Will he leave me for a younger, better looking woman?

Question

I'm seeing a man who is nearly 4 years younger than I am. Things are going very well and we've been going out for 7 months.

We seem to have loads in common, but I'm no super-model. Surely he's going to want a younger, better looking woman at some point?

I don't believe all this stuff about men being able to love women for 'who they are' or their 'personality'. All men every seem to talk about is the way a woman looks or shags.

Answer 1

You can't think much of him if your thinking like that. If you obsess about this you will drive him away. He's been with you for the past 7 months and things are going well so why would you think that? It's only a 4 year age gap, it's hardly a major age difference. Don't worry and enjoy what you have, he likes you for you.

Answer 2

I can kinda relate to your situation only in my case it is the opposit way around. I am 35 and just recently married a man that is 42. He has made comments in fun that once he gets older I will leave him for a younger man. I don't know the ages of the both of you but I see it this way, if you are having fun and really care about this person then go with the flow and don't worry about will he leave you for a younger woman. If you constantly wonder about that it will put a strain on your relationship and you could possibly end up losing your guy for to another woman just because you are letting that fear get in the way. As for the part about men loving you for who you are it is possible. It took me 12 years and being married to a jerk to realize that not all men are the same and that there are some who really do love you for who you are and not what you look like or can do for them. The guy you have may just be the one that will love you for who you are and not what you can do for him.

Answer 3

He may leave you. You said you were "seeing" him for 7 months. Has your relationship progressed to that of exclusivity? Perhaps you have other side projects and so does he?

Has he given you any reason to believe he has an obsession with super- attractive females? Do you really believe he would leave you simply because someone better looking popped up?

C'mon babe, get a clue.

If he would leave you for someone else solely on looks then he is an idiot of the highest order.

You sound insecure and insecure people tend to do stupid things.

If you really are such a remarkable woman then you would know he wouldn't leave you.

You can do little things to improve the way you look and you can do heaps to imrove the way you shag, so instead of wondering why not improve yourself if YOU feel you're not up to par.

I don't believe all this stuff about men being able to love women for 'who they are' or their 'personality'. All men every seem to talk about is the way a woman looks or shags............what a pile of dog shyt. Please don't join the ranks of the feminazi movement and lump men in to one pile of homogenous waste.

What keeps you interested in this man? What do you like/love about him? Do you see real signs that the relationship will not last or do you simply have cold feet and would rather practice self sabotage then continue this relationship?

Confidence, self respect, true morals and convictions, honesty, loyalty and LOVE are more appealing than any tight a ss or big rack or pretty face.

Find out what his core beliefs are and see if they match or compliment yours.

If he's a guy you fit in to the "All men ever seem to talk about is the way a woman looks or shags" category then perhaps he's not the man for you if you're looking for a permanent relationship.

As scattered as this is I hope it helps.

Answer 4

If he's been with you for 7 months, he obviously really really likes you. I know it must be hard to stop worrying, and if you feel it would help, you could confide in him. He'd reassure you that he loves you and wants to stay with you.

Also, you say things are going very well. That means theres obviously no problem, so try and relax. And you say you have loads in common, so he must enjoy your company and love the way you think compared to the lack of conversation he'd get with a younger airhead.

Finally, you say your "no super-model". But I bet you're really really pretty. So don't worry!

Answer 5

If you have a healthy relationship and he loves you I don't think he will leave you for a younger better looking woman. It's kind of corny but some men do love women for who they are. Stop being so insecure, if things are going well their shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 6

You need to go out with men who are older, not younger, the reason being is that you need a man who is a leader, and you not to be as his mother.

Try to understand the liberal way regarding everything does not work, whereas traditional or conventional practices tend to work, in general.

Also, don't listen to the woman with the whip above. She needs a real man in her life.

Answer 7

in my experience, in India these kinds of relationships wont last.

But I guess you r from a different country and the culture may be different.

Lets hope for the best.

But be prepared for the worst also. I am sure you r a nice gal. You will get a better person

dont worry, be happy
enjoy life

Answer 8

"Surely he's going to want a younger, better looking woman at some point?"

Maybe. But not today... and since there are no guarantees in love, why not be happy in the now?

Answer 9

thats called male bravado.

one thing you should know, what we brag about and what we actually feel are often 2 very different items!

its all about attraction and beleive it or not, that does include an attraction to someones personality.

i would rather have an uglier gf with a good sense of humour than a stroppy super model!

Answer 10

Ya, U may be Correct till some extend. But it is not going to b true always. As the younger Boy found something interesting abt u it may be Ur Soul or Ur Body.....
If it is Ur Soul then no need 2 worry at all...........
If it is ur Body thn yeah u r right u need 2 find someone who likes ur soul........