how can you be sure if a girl is interested in you?

Question

a girl can smile at you but how do tell whether if she is just being polite or hinting otherwise?and how to tell if she is really presentin opports for you to know her better?

Answer 1

Hey, I saw your question...I was really looking for another subject of interest but when I saw your question, I thought I might entertain the thought that you posed in your question...

Well let me introduce myself..I'm BlackHat..and all the information that I am going to give you, should be credited to all the people who took the time to teach people like myself about women and now I don't mind teaching it to you...

Your question was 'how can you be sure if a girl is interested in you?'....

You also added another comment underneathe the question in which you stated the following...

(I know I sound professional..I don't talk like this with women.. I just like sounding important when giving advice to people...not to girls of course)

....... You said..a girl can smile at you but how do you tell whether if she is just being polite or hinteing otherwise? And, How to tell if she is really presenting opports for you to know her better?

Well to start with....the way a girl determines their decision about you...depends on you!!

Sounds kinda backwards..I know it doesn't make sense..but trust me this is true..

When I say it depends on you I mean...you need to understand how women think and why?

Well first...I want you to notice something about reality...I know pretty sure that when you and your friends go to the mall and walk around and notice a lot of couples walking around...I know sometimes you see something that makes no sense..

For instance...you may be walking in the mall and then you suddenly see a dude who looks like the dude from the movie the Texas Chainsaw Massacre..holding hands or kissing a girl that looks like Paris Hilton...

It just makes no sense...

But it will..

The reason why you and your friends might see a lot of women dating guys who should be locked in a cage..is that the man that she is with pushed the right buttons in her head..

Now with all that said let me answer your question with a simple understandable answer....


You need to put yourself in the girl shoes for a moment and ask yourself what would I find attractive in a man?

Now let me let you know something that will make no sense...and I know women would disagree..

But your looks don't matter (well of course if you look like a zombie, well you'll probably be shunned from the public) lol....

But seriously your looks don't matter..Your personality...the person that you are matters to them..

Okay let's say that you are a guy who can dress up pretty good..and you have the latest clothes with the freshes hair cut..and the freshes shoes...

That's not all that is required of you..

Let me give you a short illustration..

Let's say you wanted to auditioin for a role in a play...You come to the audition wearing the right clothes for the part..so guess what you passed the audition..on looks wise..but now you need to prove that you can play the part...

With that said you can look good but have the personality where women find annoying, weird, or just too 'nice'.....like a little brother...

So now that you know that looks don't matter..

What clues are there that she can leave you, that you can know she has some interest in you that you could work off of?..

Well first remember 'actions speak louder than words'...

Lets examine a few body languages that you can pick up if you pay close attention

These are the following:

(These tips are credited to Maxim magazine)

Common signs of interest from girls, applicable to club, parties, bar-rooms, etc..

She compliments you on virtually anything. Women are used to receiving compliments, not giving them. So if she points out a positive characteristic, you’ve impressed her.

She’s disagreeing but laughing. Flirtatious sarcasm, as in “Yeah, right, like I believe that!” means she’s into you. If she weren’t, she’d simply “Uh-huh” you into oblivion.

She keeps asking you to repeat yourself. She’s not allowing the blasting music to come between the two of you. A suggestion of a quieter corner to talk in will be well received.

She laughs at your lame junior high school–level jokes. She’s obviously lust drunk. Or maybe just drunk or just plain stupid.

She touches you anywhere. You should touch her back in the same place she touches you, and let her up the ante, just to check if her touch was an accidental slip of the hand.

She stays put. If you run to drain the monster and she’s still where you left her when you return, you’re doing something right. Likewise if she comes back to you after she powders her nose, then that means she wants to stick around with you.

She doesn’t flinch. If you reach across her to grab a drink or an ashtray and she doesn’t pull back, she’s feeling physically comfortable with you. Don’t blow it, pal.

She says, “Hey, where ya goin’?” as you leave the bar. She’s angling for an invite. Even if she ultimately says no (she may not feel safe going off with you or may not want to ditch her friends) it’s a sign she’s game for a future hookup.

These are a few things to payattention to, when you are with a women..at any setting really..these tips really work in a lot of situations not just that of a parties etc..

Well next here are some basic body languages that you can look for when you are with a girl..

(These tips are credited to Fastseduction)

Here are a few positive body languages to look for:

Her lips:

Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.

Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth.

She wets her lips, some women use only a single-lip lick, wetting the upper or lower lip, while others run the tongue around the entire lip area.

She puts her fingernail between her teeth.

She protrudes her lips and thrust her breasts forward.

Her eyes:

She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.

She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, this is often combined with a smile and some eye contact.

She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.

While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.

Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile indicates interest in you.

Her hair:

She pushes her fingers through her hair. This can be one hand movement or more of a stroking motion.

She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.

She is throwing her hair back off her shoulders.

While she is seated:

She moves in time to the music, with her eyes on you.

She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.

She is sitting with her legs open.

She sits with her legs crossed in a manner to reveal her thigh.

Her legs are rubbing against each other.

Her legs are rubbing against the leg of the table.

Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

Her voice:

She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.

She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.

She laughs in unison with you.

In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

...These were a few body languages that I think...with my experience are the most common..

Well you might ask me well BlackHat...What should I do first of all to have this success with women..

Well easy...(this tip is credited to Dave DeAngelo)

You need to be Cocky and funny!!

Or another words you need to be Confident and Humurous!!

Well how can you use this tip with success..

Easy... use it in a balanced way

Let me explain this better to you..

If you went to a restaurant and you order a cheese burger and the chef puts too much salt on it...Would it taste good to you? Of course not!!

If the chef put too much pepper..Would it taste good to you? Of course not!!

But if the chef puts the right amount of salt and pepper on the Cheese Burger..Would it taste good? Yes, it would be just right!!

Now if you want to know what kind of confidence you should display, Watch some James Bond movies and notice how he talks, walks, and handles women..

And also notice and play close attention how smooth and cool he is even in the most extreme situations...

If you are still not sure what kind or confidence you should display..

Watch the movie Ocean's Eleven and notice the attitude and smoothness of the character of Brad Pitt...

Now if you want to know how to be funny...Watch some stand-up comedies...and watch some comedians like Dane Cook, Carlos Mencia, Dave Chapelle, Eddie Murphy

And notice how they entertain there audience, and notice how they bring out the jokes or punch lines with enthusiam and are very lively...

Now put these two things and use them in a balanced way...

Remember not too much 'Salt' and not too much 'Pepper'.... but use them at the right 'time' and the right 'amount'....

Now, here are some small and short advice to keep in mind and in time if you are interested...ask me further questions about it..

Okay you need to know that when talking to a girl your job is to listen and let her talk..don't cutt her off...women find that very annoying and they will hate you...

Stay away from conversation topics..

Like: Your last girlfriend, Marriage, Dating with her, problems in your life...

Remember she is not your Counselor nor are you!!

When talking to her don't make it sound like it's an interview

When you talk to her be positive, lively, and refreshing..

Make yourself the person who when she talks you she will be drawn to you not running away from you...

And Lastly BE A MAN!!!!!

I gave some Body Languages to look for plus some small tips to keep in mind that will help you along the way but how you take this information and use it or not, depends on you...don't think because for a few situations no results comes your way...

Remember don't give up...keep trying and pay attention to yourself so that when you go to the next girl ...you can learn from your mistakes from the last and try to improve...

Hope all goes well with you..

Regards,

BlackHat

Answer 2

Go and talk to her and tell her how you feel about her. That is the only way that you going to find out really. What is the worst thing that could happen? Your ego might be bruised, but at least the next time that you want to know if a girl is interested, you will be brave enough to approach her. So what are waiting for, go for it tiger.

Answer 3

That's not annoying dude! That's good! A girl likes a guy who can keep them entertained while there talking. A boring guy is more likely to turn a girl off. SO dont feel bad about starting the conversation. You said u text her alot so next time your texting her tell her how you fell. She may feel the same way but it is always better for the guy to make the move.

Answer 4

It's really hard to say, all girls are different and most of them like to play games. If she gives you a smile, talk to her and try to toss her a few hints yourself. If she asks you at all to hang out or asks you personal questions then she's presenting oppertunities for you to get to know her as well.

Answer 5

You have to talk to her to find out. See if she can communicate with you. See if this is for short term or is it long term. This will also tell you if both of you are made for each other.

Sometimes, they will just smile to show interest or be polite. You simply have to take the first step to find out.

Answer 6

You can only know if you ask her the question. Otherwise you are guessing if she is interested in you that's all. So it is advisable to make the first move in your case

Answer 7

depends on the girl herself. it could be that she's presenting opportunities for you both to know each other better. try to be casual and not rush into things.. she must have felt positive towards you, otherwise she's probably ignore you rather then flashing you one of her smiles.

Answer 8

If the girl is interested in you, she would always look towards your direction. Try this: http://www.futurescopes.com/dating/does_she_love_me.shtml

Answer 9

she would probably show interest in you.. try and get to talk to to you..
be closer..
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she'd probably always make sure she looked steller around you

Answer 10

Ask her out on a date.

Answer 11

If she talks about you alot.