I am getting married in 3 weeks and the last few days I have been feeling really uneasy, like having all these what ifs going through my head, how do I know he will be faithful, how do I know it will last forever, I only want to be married once in my life, and I love my fiance more than anything, but I feel scared lately. Is that normal.
We have a great relationship, but I feel like their is a little distance every now and again, but I think its more paronoia on my part then anything. How do I settle these fears.
2006-08-31 02:09:11 · 20 answers · asked by shrimpseys 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thank you all for your kind words. I really feel so much better, and I talked to my man about how I was feeling, we had a few laughs. After he went back to work I put on my dress, with all the stuff, veil, jewelry, everything, and all the excitement came flowing back. I think I was just getting overwelmed. (my period in coming! lol) thanks again.
2006-08-31 09:08:53 · update #1
This is my 401st answer....congratulate me!!
dont be scared...enjoy it...you say you want to be married only once...so all the more reason
2006-08-31 02:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by rekha c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you been doing the planning yourself? I'll bet you're tired. People don't think as clearly when they're pooped.
And it is very normal to start thinking the way you are. You are making a very BIG & IMPORTANT, life-altering step into the unkown. Your life is about to change forever. The questions you raise, you can't answer; because you don't know. No one does. You step out in love & faith that this is the man you want to spend your life with.
Expect some more of the same as the date draws closer. You may even start to do some reflecting on the past (which can be very good) and maybe even some weird dreams.
If you are certain that you love this man, & want to go the distance with him, then don't worry.
But if there have been red flags that you've ignored, now is the time to take stock of that.
2006-08-31 02:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has wedding jitters - some more than others.
This is a big step in a person's life and we all live in fear of failing. If your fiance is the love of your life and you his, you have nothing to worry about. There will always be a period of adjustment which is normal.
Remember for it to work you both need to want it to work and you both need to be committed. Compromise and communication are the two most important things in your relationship.
I just got married in July and we are in the adjustment stage. Congratulations to you both. May you be happy and healthy and may your love last forever.
2006-08-31 06:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ashnal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i remember when i got married i was feeling the same way. then a older lady stopped me and started talking. she said i had a glow and felt i was getting married. she continued to ask me how did i feel. before i knew it i was telling her everything my concerns and fears. she stopped to me to say baby marriage is a serious thing and we go into all kinds of situations where we don't know the outcome. Stop worrying about the minor things and praise GOD for sending him ur way. Even though that didn't end my worries I just simply started praying. Things happen for a reason. Just remember that just because u are getting married that don't mean that all the problems of everyday life are going to end. Getting married means talking understanding and praying. Loving the person u are with and praying that if anything happens that might damper ur smile that u have the strength to hold ur head up. Their will be small glitches but remember if u love him that's all that matters.
~Lovely Me~
2006-08-31 05:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have named it correctly - jitters. Your nerves and emotions are getting the best of you and so your thought process is running a little goofy right now, that is natural. Have yourself a great wedding day and don't worry about what might be or you'll spoil the whole relationship. Live each day as if it were your last and communicate throughout your married life and you will grow old together and be happy. Congratulations and best of luck.
2006-08-31 02:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with you fiance and have a talk.. In all likelyhood he is also feeling some pre wedding jitters as well... Open communication and you will find that sharing your hopes, dreams, fears and jitters with him will lead to resolution...
Everyone has pre-wedding jitters don't allow them to build to the boiling point, get them out on the table...
2006-08-31 05:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people get jittery. Try to stay busy. I didn't get jittery because I just kept saying I love him and I know this is what I want. I was so happy my dad said at the rehearsal night that he had never seen a bride so happy and excited. But I'm a girl who goes after what she wants. I would tell him how you feel, most likely he is going through the same thing.
2006-08-31 05:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was extremely calm the day of my wedding, and that surprised me because I am a very nervous person. To me it further signified I was making the right decision. It sounds like it just might be jitters, but you better make sure you're making the right decision too. Sometimes it's a sign that the other person isn't really the one for you.
2006-08-31 02:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds more like jitters to me than real 2nd thoughts. planning a wedding is very stressful. but you can't know that he will be faithful, or that it will last forever. there is no way for you or anyone to know these things, you just have to trust.
talk to him, he may be having some of the same jitters. if you can't talk to him then you do have a serious problem
2006-08-31 07:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think it's good your nervous... so many people jump into marriage without thinking about it or knowing the person very well. It's very natural to be nervous when your basically committing your entire life to one person. Take a deep breath and try to relax... do something to take your mind off the wedding... it's prob the stress of planning is wearing you down too... I would hit the gym, swim go get a spa treatment... do something to make yourself relax!!
2006-08-31 02:18:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal.
Those questions you cannot ponder and worry about, You wont ever know if He will be faithful, how do you know he isnt worrying about you being faithful. Life happens- worrying WONT change anything. Just live one day at a time. Make long term goals for yourself, and as a couple. You will be fine.
Congrats and God Bless
2006-08-31 02:17:53 · answer #11 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋