Interaciall Relationships?

Question

I am completely open to the idea of dating someone outside my race... I happen to be white btw lol... My parents are dead set against it. I was wondering what was your people's point of view on this... And what about the religous thing... I believe in god but am not really into the whole bible thumping thing... I thought that some where in there it is forbidden...???

Answer 1

You may be interested to know this little tidbit I picked up on Gallup's website (the poll people). In the fifties, when Americans were asked whether mixed race marriage was OK, a whopping 87% (or so) said no.

When they asked around the turn of the century (don't remember if it was late 90's or early aughts), only about 30% disapproved.

Interesting, eh?

P.S. Where are people getting the idea that you're LOOKING for a man of another race. "Open to" does not imply that. (Many people don't read very carefully, do they?)

Oh. My view? No problem with it. Bible? Dunno, but the consensus here seems to be there's no prohibition.

Answer 2

I really dislike it when I see a white person dating someone of another race. Why? Because it points out how prejudice I am, so lacking in the love for others that I am supposed to posess. I am trying to learn to overcome this.

The Bible does not forbid the dating of one race and another. We are all humans. We are all equal.

The problem with objecting to interacial dating is that if there was any validity to the objection the only logical reason for the objection would be that one race were better than the other. hmm.......

Since this is a lie of the highest order there is no valid reason to object to interacial dating.

The only warning that God gave was the marriage of believers to non-believers (I Cor. 7) This is where the whole "unequally yoked" concept comes in to play.

This warning is based on an old Jewish law that forbid a farmer from yoking a horse with an ox, or a cow with a mule. Why? Because each had a different gate, a different way to walk. This difference would cause the yoke to rub into the animals and they would both develop sores, open wounds, infections and eventually death.

The same principle is true in relationships. There will always be differences between you and someone that you date/marry. This is part of the attraction. But on core, essential areas you should both be in agreement. These core issues will vary from one person to another but unless you marry someone who agrees with the core issues that govern how you walk, the relationship will probably fail.

I hope that this helps.

btw - I am what you would consider to be a bible thumping person. R U suprised?

Answer 3

Pay no attention to those with no intelligence.

1) Do NOT go looking for an interracial relationship. You're likely to get in so far over your head, you'll never recover.

2) Honor you father & mother. Don't shove it down their throats, & respect their opinions, & know that they want what's best for you.

3) Nowhere in the Bible is racism condoned, nor are interracial relationships condemned.

4) You believe in God? Then believe He has someone picked out especially for you. Grow in wisdom & stature so you'll be ready when He leads him to you.

I have never dated a white man (I'm white), & have many reasons, not the least of which is my family (they're all white too). However, it is this same family connection I now miss, & wish my children (bi-racial) could have a part in. We've been uninvited to Thanksgiving & Christmas for the past 5 years.

Unfortunately, people are closed-minded & bigoted. So don't open up a can of worms that you can't cook.

Answer 4

Drop dead, stupid ape. Can't you ever say anything intelligent? (I am talking to the ape.)

I am married to a (legal) Mexican nowfor 31+ years. Her best friend is a 91 year old black woman, a very high class woman, a true lady.

That woman's daughter is extremely racist, hates whites with a passion. Both her sons married really soft spoken white women, which needed no explanation. I have been at weddings where the bride and I were the only whites present.

So, I am not uncomfortable with interracial marriages at all.

However, it seems you are hoping to seek an interracial marriage and I think that is wrong.

If you happen to meet a really nice black or Hispanic boy of some class and excellence, and you hit it off, then let it happen.

But, to actually seek out a black or Hispanic boy friend is really lame. There is a lot of condescension involved, a desire to cross racial barriers to prove your superior tolerant nature, and such motivation is not a basis for a relationship nor for a marriage.

Mixed marriages are harder, religious or cultural or racial. There are enough problems in marriage without a mindless seeking of such problems for what is apparently political motivation.

I suspect your parents understand what you are doing, and they are right.

Answer 5

I have been in an Interracial relationship for the past 20 years. It isn't my first. Family can be very critical about this and even though they say they want whay best for you and possiable children that might result from this relationship I have 2 beautiful Bi-Racial children and I honestly can say that they have had a few problems from narrow minded people. But you have to follow your hear and do what you feel is best for you. As far as religion I am a Catholic and he is Baptist. We were married in a non-denominational church. When I think about the religion aspect, if you you read the book of Revelations it says that one day the yellow race will rule the world. I have found that to be that Bi-racial no matter the mix is who they were referring to. I hope that you can find they answer that you are looking for. But in the end it is up to you .

Answer 6

Back in the day it made a difference but now it doesn't really. I know a lot of good God fearing people that are racially integrated(just a fancy word to mean mixed). Not to say there aren't difficulties to get over but then again that's in any marriage.
Yes, your parents might have some issues with it and respect them. Don't date someone out of spite for your parents, but date them because you actually honor and cherish them and love being with them, not to make a scene for your parents because that's not cool to the person your with.
Also if you do start dating someone of another race, talk up all his wonderfulness to your parents before they meet him. Don't surprise them that he's another race, it won't be comfortable for anyone. You may have to be dating a while before you can introduce them to each other. But that's ok! Good luck in Love!

Answer 7

I am hispanic and dating a black guy... To be honest, my parents weren't soo happy w. the idea... It was to the point he wasn't allowed inside my house... It was very stressful.. Now my parents accept him, because they see how he is w/ me... He is the everything I want in a man. Race shouldn't matter. If the person is good to you, you should definately give it a chance... And if your family is against it, than that's their problem. I feel the same about the religion. If the person you're w/ respects your thought, ideas, & faith, it there shouldn't be a problem. My bf and I are of diffrent races, and religions... He grew up in a very religious family, and my family, well, we go to church once in a blue moon.. lol
So, you should definately be w/ someone you're happy with, regardless of what your parents think, and regardless of race or religion... Good luck to you

Answer 8

Here is where you need to consider a closer walk with God. If you think it is forbidden in the Bible, you are very wrong. I suggest you consider a relationship with God and a relationship with the right human will happen.

Answer 9

In the past people have twisted the Bible to support their own bigotry and biases.

Much like now people are coming up with verses and different interpretations of the Bible to support their campaign against homosexuality.

It has also be used in the past to support slavery and condemn women's rights.

If you're old enough and mature enough then stand up against your parents and date whomever you want. What matters is the person inside, not the color of their skin.

Answer 10

God didnt say anything about inter-racial relationship.

As long as he or she is a believer and you share the same belief and love for God, He will bless your relationship.

2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?

2 Corinthians 6:15
And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?