hi everyone! If u see this please dont leave it without answering bcoz I suffering frm a great tension.......?

Question

2day I had a function at my school.It was our class who had the full responsibility of conducting this program.I was asked 2 anchor the show a few days back by my teachers but I told them I can't.Actually I was waiting 4 such a chance,but I dont know what made me 2 leave the chance.Again, I was asked 2 participate in a groupsong but I wasted that chance too.Again there was a contest in which we were 2 wear traditional dresses and it was just like a beauty contest.One teacher put my name 4 that but I compelled her 2 cut my name.And after the contest everyone asked me why I didnt participated though I had the right looks.It seems that I wasted 3 chances 2 develop my personality.I know oppurtunities wont knock twice at the door but I just misused all the oppurtunities without a single excuse 2 make.Please say something 2 put me in my right mind.

Answer 1

Next time go for it and don't give into your subconcious fears, I've lost countless opportunities that could have made my life bliss, and I tend to make the mistake over and over again but since I started trying to address the issue I make a lot less mistakes, get a grip and think clearly and in to the future. Don't think too much, just do it! That's the best way, if you think too much then things go wrong.

Answer 2

Just don't do that again. Next time, take the opportunities. If no more are upcoming soon, then create your own. Try talking to your classmates and teachers more often. One bout of shyness or anxiety isn't going to be bad for you as long as you are recognizing you need to step up and participate. You'll have many opportunities to develop your personality throughout life--it's the sort of thing that does "knock twice." Grab the next chance. Good luck.

Answer 3

You need to work at building up your self confidence and self esteem sometimes this is best done by just accepting the oppourtunities you are offered and just going for them without thinking too much about them you will feel so much more confident after doing them. To increase your confidence try bachs rescue remedy which you can by over the counter in most chemists or healthfood shops or try putting yourself into a hypnosis course to change your way of thinking so negatively internally.Good luck.

Answer 4

How would these three activities "develop your personality"?
These seem like brainless group activities aimed at making you one of the herd. I personally would not have participated. And that is my personality.

Maybe it is your personality as well? Maybe you don't like group things, being part of a crowd? Or maybe you don't like being in the limelight, where people will watch you and judge you?

There is NOTHING wrong with not participating.
You need to get to know your self better, what you like and don't like.

And don't worry: there will be more opportunities -- and DIFFERENT types of opportunities.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Don't worry - we all make mistakes. And who says you made a mistake? Maybe you made the right decision! There will be other opportunities even if you have to work for them. This particular time may not have been the right time for you.

If you feel like you have made a mistake, all you have to do is learn from it and make the most of the opportunity next time. No big deal!

Answer 6

you do not have to develop your personality . It is yours already. Just because you dont want to join in does not make you odd. It just means you dont want to do what other people think you should.
You prefer to make your own decisions. If you are a loner its ok., but somehow today, they are trying to make everyone "sociable" and trying to make some you think there is something wrong if you dont want to join in.
I am a rugged individualist myself and have never taken the slightest bit of notice of other people in anything. Just do yo ur own thing and ignore everyone who wants you to be just like everyone else
Stop worrying , you are just being you and its nobody else's damn business. you did not "miss opportunities" you simply were not interested.
all you ha ve to do in this world is please yourself, other people and their expectations just take second place until you become a parent --- then everything changes. and you will have to consider other (small) people!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

You just did what a lot of people used to call...Stage fright"....many actresses and actors had to overcome this fear and they went on to be successful people in life. just because you were blessed with good looks doesn't assure you that you have the confidence to go along with it...You should take some speech or drama classes to develop your confidence in front of people...I was very fortunate, I loved to get up in front of people..I think my secret was, that I knew that they were no better or worse than me, at least that is what i told myself...keep trying

Answer 8

Hey, dont beat yourself up, its ok to turn things down that you dont feel comfortable with. So you missed those opportunities, your young, n you'll get more. i think its more important that you build your confidence and self esteem up first. Hang out with friends that give you confidence and boost your ego, and in time youll find your confidence and achieve whatever it is you want to achieve! take care girl, xx

Answer 9

don't beat yourself up over this. I can see you learned a lesson from this and next time I bet you will jump in there and take part. There will be more opportunities for you to shine!

Answer 10

there's always a reason why people don't grab the chance whenever they get one... maybe it's because their instincts tell them that they're not ready for that thing yet. just don't fuss about it... you will have you moment at the right time. just wait for it...