Why do some spouse fall inlove with other person not their husband or wife?

Answer 1

I think because they get bored.

Answer 2

Sometimes it really is that the person THOUGHT they were in love with who they married but found out it wasn't love.

However, I say this first because it's a short answer, and it's not the right one in the vast majority of cases.

What it usually is is laziness or boredom or some kind of thrill-seeking.

When you first meet someone that interests you, there's a huge chemical surge. Marriages cannot maintain that ALL THE TIME, so people get stupid and think 'waah I'm not in love with my spouse any more' without thinking about it. They meet someone that gives them that drug rush feeling again and they think 'SURELY I must be in love with this person and not my spouse any more.'

That rush-love, (or at it might be lust or infatuation, they all act the same), is a VERY powerful emotion and it makes you crazy and blind if you let it. What most people don't try is to make that happen in the marriage again. You can do it, but it takes work and creativity. Most people don't want to work at it...'I mean shoot, this lust-flash stuff just happens, I don't gotta do nothing to make it go off, why should I put forth the effort?'

Another reason people 'fall' for others is that they're different. If you live with someone long enough, you learn most of their secrets and most of their stories. Unless you do stuff together that will provide interest, you could become bored with them and look at some new person as terribly interesting. Again, if you go looking for this sort of thing, you can blind yourself to the fact that what's new and exciting might not be what's important.

New love is a flaring fire...exciting and dangerous, just as likely to destroy as to do good. Mature love, real love, marriage love is a fire that flared once but is now embers, comforting and comfortable...a way to heat a home or cook a meal...the secret is to be able to stoke it to flames again when necessary and not start a fire in your dust bin for excitement's sake.

Answer 3

i'm unable to respond to for most human beings. yet I actual were married for over two decades and if my spouse died immediately i'll inform you i'd not take my ring off. Why ought to I? i'm not searching for yet another spouse. And if I keep it on.. So what, who am I hurting? in basic terms because my spouse died does not advise that my love has died. If I ever began courting back, i'd take it off if I felt she must be the right one, yet back that's even as i'm waiting.

Answer 4

Its called lust not love and you don't fall in to it. Love is a decision and we choose or refuse to love. Lust on the other hand is part of our nature. Love chooses to please someone else while lust is all about yourself. People get it mixed up all the time and that is why there are so many divorces. The grass is greener where you fertilize it.

Answer 5

Some people are just driven by lust not love. these people should not have gotten married in the first place. they never was really in love with thier spouse in the first place.

Answer 6

as crazy as it may sound, the truth is there is no reason.. sometimes its just their spouses dont pay enough attention. or it can be simply that the peron they married r no the love of their lives, there r so many reasons. but since love is blind there is no one reason. some for lust others for love.

Answer 7

Boredom, disillusioned, unforgiving of past indiscretions, kismet between two people or just not in love with current partner.

Answer 8

since they are cheat thinking theres no such thing as karma bad karma!what u do unto others shall be done unto u

Answer 9

its called cheating.

its the ME generation and attitude.
love used to mean forever.
now it means till something better comes along.

Answer 10

They weren't ready to get married in the first place. And they're asses.