I have been friends with a guy for 10 years and have feelings for him. I have expressed my interest and I know he has an interest as well. I am just worried about loosing our friendship.
2006-08-31 03:57:54 · 14 answers · asked by Cheryl D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well so far,,
I don't know how"I" start....
Most of my friends are women and they started liking me first. so they came to me. Looks like you got that part working for you already...
we dated for a while, we'd hang out, stayed in the same place,
so far I didn't work out with any of them for me.
I'm still friends with all that stayed in my group of friends.
still like "as friends" all that didn't... 'cept my ex wife of 20 yrs, who wasn't in my group of friends to begin with. (I've come to believe that was a "stupid" thing for me to have done.)
I may not be qualified to answer this question.. ...I've just discovered!!! What do you believe?
2006-08-31 04:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question and a delicate one as well. First of all, if he's your friend and that close to you, talk to him about what your friendship means to the both of you. If your friendship is more important than you 2 risking it dating, you might want to think twice about it. BOTH of you need to decide what's best for you 2. On the other hand, it could be a wonderful relationship if you 2 know each other that well. Hard decision but one that should be made HONESTLY and carefully. DON'T THINK WITH YOUR EMOTIONS on this one. Communicate though, don't just "think" it will work because of your friendship. Remember, friendship is so so important to any relationship anyway. Or should be. That's what's missing in relationships now-a-says. So, you have the foundation of a good thing, just know the risk is high for losing a looooong time friend. If it fails, you lose a very very good friend. If it works, you've got a great relationship on your hands...Decide which is more important...TOGETHER...!!! Good luck sweetie...!!! : )
2006-08-31 04:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by dolphinman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've known each other for 10 years don't worry about messing up your friendship. You could be a horrible couple but that shouldn't affect the 10 years of friendship that have built up to this point.
Just talk with him explain the whole thing and go out on a few 'date' dates before doing anything else if you both feel the same and want do more then just the friendship stuff then embrace it.
2006-08-31 04:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by Gary Bucht 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a friend can be very tricky. One of two things could happen. Either everything turns out great and a long term relationship forms or you could wreck your friendship and lose a friend. In my experiences, a person that you already have a close friendship with can make an excellent partner. In my case, I ended up marrying her and we are even closer friends now. Same thing happened to a couple of my other friends. They started dating and are now happily married. I would suggest going out an a couple of real dates with just the two of you but avoid any deep intimate moments, at first that is.
2006-08-31 04:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Randy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be crossing that friendship line. Only you can decide if you want to cross the line. If everything works out, that is great, if not, you are right, you will lose the friendship. Just let nature take the course, what we all worry about, usually takes care of itself.
2006-08-31 04:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by lynnette m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that "taking it to the next level" will ruin anything. If you do end up together and then breaking up-it WILL be awkward-but if you had a strong relationship and friendship in the first place;nothing can break it. Go ahead, try. You never know;and you might regret not trying in the end.
2006-08-31 04:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by rachey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him over for a causal dinner- and greet him at the door wearing nothing but a smile.
OK- I guess that's a little forward.
But the dinner thing is good. And a couple bottles of wine will certainly help. Good luck.
2006-08-31 04:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by Morey000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way that you will lose your friendship if you break up in a bad way. but go ahead and ask him. at least you both know how each other tick.
2006-08-31 04:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely youve done something in all the time you've known him, just stay over the night when you hang out, im sure you can make an excuse to, and then do what you want, and see what happens.
2006-08-31 04:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it very slow. It's a new thing for both of you. Discuss your fears. Communication is always the key.
2006-08-31 03:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by barney3076 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋