my b/f of 2yrs has recently began treating me very rude and hurting my feelings non stop.he said being around me&talking to me stresses him out&that he wasnt happy being with me any more&didnt want a relationship.he cant tell me what it is thats making him unhappy...he just says 'i dont know' to almost every question i ask him&if i dont understand his reasoning&keep asking, he gets pissed&walks away&wont speak to me any longer.he has repeatedly broke my heart here recently.he broke up with me a week ago...&a month ago we were talking about getting married&planning on becoming engaged.how does something like this happen?he was my world and my life.im not complete without him&have a hard time going on to college everyday&just basically waking up in general&facing the day.i cant get him to show any respect to me&the first time i say something he doesnt like he starts to treat me like crap.is getting back 2gether an option?i tried to talk to him, & he says 'i dont know'
2006-08-31 01:12:23 · 18 answers · asked by jessie 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You need to sit him down and talk to him. You need to tell him upfront that you deserve something more of a response then just "I don't know". If he is going to break up with you and act like a jerk to you then he needs to have a legitimate reason.
Now, don't get nasty with him but be stern about how you feel and make it clear that you deserve reasons. You can't just walk away from a two year relationship without an explanation.
You mentioned getting married and being engaged, maybe the idea of an ultimate commitment is what is scaring him. This is very possible. He may have come to the realization that he is going to tie himself down with just one person and he's scared.
When you sit him down to talk, bring this up to him and ask him if this is why he's acting the way he has been. If he can't provide reasons and continues on with his childish behavior, well then it's time to move on sweetheart. It's hard to break away from someone we have invested so much time in and care deeply for, but if he can't show you the same respect and feelings you show for him, then ask yourself is it even worth it anymore?
Good luck with him and if things don't work out just remember your still young (going to college now) and there will be plenty of other men you'll meet.
2006-08-31 01:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are not self-confident, if you consider another person to be your whole world. Seriously think about putting yourself first. You are a beautiful person who does not deserve crap from anyone - including yourself. Don't put yourself down. You deserve a beautiful relationship - and need to let him and his problems with committment and communication go.
Consider starting a journal. Write down 3 statements each day that are true about you, that are wholely positive, and that are about things that you are, or things that you can do. Such as - I can read. I am a helpful person. I can change the oil in a car's engine. (These are true - about me.) Try to write down 3 new things each day - but if you can't think of anything new, re-read your prior pages and write ones you have already written. It works to help you understand yourself and it reminds you of how good you already are and what good you already do.
If this does not help, you may want to get your blood sugar and insulin levels checked. You may want to visit www.hufa.org for more info on blood sugar.
2006-08-31 08:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably your boyfriend has started seeing other girl. Cant you be more strong emotionally and realise that he is not the only guy on this planet.
When he is negelecting & humiliating you, better u leave the matter as its now & wait.If his feelings & love was true towards you, definitely he will repent for it and come back to you.
If not, take things easy and remember life is all about changes. Accept the fact and look forward to a new venture.
2006-08-31 08:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by radiance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should move on. I wouldn't marry him unless this is how you want to be treated indefinetly. It sounds like he is cheating and doesn't know how to tell you so he is trying to get rid of you. There are men out there who will love and respect you, if you are in college you are young and have time to find the right guy. Don't settle for a looser go find mr right.
2006-08-31 08:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by mistypa12000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? He obviously has some major problems with you. Have yuo ever thought that maybe he has another person that he is seeing. You shouldn't wrap your whole world around him. There are plenty of other things in life to be around and do like concentrating on your college work. Don't give him the satisfaction of hurting you anymore. I did that with a boyfriend i had on and off for eight years. He treated me like crap most of the time threw me out of the house and left my stuff on the sidewalk. He moved me out real fast then he moved in with me after we got back together and i ended up throwing him out of the house. Now we got back together and he has started to treat me like crap again and now i don't want him back because all he does is hurt me. You are young you will bounce back i am 46 divorced three times and recently started dating a guy i went to school with. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing that he is hurting you.
2006-08-31 08:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's HARD!!!!!!!! What you have to do is give him the cold shoulder. You don't HAVE to be around him so it will be easier. Volunteer for some groups, ask your teachers if they need an assistant for class, hang out with other friends. You are so young and this boy doesn't seem to know what he wants. (I've been through this so I am talking from experience) Live for YOU, and maybe he'll respect you more, see you as something more than a clinging female. GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-31 08:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like the problem is his, and you should do what you need to do to protect your well being. if you were talking about getting married a month ago and now he's not sure, he's the flaky one, and he is the one doing the stressing. trust me, you will be complete again, and even be happy again once you let yourself get over him. do not let him back in your life, because he will just repeat this behavior again and again. you need someone saner. make yourself go to college, because if nothing else, it will be a diversion. immerse yourself in your studies. you can and will fall in love again, and hopefully the next time it won't be with an idiot.
2006-08-31 08:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by Debi K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me, it seems like he may be interested, or is involved with another girl... And being around you makes him feel guilty... You don't deserve to be treated that way. I know it will be hard, but try to let him go. Ignore him. And do what you gotta do. If it's meant to be, it will work out... Good luck
2006-08-31 08:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is over but you can't let go so it is time to let him go. If he is not happy with you then the relationship will not work. Find someone else that you are better suited for. Good Luck
2006-08-31 08:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has moved on. It's time for you to do the same. In his mind he has broken up with you and cannot understand why you keep pressing him... If you keep pushing him to stay with you he will end up hating you instead of keeping you as a forever memory...
2006-08-31 08:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋