He said he was working alot.He also said we'd be together.Never did he say he was with someone else.You wanna know how i found out? At a boxing party with our mutual friends. i see him all the time,but we dont say a word th each other,like i did something to him. I love him.There wasnt any closer.We got into a bad argument and that was it. I never cheated and i guess i just wanna know why. Why all the lies,To top it all of she got pregnant when we were suppose to be together. I was so lost in the dark, nobody at that party told me{ my so called friends}.What to do?
2006-08-31 03:47:51 · 40 answers · asked by blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing you can do........... I am sorry, I just went through exactly the same thing. I suggest you curl up in your bed and turn on the tv to the saddest movie you can find and just cry, cry and let it out. Thats what I did, and then just let it all go, he is not WORTH your time and energy, you are worth more then him and you deserve better then him, and I know you love him, but he doesn't and he didn't love you, you have got to except it and move on............. thats what I am doing now. I hope your ok and I would find new friends, better friends, because if those friends that are you and his mutual friends cared anything about you at all, they would have told you and let you know what was going on, chances are they are better his friends then they were yours. I have been there before too and it sucks big time. I am sorry but you will be ok............. I know it doesn't seem like it, but life does move on and so will you............. blessed be.............
2006-08-31 03:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
He's moved on. Now it's your turn.
What kind of closure are you looking for?
Closure usually is code for wanting to know why the other person didn't think you were the one for them, or you want to verbally lash out at the jerk and teach them a lesson.
The first one is just going to be painful. Let's just assume that the guy is an absolute jerk, and that you did not deserve his B.S., and lets just assume that you'll be better off without all that drama.
He's obviously incapable of making good decisions.
The second one will never happen. People who are selfish, and hurtful do not usually learn from getting an earful from their victim.
They usually learn what an idiot they've been when someone else treats them the way they've been treating others.
It seems to me that he wanted to let you down easy, so rather than to tell the truth, and say that he just didn't want to be with you anymore, he said that he was working a lot, and would pick up with you later on. That's why it's bad to sugar coat rejection.
As for your friends, perhaps they did not realize that you would have thought this bit of info would be important considering that you broke up a while ago. If you know for sure that they knew how you felt about this guy, and you really think that they kept the info from you, I can only figure that they did know you'd be hurt, and did not want to be the ones to break it to you.
Good luck
2006-08-31 04:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was cheated on for months behind my back by a guy I thought was my best friend and my future husband. I don't even know how he found the time because he was so glued to me 24/7 but he did and after I left I knew I couldn't see him or his friends. Personally I don't think you can heal until you separate yourself from his world some more and start meeting other people. Good people are found doing good things so start by taking up some positive projects or volunteer work or EVEN a second job. So many couples meet and fall in love in the work place. Just space yourself from him please, and if you have any stuff that is his or stuff he gave you get rid of it. Don't leave reminders around. You will have enough reminders you need to distract yourself from. You can do it but it takes work to get over someone.
2006-08-31 03:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by JenaMarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to celebrate!!! Celebrate that fact that this LOSER is out of your life!!! He was cheating on you for Christ's sake!!! And he got the girl pregnant, too? Actually, before you celebrate go to the doctor and get every test imaginable. Once you're cleared, get your friends together, go out and have a good time and be happy that you don't even know this clown anymore. Shake the bad feelings off and keep in moving...but always in a more positive and productive direction.
Living well is the best revenge!
2006-08-31 03:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by texanaka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life goes on. I know it may seem like the end of the world, but in reality its best that you found out so that you can move on and find someone who will love you and respect you. Why put up with all the lies and deceptions. As for your "FRIENDS". I would take a good look at what friendship really means.
2006-08-31 03:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by simplepleasure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You no doubt feel very hurt and betrayed, &
not just by this guy either,but also your so
called friends!!!
You have every right to be hurt,and feel what
you are feeling,but time,lots of kleenex tissues,
a few good bottles of sweet tasting wine and
some old classic DVD movies,and some time
to yourself will help,plus writing down your
thoughts and feelings in a private journal,and
there is a good healing place if you want to
talk further to others who've been there or are
there called: enotalone.com
I hope you feel good again,and in time,I know
you will. I did,and because of my ex,I found
someone truly special that I just adore!!!
You will make it,you shall see,ok?
Take care,& stay in touch when you can.
2006-08-31 03:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only thing you can do is to move on.
You have to learn to respect yourself. It doesnt matter how much you love someone there is NO excuse for cheating. NONE.
For you to try to get him back will only make you look desperate, pitiful and seem like you're a bit of a pushover for saying ok I'll overlook it.
You deserve better. Every time you get upset, say that to yourself.
2006-08-31 03:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't nothing for you to do except to move on and thank God for showing you how this guy was before you got more serious with him like marriage. He wasn't for you anyway. He has another woman and she is pregnant with his baby more than likely they will get married and even if they don't they have a bond between them. Let go and let God work it out for you. If he cheated on you then 9 out of 10 chances he is going to cheat on her. Don't waist your time trying to figure out why why why just move on with your life and don't look back. God has someone better for you because HE didn't want you with that junk. God bless you
2006-08-31 03:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you were hurt.
It feels awful, i have to say, as hard as it may feel now, you are so much better off without that kind of sneaky jerk.
He will probably cheat on this other girl too.
Try having fun with friends and go out, dress sexy, do your hair and makeup, and find another GOOD man.
2006-08-31 04:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by chicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋