I would like to have a boy to carry on the family name, am I being stupid?

Question

I am the last one in the family to carry on the family name.

My grandfather was the only boy of 6 children.

He carried on the family name to his only children: twin boys.

One twin had children who never took his name because they were adopted by another man.

The other twin (my dad) only had one child: me.

So now I am the last of the “Smith” family.

My wife and I would like to have 2 or 3 children.

I would like to have a son to carry on the family name.

It is not extremely important, but I would like our family name to continue.

I know I could have a son who never has children or only has girls and the name will die out, but I would like to try to keep it going!

Is this just stupid of me?

My father died a few years ago, so thats another reason why this is important to me.

Answer 1

well if your last name is Smith I don't think you should worry too much, that name is not going anywhere in a while... not but seriously, I thnk is just normal, guys are cut that way, maybe is something that for a woman is not that important or we don't even understand but for you guys is normal, now... It will be stupid to look down your daugthers in case you don't have any boys... that will be not only stupid but cruel

Answer 2

I like how you said "it is not extremely important" because it isn't, but it is to you somewhat. I don't think you are stupid either, because I want to have children some day and I wouldn't mind having a boy, just carry on my fiance's name. (Which is also Smith). You are entitled to want the family line to continue. Granted you can't control that, so if you get girls. Great! If you have boys. Great, also. But you are not wrong or stupid for feeling this way.

Answer 3

For alot of men who are the last ones that can carry on the family name it is a really inportant thing to have a boy. there is nothing worng with that it is noraml but remember there is always a chance that you wont have a boy i have known people how had 2 or more kids and they where all girls. But its always worth a shot and its always fun...Good luck to you

Answer 4

The final time I met a guy who grew to become into named after his father in that custom, it grew to become into in Kindergarten (im in college now) and that i've got in no way considered it on account that. yet human beings nonetheless use center names to pay homage to family each and all of the time. consistent with danger your spouse will compromise with that. in my view i think of this is greater clever that way, besides. supply the toddler his own identity. Plus the call Fred is slightly dated, no offense.

Answer 5

The question was sufficient. The explanation was a bit tedious. But having it land on the notion of preserving the family name "Smith" was classic!

Well done! Good luck with those who take you seriously.

Answer 6

Instead of worrying about what might be, think about this:

Are you trying to make your wife feel loved or like no more than your breeding cow?

Because that's what you just reduced her to being. And if the breeding cow can't drop a bull calf? Are you going to divorce her and find another?

Answer 7

No, it's not stupid. I think that most men who are family oriented have that desire even though they may not voice it.
Just be prepared to accept that there is a possibility that it may not happen, however, and realize that if not, you're still okay and life still goes on.

Answer 8

No. I think you have it in perspective in that you are open to the idea that it may not happen so wanting it isn't wrong or stupid. I don't think any person wants their family name to be gone forever.

Answer 9

no i think this is normal you are not stupid to want to carry on the family name that is thoughtful and just shows that you loved and cared about your family and thought a lot about them....thought they were good people

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with wanting a son. If you are blessed with all girls, how will you feel? That is the real question.