somebody help please!!?

Question

it's a long story, my mom has been driving across the united states
since i was 10 because of dad's job we had to move every six months or so but lately my mom can't even drive to the grocery
store i don't know why? she says that she thinks she's going to roll over in the slightest curve or when she's above 40 mph i've seen her and her arms get hard as a rock she starts to panic really bad and sometimes this attacks can go away for 1 or 2 weeks but it always comes back and worst of all nobody believes her my family says she's just making it up but i do believe her because i've seen her when it happens i want to help her i don't know what to do now i have to drive her everywhere i don't mind but i'm really worried can anybody help please i'm desperate i want my mom to be back to normal.

Answer 1

I think you're mom is severly stressed out. She is having anxiety attacks along with panic attacks. I know because the same thing would happen to me. I have taken medication in the past. But I found that the medication just sweeps the problems under the carpet. I had to learn how to relax and just take time out for me. Along with creating a personal relationship with GOD. I think your family should pray about it. GOD will intervien and you will see changes. But you have to believe that he change your mother. GOD won't help non-believers.

Answer 2

You know...I can really sympathize with her...I feel this way all the time when I am in a car...and I never learned to drive at all because of it...she might be a bit traumatized from all the horrible traffic out there...to help her, you might get a thomas brothers map book and try to route out all of the best roads to get to the store for her...she is suffering from some severe anxiety when it comes to driving..I know she isn't playing,...I cannot stand it when I drive with my hubby or anyone else going around curbs or over bridges...Go to the store for her when ever you can...but try to find the back roads where she can drive slow,...that is what I make my husband do...I just get so sick on the freeway...some of us are just like that..there are so many idiots on the road...find the back ways,..where she has more control of the situation and less traffic...that is about the only way to help her..you don't want her driving and being medicated to 'calm' her down...Good luck sweetheart, and nice of you to luv your mom and try to help her

Answer 3

My mom is the same way! She is scared out of her mind to drive. She suffers from depression. She takes medication but still is very uneasy about driving. She is not alone, this is a common side effect of depression. She could have a chemical imbalance in her brain causing anxiety. Maybe you should try sharing your concerns with her and your family and encourage her to see a professional counselor. Your mom may just be handling alot of stress right now this could be temporary and she very well could get back to normal but in the meantime give her extra support and love and let her know you are there to help. Keep your head up and be strong for your mom she needs you right now.

Answer 4

Is your Mom driving a car she isn't used to? It might just take time for her to feel comfortable with the new wheels. Has she had an accident? Then it might take even longer for her to overcome her fear. Encouraging her to talk about it and offering support is probably the best thing to do either way. If you are a teenager, you are in a transitional phase of your relationship with your mom. You used to be a child that she had to always protect, and now it is time for you to be something more like a friend. That is not always an easy thing for a parent to accept, but once the transition starts, your mom will know that it is a good thing and that she has raised a child who is smart and caring.
Start with, "Mom, I don't want to to be afraid of driving. Can you talk to me about it? I want to help."
Talking will help by letting your mom know you care.
The rest of the solution is mom practicing driving while you help her stay calm by saying things like, "We're doing fine. I'm not scared. We have seat belts and air bags. I love you, Mom. I feel safe..." and so on.
I hope this helps, both with the short-term problem and with the longer-term goal of becoming a valued friend to your mother.
Oh, and God bless you for caring.

Answer 5

These sound like Panic Attacks. They are totally treatable, and not her fault. Go with her to the Doctor, and if he/she doesn't seem that interested, go to another.
Do some reasearch on your own also. Try WebMD, etc. Try search engines on the computer by typing in Panic Attacks.
It is best to have some basic information before going to the doctor, so as to know whether you are getting the care she needs.
Good luck to you, and I commend you on looking out for your mom.

Answer 6

It sounds like she has panic attacks. She could have heard something on the news or radio that got her thinking about accidents more often and now when she drives thats what she thinks about all the time. If she goes to the doctor he can perscribe her something that she can take that will make her feel better. Good luck.

Answer 7

Your mother may be suffering from panic attacks. Common symptoms are:

Racing, pounding heart or skipping heart
Sweating
Trembling and shaking
Shortness of breath
Feeling of choking or smothering
Chest pressure, pain, or discomfort
Nausea or an upset stomach
Dizziness, unsteadiness, lightheadedness or faintness
Numbness or tingling sensations
Chills or hot flashes
Feelings of being detached from oneself or feelings of unreality
Fear of the worst happening, losing control or going crazy
Fear of dying

Tell your mom that you're concerned about what is happening and show her this answer (?) and /or information on panic attacks from the internet. Ask her if she is feeling these symptoms. Encourage her to see a doctor to get evaluated and possibly get medications to alleviate these symptoms.

Answer 8

This is just a guess on my part. Could your Mom be suffering from what is known as Panic attacks? You may want to look this condition up on the internet. Good-Luck and God-Bless you for wanting to help your Mom!!

Answer 9

I don't think It's a mental thing at all. I think it's pathological. I know this may sound really stupid, and unbelievebale, but Syphillus (the STD) can cause people to change instantly. I'm not saying it is, but there's a variety of Pathological conditions that can alter a behavior, not just mental problems. She may have a tumor in her brain, I would tell her to see a doctor.

Answer 10

Sounds to me like she is having Panic attacks and these things are not fun, I have them in certain situations my self, she needs to see or DR. and talk to him/her about Panic Attacks, and also Anxiety attacks, she may need to but on meds for them. It's serious enough that you should do this soon to get to the bottom of it. Good Luck And God Bless you and your Mom.