Does age matter when you love each other and about to have a baby?

Question

Shouldn't you stay together, even if your family disapproves of the person you love.

If they want you to stop seeing the man you love forever and have an abortion. Do you do it? When you love him so much and are looking forward to your first child?

Answer 1

Well the question of the baby is for you alone to answer love, though I'm sure advice would be appriciated it should not be given on wether you keep it. If you decide to have this baby with this dude then the question of wether age matters now becomes irrelevent as the only thing you 2 should worry about is being together to lookafter that baby as the only important question NOW is what can i do to make a great life for my baby, the most important thing that will ever enter my life

Answer 2

I checked your profile, and noticed that this is your first and only question. I’d really like to help you, but you’ve given me very little information to work on. Perhaps you might like to add some additional information to help people understand your situation a bit better. Things like… How old you and your boyfriend are… How long you have known the boyfriend for… Whether he is your first… Whether he is able to (or would) look after you if you decided to leave home… Why your family disapproves of him.

I read your response to the last question you answered, and I appreciate your strong views on the subject. You need to appreciate however, that your family do love and care for you very much, and no doubt they do have your best interest at heart. You are their daughter, and they do love you very much!!!

I’m guessing that you are still quite young, and probably still going to school. Basically, you have a whole life still ahead of you. Decisions you make now, may well affect you for many years to come.

I can’t tell you what you should do in relation to you having a baby. I will say that I am not a fan of ‘abortion’, and that I believe it should be seen as a very last resort, especially when the alternative of ‘adoption’ respects the baby’s ‘right to life’ and affords many childless couples who are unable to have a baby of their own, the chance to be the parents they’d dearly love to be. Having said that, I would also respect your decision, if you chose to keep the baby and attempt to raise it yourself. Whether you can do that without the support of your family is something I don’t know.

I do sympathise with what you are going through. At the same time, I appreciate where your parents are coming from. Their ‘disapproval’ of your boyfriend may well be justified, and ‘time’ may well prove them to be right.

I’m sorry I can’t give you the answers you need. Hopefully, there are some young mothers online who can help you better than I can.

I hope everything works out for you… Good luck!!!

Answer 3

i think that age shouln't really matter. i mean, to some degree it does. you shouldn't be a 17 yr old going out with a 25 yr old. but at the same time, if you are, and you do get pregnant, don't ever let someone else make that decision. don't ever let you're parents influence wether or not you have an abortion. that is you're baby, you're life, you're decision. i do not believe that abortion is right by any means, but if you do that, you're going to have to live with it, not you're parents. you are going to be the one that has to deal with the issue years down the road. i know a lot of people that got abortions because they're parents made them during high school...and they now regret it and it hasn't even been a year later.

if you love him and got pregnant, keep the baby. if you decide you don't want the baby, there is always adoption.

Answer 4

Age is very important, and plays a vital role in this matter. This is a baby we are talking about. If you are underage, then, parental/guardian guidance is inevitable, if you love each other, then get on with your lives. Your family should be ashamed of themselves, telling you to have an abortion, I totally disagree with abortion, unless, under compassionate grounds. Concentrate and look after your health, there is a big bundle of joy coming your way and both of you would have to take full responsibilities, surely this baby deserves love and care by both parents.

Answer 5

You should do what is in your heart. Don't make your decision based solely on your parents disapproval. If your parents are one of the biggest things in your life and you might lose them-it's different.

I think it's impossible for us to tell you if you should have the baby or not. We don't know if you're ready. My mom once told me "It doesn't matter how old you are or if you think you're ready....it's never the right time to have a baby" It just means its an experience that no one is prepared for.

Think very hard about this decision. If you have any doubt-don't do it. It would be something you will regret for the rest of your life dear.

Answer 6

It all depends. If you are 15 and he is 35. THen your family has a right to be concerned. He 97% may not stick around to raise you and a child when he can have a woman with her own life and money. if you are 20 and he is 35 then it is a decision that you 2 will have to make together. You are old enough to make your own choice. Just note a baby does not keep a man neither does YOUR loving HIM forever. He has to want to be there too.

Answer 7

i don't believe in abortion so i don't know you or your baby's daddy but the baby is innocent to all this if you are not of age or responsible consider other options but if you can do this be strong and grow up for you are now a mother , i was a mother at age 16 and married the father of my baby my parents disproved but we had two children and been married for 28 years so it will take hard work together. good luck

Answer 8

How old r u?I think if u r old enough than keep the baby and ur man.But it is a big big thing to have a baby.It will change the rest of your life 4 ever.And think about the baby and want would be right for them.Life has its way of working things out.Hang in there I wish u all the luck kiddo!!!!

Answer 9

It's nothing to do with either of your family. This is between you and him and your unborn child.

Unless of course you are under the age of consent in which case he is breaking the law.

No one can make you have an abortion if you don't want it.

Answer 10

You should always listen to your parents advice, but if they are telling you to have an abortion then you need to tell them to back off. You should never get an abortion. If you can't take care of the baby then give it up for adoption. About the man, if you love him then be with him, but be careful.

DONT KILL YOUR BABY!!!!!