If you were to get pregnant and you boyfriend left you, what would you do?

Answer 1

If i felt positive towards the baby - seeing him as my baby, and If i had the possibility to be morally/practically supported by family, friends to take care well of the baby, have the confidence/trust/optimism to get a good future for him and myself as mother alone, i would keep it. But that would not be easy.
If i would see the baby as something strange intruding in my stomach - associated with hate towards someone - knowing from myself i could never love the baby - then i would have to resign to adoption or abortion.
In any case i would seek advise from people that i can trust and that i respect - this can include people you dont know, like family advise / councelors / priests / girls that have had to take that decision before, not to feel alone. There are many in this case, unfortunately.

Answer 2

I would keep the baby and forget about the daddy. There is a lot of help out there for single moms now days to further your education (if needed) with financial support while you are going to school. It's easy to say I wouldn't have gotten pregnant in the first place. But there are moments when it's hard to say NO. It only takes one time to be caught off guard. I feel that every baby on this earth is NOT a mistake. Instead every baby on this earth is here for a purpose and it takes a certain woman's chemistry and certain mans chemistry to make this unique special little person. If the single new mom chooses to put her baby up for adoption this is acceptable. There are many qualified wanna be parents out there just waiting to adopt simply because they can't have a child of their own. Most of these people make very good parents and are so thankful to have a child to love, raise and fulfill their life as well as the baby's.

Answer 3

Look even if you had a husband the responsibility always falls on the woman to take care of the children. If I didn't want to raise a child alone, I would give it up for adoption. I would never have an abortion. After all it was my fault I end up pregnant, not the childs

Answer 4

Obviously this guy was an a$$. Uhm talk to your friends they can always give you ideas. Abortion is one option, but that's illegal in most places and is not recommended by most or accepted by most, i'd say that's a last resort. Talk to you parents if you can, they can always help, even if they seem mad. Finding a boyfriend youc are about and would be willing to stay with you even with a baby in the picture is really something that'd do you good. Also, having the baby as a single parent is an option, but is very ahrd in itself.

Answer 5

You have the baby..of course, take care of them and show them that nothing...including the deadbeat that dropped you will deter the love that you have for them. Then...you kick the guys' *** for leaving you while you are pregnant...after you have the baby, and collect child support from him. OR...you could just use protection with anyone that you know wont have anything to do with you if you got pregnant! In otherwords...wait until you're married!

Answer 6

Be strong!. A child who feels he has been abandoned by his father is more likely to abandon his own offspring. Learn about your rights and protect them for your child's sake. Even if you cannot marry his mother, your child still needs YOU to love and guide him. No one else can take your place. Fathers are of interest to adoption lawyers and agencies - they put special effort into denying fathers' rights so they can get more babies. Do feel confident in getting a paternity test after the baby is born, but don't wait for the paternity test to start protecting your rights and the rights of your child to have his own father.

Some states have Putative Father Registries, however, laws vary from state to state. To avoid the possiblity that a father might take responsibility for his own child, agencies sometimes transport mothers to another state to give birth or put a notice in a newspaper that is nowhere near a father's home town. So take the time to learn how to protect your rights and in addition, learn how you can nurture your child. To show your interest and intentions in advance you may be required by law to provide in some way for your child - by supporting your child's mother or buying a carseat, a stroller and some other baby items. And look up the laws for your state regarding paternity and putative father registry. (It's best to retain a lawyer, because some states try to avoid dads and get more babies for adoption Customers by providing bad links to on-line putative father's registy forms.)

Answer 7

I would have a baby. Of course I am 35 years old and prepared to be a parent again if I had to. You however do not want to bring a child into the world if you aren't prepared to parent it.

Adoption is a wonderful alternative and gives the child a loving home and bright future.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

I would seek my family and friends support, and just continue with the pregnacy. Hopefully you can manage financially, start buying baby stuff etc. on sale, work extra jobs if you are just pregnant, because as the pregnancy progresses you may not be able to.Pay special attention to your health, try to eat right.

Its gonna hurt but the one thing I would not do is beg him to stick around.

Best of luck to you and your child.

Answer 9

If I was past the first trimester, I would give birth to my child, take out child support on the deadbeat, work and support my child and move on with my life. It would be his loss.
If I had just found out that I was maybe 4-6 weeks pregnant, I would seriously consider abortion. Raising a child alone is not easy and it is definitely not something to idolize.

Answer 10

I would prepare to be a single parent. I'd start saving money, getting my prenatal care, going to the proper agencies for help and providing his personal info to receive child support.

Life hands you a bad deal sometimes, but it's up to you to handle it and make it work for you. You have to live your life for you and know that there are things you can't control.