I saw him pulling out of a drive. When I asked him if he pulled out of this particular drive he denighed it. Then, a few weeks later I saw him pull out of the same drive and asked him again if he did this. He said that I must be seeing things and asked me what business he would have on that road. He still will not admit that he ever did this. I love him, but , now I am suspicious of him. Is there any hope for a relationship where the other person is dishonost with you? He tells me he loves me and he has asked me to marry him. At this point though, all I can do is think about what else he may be lying to about. Should I just break it off with him?
2006-08-31 01:21:49 · 24 answers · asked by gofigure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yup... if there's no trust, there's no love..
and if there's no love, there's no relationship
i'd talk to him one last time, and tell him that you know it was him in the driveway. either he explains himself, or it's over. if he comes up with the truth, fine.. if not, he's only asking you to marry him so that you stick with him and it makes him look right..
run far, far away
2006-08-31 01:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are absolutely sure that it was him that you saw then you should tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him that you cannot marry someone who is dishonest with you and that you couldn't spend your life worrying about whether or not he is being truthful with you. Lack of trust makes it almost impossible to have a happy relationship it causes resentment, pain, stress, and eventually the destruction of the relationship. If he truly loves you he will admit to what he has done and if he does it comes down to you to trust if he will make the same mistakes again. But, people are notorius for repeating the same mistakes. If you go on and marry him without resolving this he will think he has gotten away with it and very well beleive he can in the future. If he will not admit to it and continues to lie, then your best interest is to end the relationship instead of spending more time with him when you could be with someone honest who will treat you as you should be treated.
2006-08-31 01:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a matter of trust.
In the real world couples often have small lies or white lies (did you put the milk carton in the recycle ?) This is not a sign of infidelity but more probably insecurity. However when there is a real deception things are different.
I would not want to make any assumptions about your partner but I would think it important that you let him know why you are troubled by what he has said and why you are asking him
2006-08-31 01:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by Andy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are absolutely sure it was him and his car then confront him again and if he still denies it then things dont look good for the pending marriage. Trust is such a big issue and is very necessary in any relationship - I know trust does get broken by both sides but dont knowingly go into a marriage with doubts - you will not be happy and you are talking about the rest of your lives. Find out what he expects from you and you from him and I am sure trust will be very high on the list. Good Luck
2006-08-31 01:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by PERCY L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break it off without trust a relationship just won't work. You caught him and he just denied it, not even a phony excuse. You need to find someone you can trust. If you can imagine the next twenty years always wondering if he is telling you lies then you will knwo why it wont work.
2006-08-31 01:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jim C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lying is not permissable in any realtionship but nobody's perfect. all of us have told lies at a certain point of time in our life. i agree that lies don't come in colours, that there's no such thing as a white lie. but knowing him as your boyfriend, will you trust that his "lying" has nothing to do with another female? and that there might be other reasons for him pulling out of that particular drive? if so, i suggest you not to jump into conclusion. i believe time will tell and if he really love you, you'll know it.
2006-08-31 01:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, although I don't know how to help you, I could tell you jokes to help you feel better. The jokes goes:
-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?
One more joke:
A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.
Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!
2006-08-31 01:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that you need tosit down and really talk to him. If you are sure that you saw him then tell him. Communication is a major key to a healthy relationship. Maybe it really wasnt him and you are just suspicious of him or maybe it really was him and he doesnt want to tell you. Tell him how you feel and if it does end up in a break it will be OK.
2006-08-31 01:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by Amy Renee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i am going through sort of the same right now.... and i wander how i will ever be able to believe him again ....and i have lost trust in him...it may not be anything but if they have to lie to you, then it is wrong....i do not like a liar and they try to make it out like it is just us and not what they have done...i have been through this before and if i can not trust him then i do not think we have any future at all....you have to decide for yourself...but i am losing mine at this time...i care for him but i can not trust him and so it will never work....you will never know if he is telling you the truth...even over little things....
2006-08-31 01:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by sanangel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him then your relationship will go no where. He will get tired of being accused and you will get tired of feeling like you are being lied to. A relationship is built upon trust. If you can't trust him then what is the point? So my advice is to know FOR SURE that it is him. When you know for sure and he still doesn't admit to it... then you take action...
2006-08-31 01:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by carmel_gurlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋