I'm 13, told mom we had to talk, cause on some points I thought she should change he attitudes towards me. I want some more freedom. We have a good relationship and she said Sure hun. I wrote down 12 points I'd like to talk about and at night we sat down to talk, As for the first 2 points, she agreed with me immediately, said, Yes hun, you're completely right, and I thought I might win. But then,those answers, No hun, lets see, let's think together. When we finished, my score was kinda poor: Out of the 12 points, she agreed with me completely only in 3. In 7 points at first we didn't agree, but after thinking honestly about them I had to admit she was right. In 2 points we didn't really agree but of course her opinion, not mine, prevailed. She noticed I got disappointed and said Ok, for now u don't agree, but please, trust me, don't get mad at your mom. I'm more experienced, just want your best. Gimme some credit. Well, I lost, but at least she listened.
2006-08-31 04:56:54 · 14 answers · asked by Amanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What were the points that you don't agree with her decision on? Maybe we would be able to give you a better answer if you told us.
If you think about it, at least she listened and you got 3 of the things you wanted. Plus, now you know what was wrong with the 7 points you had to admit she was right on. So now you won't want them as much, hopefully.
Maybe we could offer reasons why for the 2, if you told us what they were. If you are right then we can also tell you that and offer ways to persuade your mum.
2006-08-31 04:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You didn't lose at all! You showed a lot of maturity to actually go and sit down and discuss things with your mom whereas other teens your age would have just threw a fit and rebelled to get there way!
Do not in any way feel defeated! I don't know you but I am so proud of the way you handled this situation in the fashion that you did!
Keep those points that your mom didn't agree with you on and later on in a few weeks, present it again and see what she thinks then. Sometimes you need to let some time go by before she is likely to change her mind on something she doesn't agree with you about. In the meantime, be extra helpful around the house so as to get her to notice how responsible you are and this might soften her up a bit. Good luck!
2006-08-31 05:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! It sounds to me like you did an outstanding job of raising these issues with your mom in a very mature and rational way. You should feel really good about things.
The reality is that you have to trust your mom's judgement. For better or worse, she has the benefit of quite a few more years of experience than you. Sometimes here decisions may seem arbitrary, or even just plain wrong. That's ok. In time, you may come to believe she was right, and thank her. In time, you may come to still disagree with her. That's ok too. You will still have learned from the process.
2006-08-31 05:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you should not ! She seems to be concerned enough to talk with you and of course there will be disagreements- Sounds like your mom and you are on the same page - Hate to say it but there are somethings that she has experience in her life that she may want to keep you from going through. At least she cares about you and apparently Loves you - be patient and just love your life every minute of life -
2006-08-31 05:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you two dealt with the issue rationally, and please do not feel defeated. In a way, you have Won. You won her over with those two points and you probably didn't think you'd get that. Also, this is preparation for the real world where you have to make some sacrifices and compromises to get what you want. Rejoice in those two points, girl!
2006-08-31 06:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monica, I think you have an amazing relationship with your Mom. She's attentive, available, receptive to you and your issues (as a Mom should be, though many are not). I really hope you do not feel defeated, and I wish you didn't feel as though you "lost" (your word). To me, it sounds like you're a very, very lucky young lady: You have a supportive Mom; you have outstanding communication skills and self-awareness. These things will serve you well in life; in fact, they already have.
2006-08-31 05:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
good for you, you have a mom that listens to you. since you are 13 i'm sure she is looking out for your well being..listen to her, she make be right.. you can always re negociate the other points at a later date as you get older.. your mom sounds like a fair person, you should trust her judgements..
2006-08-31 05:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey dont sweet it. its always good to have some compromise to start with. give the new compromise a chance to see how they work and how you deal with them maybe after your mom sees how well you are doing and how responsible you are with the new changes maybe she'll add to the list. should you feel defeated? i'd say no you got some of the things you wanted so be happy with that and prove to your mom you can handle things and like i said my she will add to your list.
2006-08-31 05:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by wild*one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't feel defeated. you should be happy. at least your mom respected you enough to actually discuss the 12 points with you instead of flat out saying no to everything. at least you got 3 things you wanted.
2006-08-31 04:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Niecy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's right. YOUR 13 you are barely just coming of age when you feel like your ready to do all things but your not.And no you are not hang in there dont try to grow up to fast because you cant go back enjoy what you have.
2006-08-31 05:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋