I dunno what to think of my neighbor.. She's really really beautiful n blonde n she's 23 a year younger than me.. but she has a bf, yet i drop her off n pick her up from work everday n then we go home together.. we go to clubs together n bars n for past two years we've been like the closest friends.. When we go to parties she sits on my lap all the time, she's always with me.. we pretty much go everywhere together.. i've gotten in so many bar fights for her its not even funny anymore.. I even pick her up from her bf's house most of the time cuz she doesn't like to drive.. I've been to her parents' house like a hundred times.. we've slept together twice in her sister's house cuz there wasn't an extra guest bedroom..
2006-08-31 01:58:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just hope she doesn`t think u are gay or something like that ... you`ve got a big problem dude ... make a move u`ll know then or just ask her ... damn ur 24 ...huh good luck
2006-08-31 02:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by Spike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hmmm, difficult question.
She is your close friend and as such if you try...you may lose her, but on the other hand, staying together, spending so much time together may make her have feelings for you too.
I think that you should not just say it like a bomb, but ask her what she really thinks about you, what does she thinks about her present relationship...(is it smth serious or not), etc.
Then one day give her flowers, look into her eyes and tell her that she is beautiful.
She will understand the kind of look you are giving her.
Give her some hints time after time, to make her understand that you like her and that you think about her not just like a friend but as smth more than that.
Everyday try saying smth that will make her understand that.
And if you see and get that she REALLY doesn't want to see you in that way, then honey it's better if you reassure her about your friendship. In any case make her understand that you'll always be there for her, if she accepts to be your girlfriend or not.
I just wish that you two get together.
Best of luck
2006-08-31 02:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all three of you are confused. What does he supply her with? You probably come into contact with him regularly too, don't you? Her commitment factor is pretty weak, but it also sounds like you give her the freedom to make her own choices.
Asking her to marry you could just seem like flattery to her. And she may accept your proposal. If she does accept, you may end up leading a life like this for a very long time. Can you handle that? Not knowing who she is really committed to?
If she learns of God's love for her, she can be freed of this uncertainty. A lot of people have heard of God's love, but it is entirely different to feel it. Once she honestly feels God's love, she will be able to take your committment seriously and will be faithfull to you because God will help her to see that you love her too. And that you aren't flattering her with yet another proposal (a dime a dozen for her).
You will be wise to test her love for you and for God. (tough love)
Be gentle, forgiving, patient and always give her the freedom to choose. Just as you have the freedom to choose.
Honestly, I think you both would be lost without the other.
2006-08-31 02:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by so what do you think? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think she is using you. If she has a boyfriend, you are the "in case of emergency break glass " guy. Some chicks need a back up. You should get a real girlfriend and see how she likes it. You should think that she is immature. You should know that she likes the attention.
2006-08-31 02:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by rchbrk6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope she isn't stringing you along to use you. You should think of her as your hot next door neighbor that's already taken. Don't get into another fight over a woman who isn't yours, you have feelings too, and what if she decides to just be a lap partner forever and still see her bf?
2006-08-31 02:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey if u love her just say so..no problem even if she has a bf...becoz times may change and may be they will break......if u say what u feel for her the burden will be off u and u will feel nice....at least this hide and seek is going to end... right?
and well if all this is just lust (it`s damn difficult to figure out what is love and what id lust ) just try and if she doen`t agree leave her to her fate...they are lots of gals more charming than her...u have to just look for them that`s it..so cheer up chap and all the best....
2006-08-31 02:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she likes being friends with you
just the way things are. If she wants it to get
more serious you'll know it.
You can always try asking her how she feels
and if she'd like to take it deeper?
Why not just ask her?
2006-08-31 02:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a break and think. sometimes you are taken for granted and there is nothing in the girls mind. If you can ask her about the nature and future of your relationship then ask.
However, if you are enjoying this relationship, then keep it going
2006-08-31 02:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by arooon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she's a real good friend of urs! look at how much she trusts u! thats really nice of her! i am kinda jealous of ur friendship. both of u share an amazing bond of friendship! think of her like ur best friend n b happy abt having such a lovely friend! take care
2006-08-31 02:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by sushmitasen007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about what she thinks of what you two are doing and tell her about your oen feelings and through that you will both find a way foward
2006-08-31 02:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by ntu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋