my b/f of 2yrs has recently began treating me very rude and hurting my feelings non stop.he said being around me&talking to me stresses him out&that he wasnt happy being with me any more&didnt want a relationship.he cant tell me what it is thats making him unhappy...he just says 'i dont know' to almost every question i ask him&if i dont understand his reasoning&keep asking, he gets pissed&walks away&wont speak to me any longer.he has repeatedly broke my heart here recently.he broke up with me a week ago...&a month ago we were talking about getting married&planning on becoming engaged.how does something like this happen?he was my world and my life.im not complete without him&have a hard time going on to college everyday&just basically waking up in general&facing the day.i cant get him to show any respect to me&the first time i say something he doesnt like he starts to treat me like crap.is getting back 2gether an option?i tried to talk to him, & he says 'i dont know'
2006-08-31 01:12:59 · 15 answers · asked by jessie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He might be afraid that things are moving too fast because you said you spoke about getting engaged about a month ago and this is his way of putting the brakes on taking the relationship to the next level. Were you the one who initiated, or maneuvered him into talking engagement and marriage?
He might be feeling parental pressure to back off if he discussed this with his parents and they feel the time is not right for an engagement. He may not want to discuss the fact that he spoke to his folks about it with you.
He might be attracted to someone else right now and is either torn between you two, or he wants to actually make a break with you. Sometimes men will be mean to a woman they want to breakup with so that she breaks up with them thereby relieving them of the responsibility and guilt feelings. (I personally would not do it but make him tell me.)
You can continue the way things are now and hope the relationship improves or risk it deteriorating until it ends. You can back off and give him some space so he doesn't feel cornered or threatened. You can let the relationship go - the "if you love someone let them go...", number.
In any case, your communication and trust has reached a standstill and an impasse so the relationship is being strangled unless something changes soon.
Sorry.
2006-08-31 01:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, although I don't know how to help you, I could tell you jokes to help you feel better. The jokes goes:
-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?
One more joke:
A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.
Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!
2006-08-31 01:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not believe it now, you may think you will just die if you don't get back together with him, but believe me, he is doing you a favor! Learn to let go when the signs point in that direction. Love is a two way street. If one of you isn't interested in the relationship anymore, move on with your life until the next Mr. Wonderful stumbles into your path. Sometimes it just don't work out. When this happens, resolve to learn from the relationship and move on.
Good luck
2006-08-31 01:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. Their someone out their who wont treat you like that. I was in the same situation. It must be that 2 year mark or something...hahahah. It will hurt for a while but you will feel relived that you dont have that kind of drama in your life. Go out and have a night of fun with your friend. let loose.. Good luck
2006-08-31 03:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by starmoeshadance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you just leave him alone for sometimes..perhaps 1 month..For you to think whether you really need this kind of man to be your future husband as i really see that even you both get married, it's not gonna work...The problems lie with him not you gal..
I think i understand what your bf is feeling as i'm like that to my bf..sometimes i just hate talking to him..and whenever i talk to him,i feel frustrated and everything he say is wrong..i also don't know why i feel this way..it's not that i don't love him..it's just that i feel he pisses me somehow..so i think the best is to take a little break to let you both think about what you both really wants..perhaps you both or rather you are just being used to himand not really into him..cos i don't see a husband material in him...
2006-08-31 01:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by barelyahrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may i ask if the change in his attitude came before or after your discussion for an engegement? if it is after, it may be due to pre-martial nerves. he's probably freaked out at the prospect marriage and life-time commitement. try talking to his friends and buddies.. they may provide you with a better insight to the situation. whether you ended up with or without patching up with him, remember that love is not about being with a person 24/7. it's about bringing happiness to the one you love.
2006-08-31 01:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you talked of marriage and then he started treating you like this, it's because he wants to back out. He figures if he treats you bad enough, you'll walk away. My guess is that he's got cold feet.
2006-08-31 01:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there & done that, time for you to move on & find someone better, stay strong & know that the
right guy is out there for you
if this guy you are talking about can't be happy w/ himself
then he will never be happy w/ you either !
2006-08-31 01:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you start talking about getting married or did he?? He may be afraid of commitment and of losing his independence. It's either that or he is seeing someone else.
2006-08-31 01:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by Strass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is under some kind of stress an he is venting anger on u.........
Or maybe he dun love u anymore an he doesnt know how to react to u so he treats u badly......
2006-08-31 01:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by windy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋