Get over it, I will not beat my children!?

Question

I am so sick and tired of parents saying we should discipline our children just because they get out of hand at a store! What do you suggest….should we just be rude to our children and embarrass them out in public. Or should we BEAT them. I am sorry but I will never speak in a disrespectful manner to my children OR ever, EVER hit them! I can shop while my son is crying, it effects me more than you, so why do you care??? You need to get over it, I bet you won’t be complaining when your children end up socially unaccepted because you have made them suffer so gravely.

Answer 1

You can control your children however you see fit. However, I don't appreciate trying to leisurely do my shopping while some parent lets their child stand and scream in the middle of the store or have a temper tantrum. If you want to have respect for you children, then have respect for your fellow shoppers too. Take the kids kicking and screaming to the bathroom and let them get over it. Nobody else wants to see or hear it.

My daughter acted out ONCE in a store and has never done it since. Forcing her to leave the store without a single thing was a good lesson to her. I told her then that I'd never let her embarrass me that way. She is the child and I'm the parent. It's better if kids know that than just allowed to go on and on about something.

Also, there's a HUGE difference between spanking a child and beating a child. People that can't tell the difference are the reason many kids today are out of control. Ask any child that's been spanked and they'll tell you that they know why they got it and that they deserved it. A good spanking never hurt anyone. Beating, is a whole issue of its own.

Now, get over yourself and discipline your kids in the store or take them someplace else to throw their little tantrum. There's a huge difference in just being a kid and acting out. Try showing some respect for others if you ever expect to get any back.

Answer 2

The sad thing about this whole topic is, kids should already know how to behave even before they go into stores or restaurants or any place else that they need to behave. All this stuff begins in the home and it starts when kids start getting into things that they should not. My one grandson would go after things and I would tell him no, he would look at me and go back after it. When he did that I would go and smack his hand. My other grandson, when I told him no, he would back off and leave it alone. I am a firm believer in disciplining childred and I know there are a lot of parents that would disagree with that, but my 5 children are grown and have well behaved children to this day. I will never say BEAT your child, but a little pat on the butt never hurt.

Answer 3

You better do more research sister. Kids that get away with murder like your children think that they can do it in society too...then they are the murderers and thieves because they never had any discipline or because "mommy never told them that it was wrong" I'm not saying that you have to beat them , but if you have boys then you do need to discipline them...they don't allow bad kids to go to school anymore so unless you were planning on home schooling them. I have all boys and I'm always getting compliments on how well behaved they are in public...I don't have to hit them I just let them know that I'm the parent. I know that you are upset when people tell you to discipline them but it is obvious that the type of discipline you know is abuse...you never have to or need to degrade any child and I don't recommend it. Talk to them. Explain to them what the consequences will be if they misbehave and if they do give them a quick timeout or take away privileges.I know it embarrasses you when they act that way and you end up spending more time in the store or forgetting something because you are distracted by their behavior.

Answer 4

At what age do you suggest it is appropriate to teach you child proper behaviour in public places?You are wrong to think that crying and screaming children do not annoy other people.A point of information people think it is bad parenting not bad kids. You do not have to beat the child you simply tell the child before you leave the house any acting out and we leave the store. If the child acts up you leave the store. If you don't try teach good behaviour now good luck when they are bigger than you. How does the situation get out of control.BE THE PARENT. .You are in charge not the child.You have a responsibility to teach appropriate behaviour.Your children are smarter than you give them credit for. They know they can do whatever they want in public and you won't do a thing.So whose in charge?

Answer 5

I have three children and I usually do not have a problem with my children in public. At home, yes I do spank them. Am I an uneducated, lazy parent, absolutely not. In fact I am a psych major and have studied this issue extensively. It depends on how you do it. But, in public I do have a different means of discipline. My son likes to ride the little super man and car rides at Wal Mart, but if he is bad, he does not get to. I only had to leave the store without him getting to ride b/c of being bad twice. Now if he acts up I tell him he will not get to ride it if he does not stop and he stops. Your children should be guided, you should not just let them do whatever they want! If you do, you'll be sorry.

Answer 6

I'm sorry, but I don't feel that spanking your child is beating them. Beating your child would leave them black and blue. A simple swat on the butt - not hard -is not "beating" your child. I can tell you right now that my 4 brothers and myself got spanked or put in time-out and none of us have behavor problems. We respect others, the opinions of others and the law. None on the other hand my 2 little sisters, 6 and 4, do not get spankings and they run amuck! They do not listen at that well, however, they do listen, but then again who expects a 6 and a 4 year old to listen completely? There's no such thing. I believe in spanking a childs butt, not hard, and then telling them they are not being very good and let them know they will not get dessert or go next door to their friends, go to bed early, or whatever "punishment" is practical to you. Children need to discipline in order to respect others, especially their mother.

Answer 7

When I went shopping if my kids showed their a**es, I would leave what I had in the cart and go home. They did not act out that often though. I usually left them at home with my husband so I could shop in peace. Sometimes I would take them to the bathroom and discipline them in there, if necessary. I really don't like it when kids are freaking out in the store, but I'm also glad it's not my kid, they make mine look like angels. What I hate the most is a teenager throwing a fit because, Momma don't want to stand up to them, that is worse.

As far as the little ones, let them cry all you want, their yours.

By the way my Momma put the smack-down on us in the store and she didn't care who was looking.

Answer 8

Watch the news very often? Have you noticed to increase in crime, especially among teenagers and young adults? I am sure this had nothing to do with a lack of discipline when they were a child.

Personally I am glad my Mom didn't hesitate to bust my ***. I only wish she had done the same for my sister. Then maybe she wouldn't be a heroin addict, in trouble for passing thousands of dollars worth of bad checks.

I am not saying you should abuse your children, but a certain level of physical discipline is necessary. I see children all the time disrespecting their parents and their parents can't believe they are behaving this way. Why would they, there is no consequences for their actions.

I knew what was acceptable and what wasn't acceptable. Mainly cause I knew there would be repercussions for my actions. Now that I am older, I know how to conduct myself in society. It is sad that so many people don't.

But do what you do, hell correctional officers are depending on parents who do not discipline their children.

Answer 9

My daughter always behaved but was never beaten. But then she wasn't handed everything she wanted either. We had rules in our home and if she didn't comply with the rules she didn't earn any privileges such as television, computer time, time on the telephone. If she complied with the rules she earned her privileges, she was always well behaved where ever we went, I even had an entire restaurant's waitstaff purchase a dozen roses for me because she behaved so well there. Discipline has nothing to do with hitting children, it has to do with controlling them and making sure they behave when they are supposed to.

Answer 10

i think its irresponsible to not displine your children. Plus its telling them that the behavior is acceptable. No one is saying beating them is acceptable. But displining them in what ever way works for you is the think you have to do. Would you think it would be ok if you ran around a store screaming and knocking over things. Hell no you wont. Why should it be for your kids? I've had to displine my daughter in a store before because she wanted to just run up and down the aisles while I and others try to shop. Well it wasnt the time or place for it. Yes she cried but only until she realized that she wasnt going to just get her way. Letting behavior like that go on will only get worse with time.