So here it is: I met one guy, we spend a great time in the pub, in the hotel... We used to meet every single day. Everything was OK. But later he told me that he has a baby girl (he came back from Spain some weeks ago). He's not married. Anyway, he has been in jail for a while. His baby girl is six year old. Is it alright for me to be with him? We almost love each other, everything is almost perfect. Would you deal with a guy who is not married, but has a baby? We're in Lithuania, many miles away from his baby. It's past. We do plan our future. I really like him, but I don't know what my parents will say that he's 27 and has a baby. I'm 18. Thank you very much!
2006-08-31 03:12:13 · 23 answers · asked by Vaida M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've seen his mom, dad, brother, I've heard him and his child talking on the phone, and I've burst into tears because of happiness... He hates the mother of his child, in his words: "She's a *****". I must confess firts of all I liked his money. He paid for everything. He doesn't let me to pay. And now I'm waiting for him coming back from his work. Who knows, maybe I'm wrong. But he's lovely and smart by this age. Maybe sometimes I'd like to run away and have more space, but my goal is to come back in his hands.
2006-08-31 03:42:55 · update #1
He's been in jail because of robbery. He had to stay there for six years, but they left him after one and a half because of his good behaviour. Yes, I'm a dreamer. And yesterday we talked about all this. He asked me if I want to be with him. My parents saw him only in the pictures we made in the previous week. I WILL TRY.
2006-08-31 03:47:48 · update #2
Love knows no age , an as long as your ready to be a step-mommy to this girl , i wish you all the luck in the world !
2006-08-31 03:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your only 18 smarten up!! your "many miles away from his baby, its past" NO, First of all a six year old isn't a baby! You said he's been in jail "For a while", not overnite for public drunkeness. What did he do that he was in jail "for a while"? You think your going to have a dream filled wonderful life with this person? You are a dreamer!! You are just 18, he is near 30 and has just too much Baggage! Do you think you can't find anyone else and thats why you will settle for that? Once the lusty passion is over your gonna be left with a bum!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-31 03:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't strange for a 27 year old man to have a child- I would consider that the least of your problems. What you have to watch out for- he has been in jail, that comes with baggage and you have to consider if he would do whatever it is again. The age difference- I know that you can love someone older than you, but that means they have already done the things you are wanting to do (turning 21, college, starting a family- in his case). Also, that baby could come into the future and do you want to take a "mother" role so soon? As someone who has dated a much older man (13 years), I strongly recommend getting out of this relationship. I was fortunate to find a good guy 3 years older than me that is twice the man the old one was. And, it does get better than this guy. Don't settle for "almost" love eachother. Take home the one that you can't be without and that you are proud to introduce to eveyone.
2006-08-31 03:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if you feel like you really love this guy and you can deal with all the baggage this guy is carrying then go ahead, but just be warned he is older than you and he does have a baby. That also means that the relationship wouldn't just be about you and him, it would also involve his baby, and quite possibly his baby's momma. His baby would always be in between your relationship, no matter how far away she is, and the mother would probably be calling about the baby or just become jealous of your relationship with him, could you handle it if his ex still kept calling even though they are not together anymore? think this thru very carefully, if its what you want and you think you can handle then go for it!! but if your having any doubts even just one you need to run in the other direction.
GOOD LUCK IN ALL THIS HOPE IT TURNS OUT ALRIGHT!! :)
2006-08-31 03:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by ojitos_de_angel182005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything is almost ok. He HAS been in jail for awhile. He HAS a baby. He IS 27 and you are only 18 . How many red flags do you need before you go running in the other direction ! I am thinking you are in lust not love. Find someone better suited for you younger without all the baggage that this guy is carrying.
2006-08-31 03:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by chemicalCourtney 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you like him and want to see where things will go then yes it is fine to be with him!! Just because he is not married and has a child that is ok!! You should be more worried why he was in jail then his baby!! But hey you can only do what makes you happy if it makes your parents mad they will get over it sooner or later!! It is your choice if you want to be with him or not!!!
2006-08-31 03:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by onesexyg18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was your parent, I can't say I'd be pleased with the age difference. But I firmly believe that these things work their way out, and while it may be hard at first, the initial shock will wear off.
As for his child, there's nothing wrong with that...even if she becomes part of your lives, a child is a lovely thing and should be loved back.
Good luck, take things at a good pace, be honest with people and don't be afraid!
2006-08-31 03:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by chicgirl639 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
My opinion to u is to leave him because he might have a baby from u also when both of u are not in ur control after drinking in a pub & then u will have to face too many difficulties.
So, its better to leave him right now.
Anyway, this is just a friendly advice. Do whatever u like as I m nobody toi nterfere in ur personal relation.
Treat this as my suggestion
Thanks
Take Care
2006-08-31 03:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by RICKY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be sure he can stay out of jail. Then maybe we can go from there. He left one child behind will he do that to you. So you need to get some answers to those questions, raising a child alone want be a fun adventure.
2006-08-31 03:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by bsure32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can tell you what is right and wrong in your relationship but you. If it feels right go for it but have your guard up. Why was he in jail and why doesn't he have his child are just a couple of questions you need the answers for. Who knows this may work out in the end and everybody will be happy.
2006-08-31 03:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know i am not a girl but my only concern is that he has been in jail for awhile. Does he support that baby? If he does thats fine and if he does not, what if you get together and have a baby will he talk care of you and the baby. But it is your decision but I would be careful.
2006-08-31 03:20:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋