2006-08-31 00:27:56 · 56 answers · asked by big booty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, your life will change forever.
No use beating yourself up for making such a huge mistake.
Most 14 year olds cannot relinquish their babys for adoption so make sure you have a good home care plan so you can FINISH high school.
Start collecting what you need...diapers and wipes, onesies, a baby doctor, and a waiver of visitation from the father - unless he's going to help pay for things.
Many blessings through this adventure...
2006-08-31 00:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Warrior 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im going to be staright with you......your going to get alot of mean answers here and there are alot of people who think "teen mums" are wrong, but let me tell you some thing. I am a teen mum and I couldnt be happier I have two year old son who I love an he has made me a better person. Sure I miss being able to go out and do stuff when I want to but there are more perks to being a parent then there are being a teenager. Being a parent doesnt mean you have to be certain age it depends on the kind of person you are. You can still do the things you want to, and you will have more determination to do for that wee one on the way. Children are a fantastic experience in life and if you have friends and family to help and support you then you'll pull through. Think hard about whats best for you and your baby. Dont listen to all the people who say its wrong, cause if I did then I wouldnt be the person I am today and that is one of the best bits about it. Good luck. x
2006-08-31 00:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by cherri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something only you can decide. You have to ask your self can you give the baby all the love and attention it needs and is your family there to help you with the hard times. You need to finish school and go to collage. If you can do that and give this child the care and love it needs then do that. If not you need to give the baby up for adoption. You need to think of how this baby will grow up with you in charge of it's life. You are still a kid yourself. If you have to depend on the system (government) to give you money to raise this child while you work and go to school that is OK, but please don't be a dead beat mom with no education or job. That is no way to raise a child. Also the dad has to pay child support to you to help raise the baby. I hope this gives you something to think about as you consider what is best not only for you but for the baby. Just remember you need a good education to give this child a good life. Also this is a very big responsibility to take on and babies take a lot of time. You will no longer have any freedom.
Good luck to you and what you decide to do.
Please do not abort the baby, there are a lot of people out there trying to have kids and can't if you can not keep the baby give it up for adoption
2006-08-31 00:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the first answer. I don't know if you are kidding or not, but if you are not, you have a few options. You could consider giving up the baby for adoption or you could raise the baby yourself with lots of help from family members. Either decision will be hard, but both are decisions you could be proud of. Is your family supportive? Does the father want contact with the child? Talk to a counselor at school who can put you in contact with services that are available to you....but please do not consider abortion. It is a decision you will regret later on.
2006-08-31 00:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your Mum know, or other family members who are supportive? is that Dad a simular age or much older? I would tell somebody asap about it you can trust to help you. This should be an adult in your family or the school nurse or counsellor. I hope that you have support as this is hard for you being so young. School is something you can do later exam wise, but your health and babies is most important now. Go to the Dr and ask his advice. You need regular check ups you know. Good luck
2006-08-31 00:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by Abigail 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it up for adoption.
You are too young in today's society to be able to parent that child as it needs. However, there are plenty of people out there who would love the chance to raise a baby but are unable to have their own.
Once that's done, stop having sex until you are actually ready to be a parent and are in a relationship where the other person is ready, to.
2006-08-31 03:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by glurpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in school that is for students with babies so you have good support and can learn how to be a parent. If your preg. at 14 you obviously didn't get it at home. It's very difficult position to be in but your only hope of making the best of it is to do the school thing. If your out of school and trying to make it on your own you will not only fail but it will be very difficult and even painfull. Get enrolled in the special school today so there is no lapse in your education.
2006-08-31 00:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by EMAILSKIP 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
KEEP THE BABY. Take the responsibility. I know you're still young and you think that you can't handle this kind of situation but you have to be strong for the sake of the baby that's growing inside you. Ask for your parent's help. They will be disappointed at first and i hope not for long coz' you badly need their support this time. Goodluck.
2006-08-31 00:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by Damngorgeous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im just here to tell u it can be done i had a baby at 14 im now 23 hes 9 as long as u have someone to stand behind u its all going to work out whatever u do stay in school
2006-08-31 00:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by april_mcmillan2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you should sign up
to get reduced food for your child
and definetly try and get a job but that
might be hard you being only 13
bu if you are going to get no support raising
this child then i would probably pt it up for adoption
and whatever you do stay in school
you wont go to far without an education
next time use birth control
2006-08-31 00:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by 09grad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋