Okay, I have 2 friends: one lives close, the other a few states away, everybody single no kids. I have no bad habits and hold my own. Male A I've been knowing for a minute and recently found out he once professed to mutal friends that he loved me but never came out with it cause I was always attatched. Now we talk constantly and he tells me about females he's interested in and when I promote him to go forward he seems to come up with 101 hemhaws or either texts me about how good it's going (nothing ever materialzes). Now he and Male B know of each other and Male B does "boyfriendish" things (brings dinner over, fixes things for me, cute gifts, etc.), but we have never so much as kissed. No sex with either, (oh, Male A does the gift thing also) but I keep sensing mixed signals from both. If I listen to my friends (no not Lil Remmy and Alize ~no offense), they tell me I have 2 suitors afraid to approach but hoping the other backs off. Any suggestions or insight on handling this?
2006-08-31 05:56:35 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Follow your heart, but let the brain navigate.
2006-08-31 06:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by zambranoray 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one is hard, but what I don't hear in your details is which one you are interested in. I think that what you have are two men who might be interested, but that appear to be more a friend to you.
If you were going to have a relationship with one of them, I would say it would have to be male B becuase at least you describe him as "boyfriendish". If you have known them for a while and you spend time with them both, you should be able to have an honest discussion about how they feel and how you feel. Talk to them and see what happens.
Good Luck.
2006-08-31 06:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to use your instinct when choosing a boyfriend. How do you feel around them.? If u think its a case of torn between two lovers....be ready to face the consequences of eventually losing both of them. Mixed signals, not enough. wait if any of them will really profess their unending love for you. You can't choose a boyfriend from mixed signals. That would totally suck when u are already in that so-called "bf-gf" relationship. Have u seen that question about a girl that was already in their 11th month and the guy haven't said iloveyou yet........sucks....
2006-08-31 06:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite simple if one is a friend then keep it that way. If the other one is material for a bf then set him straight. Don't try to play games with either of them or you might loose both. Friendship is more important. You should like a nice girl. Good luck
2006-08-31 06:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like they're both interested and waiting for you to give them a sign about how you feel. Which one is right for you, or is either one right? Make up you mind and then tell the lucky guy how you feel. As far as the guy you don't go for, be careful about how you treat him... be nice, but just friends. Don't take advantage of his feelings for you. It's nice to be liked! Good for you, just remember it's nerve racking to be on the other end. Deside what you want and go for it. :)
2006-08-31 06:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by starsmoak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to either pick one and move on or let them both go. Its not right to have the triangle going. Someone is going to get hurt and your going to end up feeling pretty bad and without a friend.
2006-08-31 06:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about this Do you have feelings for either of them OTHER than just friends? If no then it doesnt matter that they may want to be with you in a different way. If you are interested in one of them....let him know and see how it goes. It is on them if they want to be with you and too scared or foolish to let you know.
2006-08-31 06:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that male B is the better of the two. You need to let him know how you feel so he does not end up with some one else.
2006-08-31 06:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by red1967 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should think to yourself and decide which one you like and go from there. Be honest, if they are your friends, then let them know how you feel.
In my opinion i think you should confront the one that lives near, only b/c you never know what's going to happen wiht the other one. And what if you do get with him, yet the other one that is near insists more.
2006-08-31 06:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by qtiebabie06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i haven't heard is how you feel about them? are you more drawn to one than the other or are you just waiting because you really don't want the decision. You may want them to make it for you and not even realize it.
examine your feelings if anything i have said hits a chord.
2006-08-31 06:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by poobear Libertarian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the real question is, which one do YOU like more? I wouldn't wait for one or the other, if you are not really into either, I would start looking elsewhere.
2006-08-31 06:04:11 · answer #11 · answered by webster1305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋