please tell me something
2006-08-31 04:36:05 · 17 answers · asked by elizabeth n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Again (LOTS OF HUGS)
When my friends little boy passed away my daughters were 2 and 3 and my 3 year old was very smart. I told her that god needed a new baby angel so he took our friend, so he can watch over all of us and keep us happy and safe!!!
I also told them that our friend was a very very very special baby and god needed to have him there with him.
They now only refer to him as our angel. They now are telling us that he is like a superhero cuz he makes sure we are all happy and safe.
We always talk about our angel pretty much daily and my daughters dont ask as much why did our angel go to heaven with god.
There is a country song by Coiln Raye and its called "there holes in the floor of heaven" it is a nice song that maybe listening to it will help give you ideas of how you can make your daughter feel that her big sister is always watching over her!
All the best!!
And my thoughts are with you today and everyday!!!
2006-09-01 05:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4 year old myself. I guess I would tell her that God needed a special helper to watch over her and other children, to tell Him when she needed help and pass on her prayers to Him. I would tell her that since her sister was such a special girl, He chose her to become His helper, and He made her an angel. I would tell her that her sister will always be with her and that she can speak to her and pray to her whenever she feels like it. I would then hope she accepts the answer because children that age are very inquisitive and they can become obsessed by the issue of death. The first time she learned about death was when my father's dog died. I told her that she's gone to stay with God and the next time we went to Church, she wanted to go up to the Altar to check on the dog!
Do not worry too much though. Children are more resilient than us adults. Take good care of yourself and your family and may God give you the strength to face this awful tragedy.
2006-08-31 04:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by CB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 4 year old can't comprehend the details that we can and that is typically not what they are looking for. A simple "You sister is with God now" would do. If she elaborates again keep it simple. If asked why "That was God's plan" or something like that. If you go into great detail it will only confuse her
2006-08-31 04:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by mamatohaley+1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to explain to my daughter about her grandmother who passed last year...not quite the same, but same concept. The way I explained it to her was that we were blessed for the time we had with her, that she loved us very much, but that it was time for her to go be with Jesus. That even though she loved us and was happy here, that she was even happier in heaven and that she could see us every day now. If you are a believer, then you probably have discussed heaven and God with your daughter which will make it easier for her to understand. I'm so sorry for your loss, and hope this helps you out some. God Bless.
2006-08-31 04:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you have been by way of lots. i'm sorry on your loses, regardless of the reality that i be responsive to that would not help lots. it is amazingly difficult for a 4 twelve months old to hold close certainty. only keep telling him what you're telling him, while he gets older he will understand. and attempt to not make him forget approximately, or get disappointed that he wont end bringing it up, enable the memory of your babies stay by way of your son.
2016-10-01 03:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that she went to heaven to become an angel. Say that god needed a very important person be his angel, and that she will always be looking out for her. Tell her, as long as you keep her in your heart, memories she will always be with you.
2006-08-31 04:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by John M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. If you lie to her now she will only find out about it later and be upset. I don't know what your personal beliefs are about heaven/life after death. But explain to her what you believe.
2006-08-31 04:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her everything you know. Children understand more than we ever give them credit for. Don't sugar code it either you can tell her the truth she doesn't deserve to be lied too.
2006-08-31 05:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this but Lie, tell her she's away at school or something like that , just until she's old enough to understand an cope with somthing like Death.
2006-08-31 04:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son's dad passed away when he was 4, his dad was his best friend so it was very hard for me to explain, but I told him his dad was in his heart and he will be with him always.
2006-08-31 05:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Ms T in GI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋