Don't know what to do help me out? Mens and Womens only?

Question

I am still having a problem with my boyfriend of 4 years, I have forgiving him for what he has done to me when he was communicating and texting his ex, which he probably is still doing but I don't worry because I know he will get his payback. The problem now is that everytime he sees a woman with a big butt he
have to just stare at it. If we are driving down the room he slows down to look, if we are in a resturant he has to get up just to walk by and look at her butt and I catches him all the time but sometimes when i look at him when he is doing it he tries to play it off this is all the time when we are together no matter what if he sees a woman with a big butt he got to see it someway, some how and that hurts me to see him do that. I love my boyfriend and I want to marry him one day but when I see him doing this I really get upset. Why do you think he is doing that all the time? Sometimes I think he just want to go riding in certain areas just to see womens walking just to look.

Answer 1

Do you really want to be with a guy that doesn't respect you? That is what it really is. He does not respect you. If he did, he wouldn't do it in front of you. Most men are dogs and they are going to do this, but most have sense not to do in front of their women. So you have to make the decision. I am sure you have told him how you felt about this, but he keeps on right? That is disrespect. If he doesn't respect you now, he will never. In the long run, he may get worse. He may decide to start touching too.

Answer 2

Okay first you really need to take a deep breath because you getting upset will not change anything but make you more upset. I have been married for 4 years now and my husband since the day we started dating has always looked at other women, specially their butts. He is a butt man and he will tell you that is the reason we got married. It does hurt my feelings when I see him looking but I just let him know I caught him staring. He usually feels bad and stops looking but as soon as the next one passes by there is a 98% chance he will do it again. Just let him know you are there and you caught him and that it does bother you. He is a guy and mo matter what we say or do the whole looking at other women will never change . I hope this helps. I really know how you feel but "remember he can look as long as he doesn't buy the merchandise". Also he always comes back to you so that should tell you something.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Men are visual creatures hun. They're always going to look. You should be so lucky if all he is doing is looking.

My theory: You want him to do it in front of you...because if he doesn't, he is doing something you don't want to see behind closed doors.

You've been with him for 4 years dear...you should be secure enough in the relationship to know he is just looking-he's not doing anything.

If it really bothers you that much-speak up! Things don't get fixed if you don't address the problem. If he cares that much-he will make a valid effort. But don't expect him to stop completely. It's ridiculous.

Answer 5

Well, it seems to me he likes having this control over you. He knows it hurt you but does it anyway because he can control your feelings. Try some reverse psychology. YOU talk about them. "Wow hun, she has a great A**! howd ya like to hit that?" LOL. See his jaw hit the floor.

Then play the game back. Check out those other tight behinds on men. When your B/F gets uncomfortable, thats when you can sit down and talk.

But it sounds to me like he is more interested in himself that you. I.E. texting his ex, etc...
Sometimes they don't change.

Do you love him or the idea of being in love?
Maybe you should also pick up and move on. If he comes back to you, it's meant to be. But he needs to change a bit.

Best advice I can give, is if you both give 90% and take 10%, and BOTH do it, you can never go wrong.

I am 25 and been with my hubby for 10 years. :)

Answer 6

I used to have this same problem with my boyfriend. There is absolutely no way I would ever tolerate my boyfriend looking at other females let alone their behinds! Fortunately, I was able to break my boyfriends bad habit's. At least this is how he described it. He said that it was second nature to look at a girl and that he was just plain used to it. Alot of the times, he explained that he's not even aware that he's even looking at another woman. But I see him each and every time. When I see him looking, I would display my dissatisfaction by not talking to him. If I don't talk to him, frown, make no eye contact with him and make very little conversation with him he will then get the hint that something is wrong. And that's when I would look him in the eye and explain that I don't appreciate him disrespecting me by looking at other woman. I would tell him this in a very firm voice so that he will know that I'm upset and the problem is very serious. Each time I saw him looking, I would repeat the same process. I would not talk to him, frown, make little conversation or even roll my eyes at him. At one time, I even reverted to start checking out other guys in front of him but it didn't have the same effect. Anyway, my boyfriend hated when I got upset with him so doing this to him really got under his skin. The looking kept continuing so I started raising my voice at him in public asking him "what the heck are you looking at her for? Does she have something I don't have? If she does, then maybe you need to go be with her!!" I have been with my b/f for 2 years and love him deeply and would consider maybe marrying him. I eventually got tired of his looking and got tired of us arguing about it so I told him that if his looking at other woman is worth us ending the relationship, then so be it! Because I will not keep having him disrespect me by looking at other woman in my presence. I was very direct when I told him this, and he knew I was serious. I knew he did not want to break up with me so it was either cut the looking at other woman, or run the risk of losing me so guess what? His wandering eye has dramatically decreased. I am no joke and I do not play when it comes to this type of disrespect. I honestly would have ended the relationship if his wandering eye did not improve. I hope my story helps you with making the right decision, and stand up to your man and let him know that what he is doing will NOT be tolerated!

Answer 7

haha this is really interesting! see ur boy friend is not a bad type, even many guys will do the same. I am sorry for that it hurts u! no problem u boyfriend will change very soon after ur marriage..
its human nature to look at ladies like this, never mind this ok this will not make any diff in ur married llife!!

Answer 8

I have a beautiful beagle female dog. I am not sure if her butt is big or not but your boyfriend reminds me of the other dogs that find their way in to my yard when she comes in heat. I would marry a different kind of guy. Sorry. And I am a guy.

Answer 9

time to move on to many men out there that is willing to love ur butt only.a man that will look at some one eles wile u are still there is not a man move on fine the one that will look at u and only u

Answer 10

He is basically giving you the biggest sign in your relationship... you're getting old to him and he wants something new.. girl if he keeps looking like that.. he will start touching it too. I know this is not what you want to hear... but ask a guy... if it's been four years and he's looking else where... he's tired. It sounds like to me your tired here too.