alright so my boyfriend is extremly controling. and he controls like every move i make, he also gets mad at me about EVERYTHING... if i look at him or even walk a way he doesn't like he flips out and wont talk to me. i dont no wat to do i've tried talking to him but it dosent work.. so i thought i would just deal with it and do wat he wants but nothing i do is good enough! Wat should i do??????
2006-08-31 03:59:54 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you still there? Get out, NOW! If you think it's bad now imagine what it would be like if you got married.
2006-08-31 04:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you would have just been able to see a recent Dr.Phil show.
While I am not a great fan of his, he had a good one on just recently about this same subject that would have really helped you.
His advice to the girl involved was get out of it and get away. The boyfriend was a control freak. He showed no signs of changing without help. This situation will only bring you heartache and bring you down mentally.
Don't hang on any longer. You do not need someone controlling every moment of your life.
Geez now I sound like an Ann landers.
Seriously young lady, dump this guy he has too much baggage. I am sure you are a nice enough young lady you can find someone who will respect who you are , what you are and has no desire to be in control of you 24/7
2006-08-31 11:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now, it only gets worse. Pretty soon, you won't even realize how much he controls you. If he flips out on this stuff, imagine what would happen if something really serious pops up. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck, don't fall in the trap that so many people do, you can't change them. You will look back if you end this, and wonder why you put up with it.
2006-08-31 11:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by lynnette m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. You can find someone better than this. You are old enough to make your own decisions and don't need some "boy" trying to control your life and telling you what to do. Tell him the same things you have told us. He has issues in which you will never be able to fix, which is why you need to get out now. You are right, nothing you do will ever be satisfactory in his eyes. Which means, you will never be able to please him. Which ultimately means, you will become miserable while being with him. It's not worth it. I know what it's like being with someone like that. His controlling issues are very unhealthy for a relationship. Leave him now!
2006-08-31 11:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey leave him. I was in a marriage just like that and i couldnt seem to do anything right. He finally got to the point where it would wear me down. He wouldnt let me sleep a certain way in bed, i couldnt walk around walmart without his hand on my back, i couldnt go anywhere without him stalking me down eventually, he wouldnt let me have frends and when i did he threw a fit. He would throw incredibly embarassing fits in public places and make me feel like dirt. I was married to him for a year and a half too long, leave him. Nobody deserves this, its unhealthy and will eventually wear you down and damage your self esteem. Trust me there are much better men out there who dont control you and love you for who you are and respect you. Since the divorce a year and a half ago, i found a wonderful man who is respectful and non controlling. There is hope, leave him.
2006-08-31 11:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK w3ll Wat u need to do iz break up wit him because the only person that controls u iz urself and if u believe in good u can pray about tha situation and what u should do iz juss end it and tell him u are not ready for a relationship rite now but if u r scared that he might hurt yo then u need to tell your parents and contact the police
2006-08-31 11:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by J3ssica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him. he has issues. If you don't he will make your life miserable. You need to confront him and not be such a push over. If you want to remain in the emotionally abusive relationship then it will seriously make your life miserable. You have stand up for yourself. He is obviously crazy and insecure and you don't need that. You need to tell him that he has to stop being so controlling or you're going to dump him.....
2006-08-31 11:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by SuperChic3955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I am telling you get out NOW while you can, it will only get worse. I married my controlling boyfriend and it hasn't been easy. GET OUT NOW!!!!!!! It will not change even if he says it a 1000 times over over again, I promise you it will never change. So unless you want a lifetime full of that ****, leave him asap!
2006-08-31 11:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend!!! I mean come on. If he doesn't seem to care what you think or like the way you do things. Is it really worth trying to do everything he wants and never getting to do what you want and enjoy yourself?
2006-08-31 11:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by Athena C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey look its not likes your husband or something, no one I repeat no one has the right to treat anyone like trash, Leave him, find someone that will love you for who you are, not for someone your not, he needs to understand that he does not control you or the next chick he finds. Make a stand for yourself, move on, there are lot better guys out there
2006-08-31 11:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIS AZZ!!!!he dosen't love you for you he loves the person you are when he is controlling you,,do you want to live your life like that?You are probably young and need some guidance ,,it would be different if he were giving you advice but he isn't,,he is telling you what you should be for his fullfillment,and believe me honey you don't want to be any ones door mat..good luck and PLEASE take my advice ,,aI have been there and done that.
2006-08-31 11:05:54 · answer #11 · answered by sonya w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋