo bored by u dump you and you wont see him again...that normally works if it does not work then i can't help you der. bt try it

Answer 10

He's ruining your high school life, but you're home schooled and you only see him at church? And just why are you too good for him?