I'm not goin to beat around the bush I'm still in love with my boyfriend but he was my bestfriend first . It didnt work out he cheated on me but i cant help but stil love him he has been my friend for years i dont kno what i should do should i stop bein his friend and just move on with my life or just be his friend and try to make it like it use to be ?
2006-08-30 23:30:27 · 19 answers · asked by K3K3 aka L!cK M3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, I know its been hard for you to be in that position. We all know that "lovers cannot be friends but friends can be lovers right? if you already forgiven him even if he cheated on you.. who am I to tell you to just move on and not be a friend to him... because ot all cases are applicable to what the saying tells us ("lovers cannot be friends but friends can be lovers ).. its just an idea..
But all of these decisions are for you to decide. You have to follow your heart's desire. BEcause its you who will confront with the feeling of regrets if ever you did the wrong decision. What am I suppose to say to you is.. Just follow what you want. if you are comfortable to have him as your friend and be whatever you used to be, and be it.. as long as you are happy for what your're doing... its not really be to do the right thing. its just do the thing you want to do..
get it? but be ready for the heartaches girl.. coz there will be the time that he will introduce to you a girl that he is currently dating with.. just stay put and ready your heart...
2006-08-30 23:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by LAdy_psychology 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well it sounds like you truly do love him, and well like you said he was your best friend first, before you decided to test out something on a higher level of a relationship with him. And well he failed that. So well you said he was your best friend, well that's really great, he failed as a boyfriend, but did extremely well as a friend. You shouldn't just get rid of him like that. I mean there are tons of people who's best friends are their ex's whether they were that way before their relationship had started, or it just became that way. So well don't just get rid of him, and well really if you did, you would feel extremely depressed, you said you love him, well you can't get rid of love easily, if you want to get really logical, you can never get rid of feelings of love if they were truly pure, because the thing about love is that it's forever, once your baby brother came into the world, and you developed those feelings of love for him, that you would die for him, protect him, teach him, etc...
Hey that doesn't go away, no matter what he does you, in the end you just smile about it eventually and still can say you love him. It's the same with loving anything else. So well try to see if he can still be the best friend that he used to be, yes it will be really ackward to have him as your best friend now, but well you now know that the best he will ever be for you is a really close friend, because through that test of him being your boyfriend, you got to see that he can't do it. So at least you can be one of the few people to say you took the risk, got your heart broken, and your still alive to tell the story, along with fix it so that your ex can go back where he belongs as your best friend. I mean only if you want to as well, because it's your life, and the people you hang around influence the kind of lifestyle you will live.
2006-08-31 06:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you to stop loving someone, sometimes not even yourself. But truth be told, can you really go back to just being friends? That's usually a step most friends-turned-couple can't return to. If you can without the constant reminder of what he did and the hurt you experienced as a result of that, go ahead and try the friendship route again. In my opinion, it will only continue to hurt you until you've had a chance to "heal". Most people can not do that if the person who did it is always there. Maybe you should consider distancing yourself from him until you can make a logical decision based on your head, not your heart. Good luck to ya!!
2006-08-31 06:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him then you can't be his friend cuz we both know that if he finds another girlfriend you will be hurt. If you really want to be his friend, then you should forget about your past relationship with him. Maybe he only wanted to be friends with you and nothing more thats why he cheated on you or maybe he's like that.
2006-08-31 06:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by booboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop being his friend and move on with your life. Why try to be friend and have some effort to make it use to be? He is the one cheated and he must be the one trying to fix it out. You shouldn't do it on behalf on him. If he does it, you can re-think.
2006-08-31 06:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by duyangelmis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't fell in his game,move on with your life. If he cheated on you, he didn't love you . It's hurt but it's true. He didn't appreciate your friendship at first, even your love.Meet other people, go to a club focus your energy in something make you feel happy with yourself.
2006-08-31 06:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by galoc37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is your best judge here... just wait and see how you feel after a couple weeks away from him, or months even. But I'd move on as far as a relationship goes.
2006-08-31 06:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by JP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you but I think you will never bring back what it used to be.. if you want you can continue to be his friend but I think you should forget him as your lover.. If it didn't work before, how sure are you that if you try to bring it back it will work again? let go and move on..
2006-08-31 06:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by yummy _me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
2006-08-31 06:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he betrayed you ? But if you think that he is again going to cheat you then you need not to think about him any more. But you like him as a best freind so think what thing he done best with you . You will get your answer.
Im sorry if any thing is worse.
2006-08-31 06:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by kellen_de 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋