even though you had paperwork from 4 seperate doctors and you were just following what the doctors told you do to ( put the child in her crib and let her cry, check on her every 15 mins but DO NOT PICK HER UP) how long would you hold a grudge?
2006-08-31 04:47:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes The Sibling Knew about what the Doctors had said and it wasnt out of concern for the child she had moved home and i happend to be living at home at the time due to diffucalty finding a job and she had to wake early to drive an hour to work and my child was keeping her awake!
2006-08-31 05:45:26 · update #1
quite a while, she could have alway put some ear plugs in...
2006-08-31 07:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes doctors give wrong advice. I hate to cry because I get this horrendous headache and I get all choked up inside and feel miserable. In knowing this of myself, I did everything I could to keep my children from crying.
I'm thinking that this may be your first child. When a child cries in excess, it usually means they are in some kind of discomfort. It may be stomach pains or loneliness and fear. There's no reason why a child should be left to cry and your sibling may feel the same way. Don't hold a grudge. Your sibling was acting in the best interest of your child. Follow what you know is best for your child. Do not consult "how to" books or listen to people who don't know you and live in your house. This is your child and it depends on you for everything. You would be surprised what a firm and loving hug does to a child. It affirms that it is appreciated and wanted. Babies grow into adulthood in a wink of an eye.
2006-08-31 05:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I would have to ask is this.....does this sibling know what the doctors have told you and you are doing what not 1 but 4 have told you to do? If they didn't know the situation, then I would have to forgive them. Why because, they were thinking of your child, and it's safety. Now, why didn't they ask you about it, I am not sure, but I would give them the benefit of the doubt that they were thinking with their hearts insteads of their heads.
Now, if they call the police after knowing what the doctors recommended, then I would be so hurt, till it would be awhile till I could forgive them. How long? I think it would be according to how close I was with that person before this incident.
Have you asked them why? I would want to know what they were thinking, do they disagree with the doctors reports, and they don't approve of you following some "quacks" directions. My son did not sleep through the night till he was 18 months old. We slept when he did, and we read, we cried, we walked the floors, because I just couldn't let him cry in his bed alone for over 15 minutes. I tried...And that maybe what this person is thinking..that it's wrong. So, I would forgive them, because it's out of love for my baby.
If you know they did with the best intentions for your child, then forgive! If you don't know why, ask then make your call. Because this could have a worser outcome, the police could have taken the child from you....So, I believe this is one the hardest question that I have ever tried to answer, and I am not helping at all...I am sorry!
If it was love...forgive. If it was done with out knowledge you where doing what the doctors said...forgive. If they did because they didn't understand and didn't seek answers from you as to why....then it's going to have to be worked on. They should have asked, should have trusted you enough to do what's right for your child, the best way that you know...then it's going to be awhile..how long..depends on what they have to say about why..
So, I quess I still didn't answer your questions, but I hope I did at least give you another way to look at it....
Give that baby girl all the love you can, and it's going to get better I promise..I went 18 months..so you can to, just hope it's not quite that long for you.....
God bless us all..........
2006-08-31 05:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure I would never tell my sibling anything that goes on in my home again and then I would forget about the grudge. If you were doing what the doctor said the sibling should have given you their veiw point rather then go to the police.
2006-08-31 04:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! I would be so pissed! It's not child neglect to just let your child cry. They need to mind their own business. That is a grudge that would stay with me till the grave.
2006-08-31 04:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by CHRISTINA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kid is your kid.. im pretty sure your man... but in the long run the best thingto do is not have a grudge.. just talk to her... if she old... ( like teenage old) then tell her you feel so upset about her and that you did this for a certain reason.. tell her that you feel betrayed and that you love her but things can't be the same again until she changes her attittude
2006-08-31 05:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forever.
2006-08-31 04:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hold a grudge? i'd put them in a adult size crib and leave them in there till they stop whinning
2006-08-31 04:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by towelboy70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Till the end of time.
2006-08-31 04:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur doing the right thing tell her to sod off and turn your back on her for good
2006-08-31 04:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by irenee g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋