he hasnt been around for 2 years. he paid child support until he just had another child and my new bf takes up most slack. she has seen her daddy a few times and she loves him and now she has nothing to do with new bf. what to do.
2006-08-30 23:40:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no man is perfect on this earth all of us tend to make mistakes....... some learn from them and some dont care whats wrong or right some people do not want to change for others...
but ever if we make mistake and realize it we always ask god for a second chance.............. but no human being can be in gods place and expect that we can give a second chance to anyone its only god........ but still do not be harsh and consult ur daughter and if shes matured enough let her decide after all no one in this world can take the place of father and mother no matter what it be......... god bless and good luck.
2006-08-31 02:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. You're probably scared she'll want to go live with her dad too, right?? I suggest you let her see him. If you refuse, she'll only take it for the worst and that's when things start getting worse. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. Tell her she can see her daddy as long as she respects your current bf. Also tell her dad that he must continue paying child support. Don't threaten him or anything. Just let him know that just cuz he has a new baby doesn't mean is other one's forgotten. If he still wont pay, talk to your bf about taking the case to court. He's also in this!
Good luck!
2006-08-31 07:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dahv Inchi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hun this of course isn't about you or the new bf it's about the well fair of your child and I would suggest seeing how I grew up not getting to see my dad that the best thing to do is to let her see him the finacial matter is between you and your ex not you, your ex your child or the new boyfriend. Don't keep him from her because of the length of time he had not been around because if you do in the end when she gets older to understand ( and they do) she will rescent you for that let the ex mess up on his own but at the same time let her now that she has alot of support from you and your bf. She will hurt more if you hold her back from him then if you just let her see him after all that is her dad, and every child needs both parents.
2006-08-31 06:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by star110772000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something about daddies and daughters. My dad was never around, but yet I wanted to see him all the time. I think we got to see him once a month if he didn't have anything to do. My stepdad was always there. I still feel like I am a daddy's girl. I hate it because he only wants to see my girls when he has nothing to do. It is a hard call to make. She will eventually see the truth about her dad, but she has to, not you. I gave my dad one last chance in August, for my 9 year old's birthday party. He went out of town that morning with is girlfriend. I have not called him and have no desire to for the first time in a long time. Good luck.
2006-08-31 06:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by toricp3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he should not be stopping child support to your child only because he just had another. He needs to continue paying you child support. Get a court order if you have to.
That being said, if he IS paying child support, and no court has found him unfit to visit his child, you really have no right to keep your child from seeing her daddy. He has finiancially assisted raising her, and even though he might not have seen her in 2 years, does not mean he doesnt have the right to see her.
But first, please make sure he continues to pay child support. Otherwise, he has lost his right to see her. Boyfriend or not, your daughter is not his responsibility unless he adopts her.
Hope that helps.
2006-08-31 06:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her see her father, this is critical in a childs life. He odviously paid child support, and if he is willing to keep in constant and see his daughter more often then go for it. But first please have a serious talk with him regarding your daughter's well being. Explain to him if he does want a part in her life he must keep it constant and see her at least once or twice a month and keep active in her life. This will be beneficial for both in the long run. A child needs her father so she doesn't ever feel abandon. She will resent you in the long run if you keep him away from her when he really wants a part in her life.
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2006-08-31 06:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by pretty_lesbiian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he will always be the child's daddy, remember the child is Innocent but there the ones who gets hurt through it all yes if the child wants to see her dad let that be her decision if she doesn't then both of you should respect her wishes discuss this with her let her make up her mind don't give her any clue to how you really feel
2006-08-31 09:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by fancey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her see him. If he won't see her, then tell her gently that he is busy, and will come by when he can. Offer to help write a letter to him if he won't see her. Don't punish the child for the father's actions. She will make that decision when she is old enough to comprehend the situation. And also, encourage your new BF to be there as much as possible for her.
Good luck!
2006-08-31 06:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by rouschkateer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no serious thing allow the girl to see her Daddy since he supported in bringing up the girl. And if she finds out that you are stopping her from seeing her Dad that might be war between you and her.
2006-08-31 07:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by Adababy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking into account what kind of father he is as to what kind of contact you let her have with him. But he is her natural father and I believe that it is in her best interests for her to have contact with him and the chance to have a father/daughter relationship. It's not your daughters fault that you and her father are not together. How your daughter treats your new bf will depend on how you hand the situation. Don't make her feel obliged, if your bf treats her well in time she will naturally treat him as she should, kids are very intuitive. Trying to have good communication with her father will help alot, because it will be his attitude as well that will have some kind of impression on how she thinks. Good Luck.
2006-08-31 06:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋