She’s over 21/single, I’m single…
Our 5th date just a few inches away from having sex, condom in hand, Of course I was fine with that and said…”ok, fine”…although, I could have persisted but chose not to, WHAT DID SHE EXPECT? She asked if I was upset, but I wasn’t, I was simply appalled by this sort of action…oh well…BTW, I calmly asked her what happened, and she said “IDK”…
2006-08-31 04:57:57 · 38 answers · asked by Jr Thompson 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks! So much guys....YOU were all so helpful, the best answer was chosen for best composition but you all transmitted basically the same message across LADIES, guys I understand how you can be as CONFUSED as I was...Thanks again girls...!
2006-09-01 12:19:33 · update #1
Honestly. I have been in this situation many times before. i really liked the guy and we had made out pretty hot and heavy many times. Then when it came down to the moment. we were ready to go and I got cold feet. I felt if I said I couldn't, he'd be mad and break up. So the first time I did. I felt awful about myself.
I promised myself that if it happened again. And I felt awkward. I would say I could not and If he broke up that was fine.
The new guy asked me why i stopped. I told him I realized that he was frustrated because we were so close. But I wasn't comfortable. He waited patiently and it was better than we both ever could have imagined. With me feeling more relaxed.
Men get turned on at the drop of a hat and takes them a while to come down, when the deed hasn't been finished. Women take longer to get turned on and it only takes a second for them to come down. Be patient if you really want to have a healthy happy relationship. Building a relationship around sex is doomed for failure.
She may have said she didn't know because she was embarrassed to tell you. Women are some times insecure about being used by men. Sorry.
2006-08-31 05:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by Balou 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How well do u know her? Does she have underlying issues that r left unresolved from before she met u? If she was hurt before she met u, sometimes it is hard to get going again no matter how bad u want too. There r many possibilities that could be going on, I would not take it personally. I would take your time and be understanding with her. Try to help her figure out why she is having trouble so she can move forward. You did the right thing by not persisting anything. Good luck...
2006-08-31 05:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by wlm71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two are not in a relationship at this point you say you both are single ..was this a first date? It could simply have been to soon for her or perhaps she is a virgin and didn't want to tell you yet. It is good you respected her and didn't push.It could be all that she was looking for ..to find out what kind of man you are to see if you are a gentleman. We( the public) will never know because women are all different and we will all give you different answers.You can find out how ever by asking her.
2006-08-31 06:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may have felt conflicted inside. She probably really wanted to have sex with you, but for personal reasons of her own, was afraid of the intimacy.
Sex is different for women. There are times when we're really focused on the connection, and then it's difficult for us to make that "leap" the first time with a new guy.
If we have casual sex, it's because we've actively turned this part of our minds off. Not saying this is a good or bad thing, just how we are. It's different for men, yes? Not saying you don't care, just that the thought of sex can block out nervousness about intimacy issues more easily?
2006-09-01 03:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just realized that it would be a mistake. I doubt it had anything to do with your penis size like all the other answers because i know before I get a guy naked and penis in hand, i have already felt out the naughty bits...that's why we are naked. Maybe she just got scared that it would change things. Do you care about her? Mabye she is looking for something real and wants to make sure you are too and that she isnt' juts your latest piece of ***.
2006-08-31 05:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just nervous? Maybe she wants to get to know you more before you two take it any further. She obviously wants you, or you wouldn't have gotten as far as you did. Just take it slow. Sex ruins everything if you do it too soon in a relationship. It means more to both of you if you wait til the time is right. Just let her know that you are okay with it and wait for it to happen when she is ready.
2006-08-31 05:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are finicky and can change their minds at the last second. I've actually done this before (when I was younger). It was only bc I realized at the last second that I wasn't really ready to be with him in that way.
Or she may not have liked whta she saw. Or she may have realized that she didn't feel "clean" (some women have an issue with this).
2006-08-31 05:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she probably didn't know till the last second that she could.nt go through with it.
It could be for a number of reasons . Virgin, bad experences, did'nt want to mess up the relationship etc. Give it some time dude I imagine that it will happen in time.
2006-08-31 05:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by magicboi37 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is immature and is bound to get reped some day.
Many people (especially women) will say that no one ever asks for it, but if you get naked in a man's bed with the intent on having sex and back out at the last second, I am sorry, but I think you are a who re of the worst kind. I will let the guy off as a crime of passion.
There are plenty of truly terrible things ahappening in the world that we do not need idiot people causing them.
2006-08-31 08:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It happens all the time ...we are sooo undecided cause we had bad experiences in life and one of them is having sex after a few dates
if you do it the guy is soo thankful but maybe he dismisses you in two more dates
but if you wait you ca prove if the guy is interested in you and not only in sex
i think if you really like her have to wait until she thinks she can trust you
2006-08-31 05:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋