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I give up. . .there is absolutely no where in Amarillo, TX to meet someone my same age, same interest, beliefs, morals, dreams, and what have you. I have tried church, bars, internet, daycare, groc. store, and God knows what else to just simply find a friend to talk to-get to know-share some romance and passion-build a healthy promising relationship for a change.

And what have I got - a bunch of over grown men still being manpowered with body parts that they should have gained a bit of control over in there teens, or men that aren't just a bit of a white liar - later with some common sense find they wouldn't know the truth if it hit them.

This is hopeless. And, I am learning really fast how to be grateful for what I got with my children and learning how to like and accept being alone for the rest of my God given life.

Anyone know how to find that acceptance and grace of being okay with not even being able to find a friend.

HELP ME, I am dieing here.

2006-08-31 06:09:25 · 19 answers · asked by sillygirl4alaugh 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

19 answers

Honey, stop hunting for a man. It is okay to be by yourself. When you stop looking, and put it in God's hands, he will find you the right person. When you sound so desperate, that is the kind of men you will attract.
I hope that you can find fun things to do with your children, and relax. Like I said put it in God's hands and he will handle it. Love will come along when you least expect it and it will be perfect. I am speaking from experience here.
Good luckkkkkkk

2006-08-31 06:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0 0

It sounds to me like your antennas are bent. Let me explain, you seem to attract men that aren't good for you. It's time to evaluate what you are looking for in a guy right now and modify it so you attract healthy men.

For instance, if you are attracted to powerful and influential A-type dudes but you don't like controlling or forceful guys. Then change your criteria to more mellow, subdued, quiet types. Value the traits in a man that you can be happy with in the long term. Things like loyalty, kindness and selflessness. The right guy will treat you like his best friend and always be mindful of you.

Also, you should dump any guy you catch in even the smallest of white lies. If they can't be honest, then they aren't worth investing your time in.

2006-08-31 06:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by Dan W 2 · 0 0

silly, yeah there is still some out there, but judging from i just read, you, dear are trying way to hard. i say that becuase you are looking. you go to church to find a man, and you should find him, thats god, you go to a bar to find a person and you should find that person, your self......every where you go you should find yourself and quit looking, wrap yourself up in your kids and hobbies learn to love yourself and your life. i was always told and i always tell every one the same advice and most of the time it works like a charm, quit looking and mr right will be there, try it , your cant seem to find him right now but he is there as soon as you let go....... have you ever noticed the most attractive men and women are the ones that are happily married, its becuase they are not looking ( atleast the real men are not and a true lady isnt looking either) good luck silly girl. its time to enjoy your kids and quit looking and he will be there....

2006-08-31 06:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by joe 4 · 0 0

I disagree, I know several. My son and a few of his friends. The funny thing is the seem to scare woman away. Don't woman find a caring, trusting, compassionate man attractive? Older woman tell him they would snatch him up in a heart beat. Younger woman want him as a friend.
For the record he is not a dog. He is an attractive, musician, education major, who can cook....
Oh, I am not trying to fix him him up. Just make a point.

2006-08-31 06:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Trust me you are not alone, it's said there is someone for every one, so its said,
I'm yet to find that someone, and if I did it would most likely be some one like you
on the other side of the cuntry, I might sound negative but no mater how much pain I have to indoor, i will nevr stop looking becous no mater what eny one say's no one wants to grow old alone

2006-08-31 06:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by ibpat38 2 · 0 0

(a) work out what you want....

(b) ask yourself who do I need to be to attract this sort of guy, and put a marketing plan together to generate possible suspects.

(c) be whatever it takes, or reevaluate (a). Don't put youself in league 1 if in your heart of hearts know that you're in league 3 and equally don't settle for league 3 if you're league 1. You won't be happy either way

(d) the rest will take care of itself as long as you take ACTION and stop complaining :)

2006-08-31 06:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0 0

as cliche as this may sound.....there is someone for everyone...it's just a matter of time....maybe you need to learn some life experiences and values before you meet "the one"....or teach someone esle the same thing....don't give up.....good luck

2006-08-31 06:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger 2 · 0 0

It is said good things take forever to come, so try to be happy and wait...and do thngs you like,god will show you.......i have a friend like you kinda...i tried yiming you but no answer...takecare

2006-08-31 06:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

there are good men, i have one.. but you need to surround yourself with good friends & family. god is giving you a break. the right man is just around the corner. he maybe just not be ready yet.. if you dont have any friends, you can always e mail me & we can talk..good luck

2006-08-31 06:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

Friends and family - that is all you need. I understand where you are coming from. I am still married for now....

2006-08-31 06:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

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