iam troubled,,can anybody help...?

Question

I have a sister with mental illness,she will shout and curse at us everyday out of nothing and she hates my family,especially my father, she always threaten that she will kill him one day..Every night she will pick a quarrel with any of us and shout in the middle of the night and wake up the neighbours .....My mother dotes on her very much as she is sick,she change a handphone almost three times a week !My mother is already broke and she keep wasting my mother's money to satisfy herself as she keep asking my mother to buy handphones for her,there was a time when i had a big quarrel with her and she made me broke my arm,i hate her so much i wish i could kill her or is there anyway to settle this?

Answer 1

she can't help it, so you can't hold it against her.

Answer 2

How awful for you and your sister with the mental illness. I've witnessed an untreated schizophrenic who somehow held it together during work but let loose in my apartment building for hours every day.

It doesn't sound safe and I have to wonder if you feel safe. I don't know if there is a way out. You don't state your age or your sister's age. Has she been to see a psychiatrist? She could go to a training hospital for low cost services. Generally patients take medication to treat their symptoms and it sounds like your sister's medication is not working or she is not taking it. It may be that she should be committed to a hospital until she can be stabilized.

If you are in school I would talk to the school counselor on an ongoing basis. You are getting pushed to the side while your sister receives the attention and your need for a normal home environment has been neglected, although not intentionally.

If you have a tape recorder, maybe you should tape the noise that goes on in the middle of the night and share it with the counselor. This has to be affecting your school work which could have a profound effect on your future.

In many states the police will commit a person to a hospital for a few days if that person appears to be a threat to others and it sounds like your sister meets that standard. If your family is worried about the money it cost to properly treat a mentally ill child, perhaps you could get a job to help with costs provided they agree that your sister can live at home only if she takes her medication. This is where the counselor can help. If a school counselor is not available to you, perhaps your school can help you find low-cost services. Family members with a child like your sister should be in family counseling.

Answer 3

seriously...Ok, you didn't say how old she was... something is not right there by what you described. Your mom may have to deal with some harsh reality that your sister needs some help! If this condition is something your sister truly can not control, and is a possible threat to someone physically, your sister may need to live in a controlled environment, sorry to say that. But if she is mentally ill and has talked of killing someone and caused you to break your arm, your mom(and/or dad) needs to toughen up and get her the help she needs. She is doting over her, how much time is for you and your needs as her other child? Hope things work out for you, sincerely.

Answer 4

I don't know how old you are- if you are old enough, get out. If not, then go to a counselor, someone that might be able to make your parents realize that she may be a danger to the family and apparently IS a danger to the family. Right now, your mom is acting out of guilt. She feels she did something wrong and this is why she dotes on your sister. It is likely that your mom will never turn her back on your sister.
What you need to do, aside from seeking some sort of professional help for yourself, is make sure that you are safe and stay out of your sister's way as much as possible. Realize that she is sick and may not be responsible for her own actions. Try to love her despite all of this but realize that the hate and resentment you feel are completely normal and okay to feel.
Best of luck to you.....take care of yourself.

Answer 5

You don't mention your age and so this is difficult to answer. I'm not a doctor so I'm giving you layman's advice. If your sister is in fact mentally ill as you say, I'm sure she is under some doctor's supervision at some point. If this is the case, ask to have a discussion with the doctor to further understand how to cope with your sister's problem. Understand, that what affects your sister, rains down on the family. To be well informed is sometimes the best tool is dealing with any kind of illness. I don't think you really hate your sister--you just need to understand what is going on with her

Best of luck to you and take care of yourself.

Answer 6

You're obviously dealing with a situation that is more than you or your family can handle. There is help available and you should seek it before your sister does something even more violent than breaking your arm--believe me, it happens a lot! And, you don't need your parents permission to call for help. Start with your local county government and keep asking (you may get redirected a few times) until you get in touch with the people who can help. She probably needs meds and/or inpatient care. At the very least you should call 9-1-1 whenever she scares you!

Answer 7

Tell your mother to stop giving in to your sister.Ok,she has a mental illness,but she's also been spoiled.Tell your mother that you need her too and it seems like your sister is the only one who counts.You should'nt have to put up with broken arms and abuse. Has your family got a social worker who you could talk to,or even your doctor? Good luck,you deserve better.In fact,show your mother your letter and the replies you get on this site

Answer 8

I am sorry to hear your problem. If there any way you can leave home? And still care for and support the rest of your family? And your sister too.? She is ill.

You don't how old you are, if you have a job and all. This information might help people to help you better.

Good luck.

Answer 9

You have to have patience with a person with a mental illness. Maybe she is lashing out because your father abused her in some way and she doesn't know how or who to talk to about it. Fathers don't have as much patience for a child let alone for one with a disability. Try talking to her and ask her questions as to why she hates dad. Ask her if he hurt her in any way and if he hit her or something like that.

Answer 10

look i appreciate that u are in big trouble there is only one way to get through this trouble.just take her to the psychiatrist and get everything checked.and another way is u can be very very friendly with her just whatever you are teaching her teach her in a friendly manner just let her feel that you r very friendly with her so i think at least she can change her attitude or she will try to understand.this situation is very critical but if you will take some efforts so definitely you can overcome from this situation.

Answer 11

There are many organizations that offer counseling for families with a person dealing with a mental illness. You need to find someone to talk to about your own feelings as well as the whole family going together,.