I recently started dating my friends brother. (we're both mid-twenties) The whole thing was set up by my friend. She has been arranging things for about a month so that we could all hang out together, and her brother and I could get to know eachother.
He recently asked me out to dinner, and things have been going strong.... it's really nice. Everyone jokes about how his sister was right on with the match making.
But I noticed that my friend isn't calling as much, and she seems a tiny bit pre-occupied when I call her. I guess I could be reading into things, but do you think that she is bothered by the fact that I'm dating her brother?
She set it up and was very excited in the beginning, but it seems weird now.....it really hurts since I'm used to this friendship being very positive....
I really care about my friend, and I'd like to handle this the right way.... should back off and let her call me?
Do I bring it up to her, or let it go for now?
2006-08-31 04:32:34 · 11 answers · asked by smarty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd bring it up. If you can't openly to your friends, then who can you talk to. Know what I mean? But my question for you is that since dating her brother, is he all you seem to be talking about? Do you and her hang out like you did before? She may be distant is because she misses her friend. She's probably very happy for you, but she may also be regretting it a little bit. You need to make sure you're still hanging out with her without constantly talking about her brother. That would get old and fast. Same with chatting with her on the phone. She's probably sick of hearing about it. And just wants her friend back, not her brother's girlfriend. In other words, she feels neglected since hooking you two up. Just talk to her and don't mention him. She'll probably lighten up quite a bit.
2006-08-31 04:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough situation... For me, I would talk to your friend. Tell her how you feel, how it feels weird that you two arent talking as much... What does her brother say? Maybe he should talk to her? All friendships have there ups and downs, just hang in there and keep your end up on the positive friendship
2006-08-31 04:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by _487_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your friend and her brother very close. If so maybe she is jealous of the time that you and her brother are spending together, and she feels left out. No matter what the issue is with her not calling and being preoccupied, you should try to get her to go out for lunch, and talk to her about the situation.
2006-08-31 04:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk to her and find out what is troubling her. Tell her how much you value her friendship and how awkward you feel if your relationship with her brother is bothering her. You need to get it out in the open or you will grow further apart and eventually you could lose her close friendship.
2006-08-31 04:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by Chatterbox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should bring it up to her in a kind manner, expressing your concerns and making clear how important is for you the friendship you have with this girl. Further, maybe you need to ask her directly whether she has a problem or not for dating her brother.
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2016-11-06 03:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go out just the two of you and ask her. She could feel left out,but you need to talk to find out, you will never know what the problem is of beable to fix it if you don't know waht the problem is. Just talk to her im sure things will get better.
2006-08-31 04:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are reading more into this than there is. Siblings learn early on to stay out of each others space. Siblings are supportive and defensive of each other but are smart enough to realize each has a life to live.
2006-08-31 04:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her the longer you put it off, the worse you will feel.
2006-08-31 04:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest to you friend tell how you feal the answer you seek is right there just talk to her
2006-08-31 04:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by bubba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋