We had a fabulous weekend together out from the town. We agreed to be in a relationship together, and had our first sex.
When we got back, he invited me to his place, but I was feeling too much sex will be too rushy, and it was actually hurting me...his was too big...so I didn't accept.
Although, the train wasn't working, so I went to his place later on. He was excited, but when I wasn't kissing him or even touching him...he stopped talking to me, but started to stare at me like a stranger... we were not talking at all, and I didn't know what to do! Dead silence!
We had sex later on, but it felt nothing like we did in the weekend...just sex...and no feelings connected.
We were silent for the next day also. Had a peck on a cheek when we left. I felt horrible...
I called him after I got home, and he said I looked if I wanted to be alone, and didn't look like I wasn't sure of being together...
How can I get his feelings on flame again, I didn't meant this to happen!!
2006-08-31 05:13:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him the truth! I think thats the best way to get him to understand why you refused sex. He's probably confused and thinks your a bit weird. Mixed signals are confusing to us guys and we NEVER understand. Only the blunt truth can we relate to in such instances. Plus, he'll be flattered that you think his___ was so big. He may have a little apprehension in believing you but just give it a try. Guys are simple, flattery and truth works every time. Honesty also builds trust and strengthens his feelings for you.
2006-08-31 05:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Frylock_80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being clear to him about either what you want or why you want/don't want it. You need to be very straight forward about these things. Too many girls play too many games with sex. You have to say, "I am feeling unwell, having sex is not going to be good for me today." Then, it's nice if you can follow it up with something like, "As soon as I'm feeling better, I promise I'll..." (insert wild and crazy act here). Then (and this is the really important part that most girls don't get) actually do it!
Remember, you have to over compensate being clear because so many girls play games. "I'm not in the mood" can mean anything from "I have the flu" to "Buzz off looser!" depending on the girl.
2006-08-31 05:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels embarrassed and dosn't know how to salvage it either, sex tends to be a touchy subject when it comes to guys. Try writing him a letter, I feel i can express myself better through writing, you can think about what you are going to say and plan it out, if he won't listen to you over the phone or face to face, then a letter might be the perfect solution. Try using sentences like, I felt that we were going to fast becuase...if he feels like your accusing him he'll shut you out more. He can't argue with how you feel, because what you feel isnt wrong or right..its just you. Good luck, I think writing a letter might work..think about what your going to say and don't get carried off,usually works for me.
2006-08-31 05:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by WonderWhy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should actually talk to him and explain your feelings and side of the situation. Sounds like you are both rather inexperienced sexually if he is hurting you. Hey either needs to get you more aroused or use lube, or if he is too long he needs to learn to to go in so far and bang against your cervix.
2006-08-31 05:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by wilierthanu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is gonna give you the silent treatment simply because you won't give it up he's probably just a big baby anyway...go out into the big world and throw out your hook, there are plenty of other fishies out there who can treat you with a little more respect than that
2006-08-31 05:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by chereeder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you keep a man gussing on how you feel he will never know. Men think one thing...sex. If sex wasn't on your agenda or you claim that too much sex too fast was bugging you, express that to him...
2006-08-31 05:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on another date. you ask him out, then take him home and do his brains out. say all the right stuff and move like you want it to happen so bad, that will fire him up again.
2006-08-31 05:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by digital genius 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you are both very immature...and it seems as though all he wants from you is sex..sex..and more sex.
2006-08-31 05:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dress sexy.
invite a girl over. (so it wont hurt)
and do her instead.
2006-08-31 05:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by AxidentProneAndy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him all this.
It's that easy.
2006-08-31 05:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by McAtterie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋